If your S/O passed away, how long would you wait to date again?

notfred

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Originally posted by: coolred
WTF, who would actually know the answer to that?

A bunch of people who've never even had a girlfriend are about to start making up answers...
 

stormbv

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This reminds me of the Seinfeld episode when Susan dies and George calls Alissa Milano. "I have the funeral this weekend, but I'm free after that. " :p
 

atom

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I'm not necessarily asking for a finite time, it can be measured emotionally.
 

Ulfwald

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I would begin dating again when I knew I could look at another woman without comparing her to my wife, as well as when I know that the heartache and the lonliness I felt would no longer make me miss her everynight.
 

Isla

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In my mind, I imagine it would be a year. But it could also just as easily be 6 months or 6 years. There is no real way to know how I would feel and how I would react.

When my aunt died, my uncle started dating about 3 months after she passed on. Keep in mind he was in his 70's at the time.

The beautiful thing is that we all knew that Aunt Bea (a jolly Portuguesa from Boston) would want him to get out and make new friends. I can just see her saying, "Frank, don't just sit here! Go bowling or something!"

Celebrate life while you have the chance.
 

Koing

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Been with my gf for a year now. I love her a lot.

I would be sad about her passing away:( but I would hit the town asap. She would want me to be happy and not to be in a state of sadness. Don't really know. I know that she would want me to be happy though.

Koing
 

Ime

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I couldn't even begin to imagine losing my wife. That thought alone stops me cold. :(
 

Tinkerhell

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If my boyfriend (future husband) ever died, I wouldn't marry ever again. I wouldn't even date anyone. I love him too much to ever be with another person. He's my soulmate, and we'll be together forever, in life and in death.
 

trmiv

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I'd probably move on, get another S/O, but there would be a 10 minute period there where I would be inconsolable. ;)
 

I don't know. I can't affirm how I would react to a situation that has not occurred.

However, I will say this in response to a hypothetical situation: If my significant other died and we were in good terms, I would take my time to get involved again. This means for at least one year I'll be free of any involvements. If there were kids, it would take longer. I want them to be able to adjust fairly. If I didn't have any kids, then I probably would just take approximately one year or possibly 6 months or more to adjust.

I don't know how I would feel really. I may be so in love that I would never again get involved with someone else; or I may just be so depressed and afraid I'll never find someone that good. You know when it comes to matters of the emotion, it's difficult to control it. Having noted my nature, I can see myself never getting married again if I were so in love with him, especially if I had kids with him. I think I can say something similar about a divorce too, though.
 

Rogue

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I've already told my wife that if she died tomorrow, I'd take a few months to train up, and try out for the Army Special Forces. I told her that if she's dead, then I might as well live vicariously and wipe out bad guys while I'm at it.