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If you could do your wedding all over again, what would you change?

We are in the final stages of wedding planning and are paying for the entire thing ourselves. It will be $10k total which I'm pretty proud of given the fact that other friends who are getting married are blowing $50-100k on their weddings and we did ours on a shoestring budget.

I've been asking different people what they wish they could change or do differently if they could do their wedding day all over again. One coworker said she wishes she'd spent more on a quality photographer and other one said he wishes he hadn't wasted money on a videographer.

What would you have done differently if anything? What are you happiest that you spent money on and what do you wish you hadn't spent any money on at all?
 
Originally posted by: MrsBugi
We are in the final stages of wedding planning and are paying for the entire thing ourselves. It will be $10k total which I'm pretty proud of given the fact that other friends who are getting married are blowing $50-100k on their weddings and we did ours on a shoestring budget.

I've been asking different people what they wish they could change or do differently if they could do their wedding day all over again. One coworker said she wishes she'd spent more on a quality photographer and other one said he wishes he hadn't wasted money on a videographer.

What would you have done differently if anything? What are you happiest that you spent money on and what do you wish you hadn't spent any money on at all?
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I'm not married, but if this is even close to the norm I'm just going to elope.
 
Originally posted by: ADDAvenger
Originally posted by: MrsBugi
We are in the final stages of wedding planning and are paying for the entire thing ourselves. It will be $10k total which I'm pretty proud of given the fact that other friends who are getting married are blowing $50-100k on their weddings and we did ours on a shoestring budget.

I've been asking different people what they wish they could change or do differently if they could do their wedding day all over again. One coworker said she wishes she'd spent more on a quality photographer and other one said he wishes he hadn't wasted money on a videographer.

What would you have done differently if anything? What are you happiest that you spent money on and what do you wish you hadn't spent any money on at all?
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I'm not married, but if this is even close to the norm I'm just going to elope.
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The norm/average is about $30-40k for a wedding these days. Neither of our parents are in a financial position to help us out (my dad is a GM retiree 🙁 ) so we are doing it on our own, as affordably and as close to what we have in mind as possible.
 
Originally posted by: MrsBugi
We are in the final stages of wedding planning and are paying for the entire thing ourselves. It will be $10k total which I'm pretty proud of given the fact that other friends who are getting married are blowing $50-100k on their weddings and we did ours on a shoestring budget.

I've been asking different people what they wish they could change or do differently if they could do their wedding day all over again. One coworker said she wishes she'd spent more on a quality photographer and other one said he wishes he hadn't wasted money on a videographer.

What would you have done differently if anything? What are you happiest that you spent money on and what do you wish you hadn't spent any money on at all?
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My parents spent less than $100 on their wedding. 😉 (e-penis++)

My mom, quite handy with needlework, made her own dress, and her mom provided a bouquet of flowers; my dad brought some kind of suit/coat thing of his own. Some family and friends were invited; food was potluck. Just a nice little wedding ceremony, with a Justice of the Peace presiding. 🙂



Super-expensive weddings like those $50k-$100k things you mention are amusing to me. Yes, the more money you throw at it, the more likely it is to last. :laugh:
Damn, for $100k, it had better last for at least 4.7 lifetimes.


 
Originally posted by: Farang
The bride.

I haven't been married but this is what I expect my answer to be in 20 years.
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Quoted for future reference. 😛

Posted by Farang, 4/9/2029
It seems the Missus found something online from a long time ago, just a post on a forum, not even my epic porn stash, and she wasn't too happy about it. I guess I had this one coming. 🙁
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Originally posted by: Jeff7
Originally posted by: MrsBugi
We are in the final stages of wedding planning and are paying for the entire thing ourselves. It will be $10k total which I'm pretty proud of given the fact that other friends who are getting married are blowing $50-100k on their weddings and we did ours on a shoestring budget.

I've been asking different people what they wish they could change or do differently if they could do their wedding day all over again. One coworker said she wishes she'd spent more on a quality photographer and other one said he wishes he hadn't wasted money on a videographer.

What would you have done differently if anything? What are you happiest that you spent money on and what do you wish you hadn't spent any money on at all?
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My parents spent less than $100 on their wedding. 😉 (e-penis++)

My mom, quite handy with needlework, made her own dress, and her mom provided a bouquet of flowers; my dad brought some kind of suit/coat thing of his own. Some family and friends were invited; food was potluck. Just a nice little wedding ceremony, with a Justice of the Peace presiding. 🙂



Super-expensive weddings like those $50k-$100k things you mention are amusing to me. Yes, the more money you throw at it, the more likely it is to last. :laugh:
Damn, for $100k, it had better last for at least 4.7 lifetimes.
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That's impressive, when did they get married and how many people were there?

I don't get super expensive weddings either. I saw a $1,000,000 wedding on some wedding show and the couple fought constantly and looked so miserable. Money really can't buy happiness but it can buy a $10,000 cake and $100,000 worth of flowers.

My friends are going to be the photographers, my aunt is making the flowers, my fiance's father is giving us the venue for free (he works at a school so it will be at the school), a friend is making the 3-tier buttercream cake for free, the groom-to-be is getting a free tux from Men's Warehouse, I got my dress off ebay so we are paying for so far:

- Food/catering (the most expensive, 1/2 the budget)
- Bridesmaid dresses on sale for $20 each from target
- Invitations and rsvp cards from vistaprint for $95 total including envelopes
- Church/officiant ($500)
- Dance floor rental ($400)
- Marriage license ($80)
- Day-of wedding coordinator ($300)
- Band ($500, we are paying for our friends to play and flying them out)
- Photographers ($500, they are friends and we bought their plane tickets out)
- Videographer ($750 for 5 hours, bargained down $1000)
- Flowers/centerpieces (aunt arranging them so we are buying them from a market, $600)
- Wedding website ($10, domain name via namecheap and free site design and mywedding.com)
- Wedding programs and placecards (TBD)
 
I'd tell my mother-in-law to STFU, because there is no reason to have someone I don't even know sing at my wedding. I wasn't even paying attention to what they were singing, because all I could think about was how hot it was. Having someone you know sing at your wedding is generally a bad idea as well, because most people are not very good at singing (and worse, they don't realize it).

Making sure everyone knew what they needed to be doing and when they needed to do it would be good too. When the guests started showing up, no one was waiting to show them to their seats. And apparently no one told the string quartet that they had to move inside for the cocktail hour, and I don't think they could have possibly moved any slower.
 
Originally posted by: MrsBugi
- Day-of wedding coordinator ($300)
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This is well worth it if he/she is good. Ours was supplied by the facility, and we wouldn't have even thought to hire someone otherwise. He was good though, he made the day much less stressful than it might have been.

- Photographers ($500, they are friends and we bought their plane tickets out)
- Videographer ($750 for 5 hours, bargained down $1000)
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Show of hands - who has watched their wedding video more than twice? Nobody! Have friends video tape, have a professional take the photos. You will value great photos far more than you will value a great video.

If your friend is a really good wedding photographer, then he's giving you an incredible wedding gift. :thumbsup:

 
RUN, MOTHERFUCKER...RUN!! IT'S A LIFE SENTENCE!!

Gawd...sometimes it's hard to believe that it's been 34 years in June.

Other times, it's hard to believe it's ONLY been 34 years...😀
 
What the fuck? $50-100K for a WEDDING? Are they fucking INSANE?

Fuck it, I'm having a cheap, redneck wedding. I'm going to set up some plastic outdoor furniture, throw some burgers and hot dogs on the grill, hire a Lynyrd Skynyrd cover band, and buy a shit ton of PBR. I'm willing to bet the grand total would be under $1K.
 
The bride (or her kids).

Other than that it was perfect in every way - seriously. The ceremony and the reception were in the same building - so no traveling. No excruciatingly extensive photo shoot. Great food (beef, chicken and veggie) and service, open bar that wasn't abused. The few relatives who are aholes didn't come.

I guess this proves you can be 99% right and still fail.
 
Big weddings are just stupid cus now-a-days, the parents don't pay for it so if you're trying to be "traditional", tradition dictates that parents of the woman pay for the wedding. Big wedding are a big mistake cus going into a marriage with debt is the most idiotic thing anyone can do since money is the number 1 reason why people divorce anyways so when people say that money doesn't matter cus I love the person, I just laugh.
 
Originally posted by: MrsBugi
That's impressive, when did they get married and how many people were there?
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They were married.....hm, I'm not sure. Well over 27 years ago. Still together. 🙂
20 people were there.

Food: Potluck.
Dress: $15 for the materials.
Invitations: Don't know, but I'd have to guess that they were done by phone or simply hand-written and mailed.
Location: Outside the meeting place of a hiking club they belonged to (no cost).
Justice of the Peace: $7.
Photographs: Taken by those in attendance; if I had to guess, probably my grandmother primarily. 🙂

My mom's comment on it: "I prefer my style of wedding. No stress. Very simple."

 
Originally posted by: MrsBugi
Originally posted by: ADDAvenger
Originally posted by: MrsBugi
We are in the final stages of wedding planning and are paying for the entire thing ourselves. It will be $10k total which I'm pretty proud of given the fact that other friends who are getting married are blowing $50-100k on their weddings and we did ours on a shoestring budget.

I've been asking different people what they wish they could change or do differently if they could do their wedding day all over again. One coworker said she wishes she'd spent more on a quality photographer and other one said he wishes he hadn't wasted money on a videographer.

What would you have done differently if anything? What are you happiest that you spent money on and what do you wish you hadn't spent any money on at all?
Click to expand...

I'm not married, but if this is even close to the norm I'm just going to elope.
Click to expand...

The norm/average is about $30-40k for a wedding these days. Neither of our parents are in a financial position to help us out (my dad is a GM retiree 🙁 ) so we are doing it on our own, as affordably and as close to what we have in mind as possible.
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That is some real BS Lifetime-Oxygen-"Wedding Gown Magazine" hype. There is absolutely no reason to spend that kind of money on a wedding.

40 people
Amazing photographer (We got 800 pics from him with full rights)
DJ
Reception at one of the classier locations in town
4 tier cake
= ~$4000

Our wedding was great. I only wish I had had more time to slow down and enjoy it. Our original budget was planned for 10k, but we decided that spending more money on what in all reality is a party was kind of stupid... we cut the guest list to the people that we really wanted to be there - none of this "Well, he was my best friend in high school... I hope he didn't die or something... I haven't talked to him in 10 years" crap.

Turn off Platinum Weddings and go down to the crafts store for your centerpieces, aisle runners, and the things that go across the chairs (can't remember wtf they are called). Turn off Bridezilla and shop around for a good photographer that won't charge you an arm and a leg. If you want a video go down to the local CC and get a student to help you with it so he/she can add it to their portfolio.

Your friend's are fucking retards for blowing that kind of dough in a big penis waving contest to see who can piss more money down the drain. Take your 10k wedding and enjoy it... and don't feel bad in the slightest.
 
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