I have been married for 9 years( 15 years together). Started having problems 2 years ago. I was asked to move out, so she could" have some time to herself, and start to put our relationship back together". I have been living in a 15x30 apartment in the rear of my shop for the last 14 months, while my wife has had my house, my dog, and my neighbors. I have tried many times to hook up, and try to have some fun, but was always getting blown off. She was always too busy, seeing her family, etc. 2 weeks ago, I tell her we need to talk, and that I wanted to come up to the house and talk. She called me back, and said she wanted to meet in a "neutral location". I said" WTF!!!!". Went to the house, and was told she doesn't love me any more, hasn't loved me for the past 2 years, and is flying out to see her new boyfriend for 4 days, and wants a divorce, but we should use a mediator, to not get lawyers involved
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When I used to play out in bands, and had lots of girlfriends, I 'm sure I was a jerk, and wasn't honest with some of them. HOWEVER, as I grew older, I realised I would NEVER want that done to me, so when I got married, I had my wife make a pact with me, so that if either of us felt we had to go outside the relationship for love/sex, we would be man/woman enough to tell the other party it was over. Guess my wife forgot that part. Found out she has been fooling aroung behind my back for about the last year or so. I am now in the middle of negotioting with her lawyer, as she feels I am not entitled to 1/2 the house. Apparently my wife felt she was 100% sure I wouldn't find out. ( just how many small UPS boxes does it take to mail a 5'4" female to the 4 corners of the US?????)