If you were in love with your best friend would you tell her?

[Koing]

just tell her has she had feelings for you in a more then *friends* type of way.

If she says yes then shes game. If no then its no and if your good friends you will be friends again and then you are free to play the field

 

[Pepsei]

it's been 26 days since this post...is that the reason you cut youself?

just curious

 

[yllus]

I want to know what happened too. Too much of the time we end up giving advice around here and then never hear how it ends. How did it go?

In case you haven't acted yet, I'd gradually do more and more date-type things with the girl. As much as you might want to profess your love for her loud and clear, that has the nasty habit of frightening off mose people.

Trust me and the other guys on this one - she *will* begin to distance herself from you if you just come out and say it and she doesn't feel exactly the same way - at our age we all talk about relationships a hell of a lot of the time. That venue of conversation is going to get very uncomfortable very quickly if she knows you have feelings for her and they're not reciprocated.

In short, be careful but you MUST act.

 

[b0mbrman]

Yup...no reason putting the friendship in jeopardy for something that might not work out

 

[Grommet5]

NO!!!!! don't do it, unless you want to lose a friend.

Its good to have a girl as a best friend, because you could always use her to get to her friends.

 

[dbzwukan]

don't be a i love you and tell us what happen

 

[Pepsei]

dude you're harsh

 

[Robert01]

C'mon Platonic Mod, keep this one up top. Like his friendship, doing so will end the thread properly. If that wasn't the case, then the thread is just beginning.

 

[Dragnov]

<< DON'T TELL HER !!!!!!!!! Man i miss my best freind >>



Same here. Don't tell her, unless for some odd reason you like to crash and burn. These ones are stingers for the rest of your life.

 

[KatLei]

Lost three close friends cuz of that. One would think I'd learn my lesson but oh well. I did hook up the third time but ah it didn't work out either.
Don't... do... it.

 

[Orsorum]

"Tangy flavor"
It is important that your platonic friend not take you too seriously. To do this, and to prove the strength of your friendship, throw in a few friendly jibes, especially when you need to remind yourself of the distance you need to keep. Point out some of her more obvious character flaws, then say, "But I love you anyway" or "That's why I love you."

Example: She says, "You've been stalking me. I've gotten a restraining order and a gun."

You say:
"Oh, right, like I really followed you into the girl's locker-room and camped outside your window all night. You've got a really high opinion of yourself, missy!"
Or, "You're paranoid. That's why I love you."

Or, "Oh, right, like you've really got a gun...aiiiiyyyyeeee!!! DON'T SHOOT!!"

 

[NeoV]

you should tell her

I didn't & wondered about it for years....

 

[454Casull]

I name Koing as Post Necromancer.

 

[Cheers912]

My boyfriend and I started off as best friends, and i really think itis better to start off like that! Good Luck and just roll with it!
Buh-bye

 

[Pepsei]

ah so you crash and burned ? from the lack of response....


don't worry laddy... there's more best friends in the sea.

 

[pyonir]

i didn't read through this entire thread. so i'll just throw out my personal experience.

I had a best friend that i fell in love with, she was awesome. i battled with hearing her talk about other guys she liked, a guy she dated for a while and was infatuated with, and just being her friend. i couldn't stand it anymore so i just flat out told her one night. wanna know what happened? well put it this way, i haven't spoken with her in over 2 years. i don't even know what state she lives in. it just doesn't work. if she likes you, she'll come to you. if you can't take it anymore don't tell her, just try to not hang out with her as much or find a woman that you like as much. if i ever got to be that good of friends with a woman again, i would never tell her if i fell in love with her. it only makes yourself feel like crap and makes the relationship weird and dissolve.

 

[Koing]

<< I name Koing as Post Necromancer. >>



I was searching through a friends message on here and relised that the thread starter didn't post anything to follow it through or said what happened........

 

[SinNisTeR]

i dont feel like reading, anyone want to summarize for me pretty please?

 

[Pepsei]

weekly bump.