If your best friend was dating someone and you thought he or she could do much better, would you tell him or her?

[her209]

Let me put it out there right now that tt doesn't just have to be in the looks department, in case that's what you were thinking about. It could be career goals, personality, etc.

Would you still butt in?

 

[Judgement]

I would bust his balls at every opportunity. Life's too short to settle.

 

[krunchykrome]

No one is in any position to judge that except your friend.

 

[Reckoner]

You would be way out of line.

 

[fleshconsumed]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
No one is in any position to judge that except your friend.

x2

 

[Compton]

Yeah I would tell them. Would they listen? No.

 

[n yusef]

Yeah I would. Be sure to do it before they're together for too long though.

 

[Zaitsevs]

Originally posted by: fleshconsumed

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
No one is in any position to judge that except your friend.

x2

and most likely, they won't believe you. and you won't be friends anymore.


tension..

 

[TheSiege]

there is a friend/buddy/co-worker of mine that i harass almost daily about this, its the first girl he has ever kissed, she uses him, he makes like 8 bucks an hour and she is demanding a 4k ring, he has never even lived on his own, and he is 22.


besides look at that movie, saving silverman, his buddys were right werent they?

 

[RbSX]

I tell my buddy constantly, his girlfriend, in my opinion.. is hideous.

Beyond appearance, she's a control freak and a killjoy.

 

[theprodigalrebel]

If they were dating a certified b!tch/a**hole that everyone (except them) can see, I would tell them what I think.

Now are they compatible, made for each other, up to each others standards blah blah blah is for them to decide. I don't butt noses there.

 

[dug777]

If i was a interfering big nosed git who was incapable of minding my own business, sure i'd bother him about it all the time

If they were gunna get hitched after five mins together, i'd feel obliged to speak up, but other than that, mind your own GD'm business

 

[Spacehead]

Originally posted by: Zaitsevs

Originally posted by: fleshconsumed

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
No one is in any position to judge that except your friend.

x2

and most likely, they won't believe you. and you won't be friends anymore.

Until after the divorce.

It's been my experience that people won't listen when friends tell them they're in a bad relationship. They only see what they want to see.
Then after the split/divorce they ask "why didn't somebody say something?"

 

[Perknose]

A true friend tells his friends the hard truths as well as the easy ones, but in love -- pause for dramatic sigh -- as in video cards or the eternally vexing choice between boxers or briefs, each man must finally keep his own counsel.

It is ever so.

Therefore, after making HIS opinion known beyond doubt, a true friend thereafter shuts the hell up and gets with the program, or moves on.

 

[TheSiege]

if its a self destructive relationship then i think you are obligated to speak up, if they were abusing drugs or alcohol, you would say something wouldnt you? its the same thing, they are with someone that is not letting them live up to their potentional and sometimes albeit rare, it will make a difference

 

[Exterous]

I think you're always obliged to speak up. That doesn't mean you have to be an @ss about it. How much you speak up depends on his relationship with her. If she's a hoe whos using (and most likely end up hurting him) then say so at every opportunity. In my view, being a good friend is looking out for their best interests not necessarily your friendship. If shes just a big pain in the @ss then only mention it once in a while

 

[dug777]

There's a huge difference between it being an abusive/destructive relationship, and what the OP, bless her heart, is talking about, and yeah, like i said before, and old Perky said, MYOB you nosey gits

 

[TheSiege]

Originally posted by: dug777
There's a huge difference between it being an abusive/destructive relationship, and what the OP, bless her heart, is talking about, and yeah, like i said before, and old Perky said, MYOB you nosey gits

well if someone was in an abusive relationship dont you think they could do much better?

 

[dug777]

Originally posted by: TheSiege

Originally posted by: dug777
There's a huge difference between it being an abusive/destructive relationship, and what the OP, bless her heart, is talking about, and yeah, like i said before, and old Perky said, MYOB you nosey gits

well if someone was in an abusive relationship dont you think they could do much better?

Sure

But what our sweet little OP is talking about is fugly blokes/chicks if your mate is a looker, people with crappy jobs and/or no ambition or goals in life while your mate is on a fastrack to Wall St, people with 'trailer-trash mates' if your mate is well heeled, people with shrewish personalities if your mate is the most easy going/laid back person in the world, and so on in that vein, if i'm not very much mistaken (and i'm not ).

 

[amddude]

I have tried talking to a friend once about this and got rebuffed big time. People "in love" don't listen to logic.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
No one is in any position to judge that except your friend.

QFT

If the girl is way out of line, she treats him with disrespect and even berates him, and the guy doesn't see it, I might tell him straight up the girl is no good for him, but ultimately the choice is up to the guy.

My best friend went out with a girl for 4 years, and she ended up breaking his heart. He still doesn't see that she had a poisonous attitude that affected the way he saw the world. She was stuck-up. Ultimately some of his friends told him in the relationship when she verbally accosted him in front of everyone, but he still didn't see it. That was the only time it was mentioned. In the end, it really is his choice.

If your best friend is in a relationship that is not good for his character, then tell him. If you personally just don't think the girl is a 10 (in your head), but she is nice and treats the guy fairly, keep it to yourself and butt out.