If it's "ok" to date more than one woman...

[chuckywang]

threesome?

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: sixone
You can get away with that for a while, but eventually you're gonna decide that you like one better than the other. First choice will find out about the other one just about the same time, and dump your sorry ass, and then you'll try to keep your second choice as a consolation prize. Only she'll be dating someone else too, and liars always finish last.

I agree with everything except the "liars finish last" part. The rest of it is 100% correct. I've been there, done that. It was a whole lot of fun for about a month...until I got caught.

I look at it this way. If you're young and playing the field and have no intentions of a monogamous relationship and you have not had a conversation about that with the other person, then do whatever the heck you want.

It's when you start catching feelings and are thinking about having "the girlfriend" conversation with said girl that things get touchy. What if she doesn't WANT a steady BF?

Personally, in my past serious relationships, it's been me 99% of the time that brings up the "Hey let's be exclusive" conversation.

What i would do if I were you is decide now which one you like better. You'll need to gauge their respective reactions when you say "I'm busy that night." Whichever girl gets pissy, that's teh one that digs you the most. If you dig said girl more than the other, I wouldn't piss her off.

If you get caught with your hand in the cookie jar, you'll most probably lose both. Could be that one girl or both are sluts and don't care if you're dating someone else. In that case, you can bet your butt that she is ALSO dating someone else. It goes both ways you know.

My friend, in this day and age, you are not boldly going where some other man has not very boldly gone before.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Ilmater
I'm dating one girl in town and another out of town. The girl from out of town wanted to come into town this weekend, and I have a date with the girl in town on Friday night. Of course I had to lie to them both about what I was doing the rest of the night so that I can get out of date 1 in time for date 2, but it's not fair. I'm SUPPOSED to be allowed to DATE more than one woman at a time, aren't I? But you can't do that without lying, which makes me feel guilty, but dangit, I shouldn't feel guilty at all.

It just isn't right. Sorry, had to get that off my chest.

playing with fire.

 

[sao123]

Originally posted by: Ilmater
I'm dating one girl in town and another out of town. The girl from out of town wanted to come into town this weekend, and I have a date with the girl in town on Friday night. Of course I had to lie to them both about what I was doing the rest of the night so that I can get out of date 1 in time for date 2, but it's not fair. I'm SUPPOSED to be allowed to DATE more than one woman at a time, aren't I? But you can't do that without lying, which makes me feel guilty, but dangit, I shouldn't feel guilty at all.

It just isn't right. Sorry, had to get that off my chest.

if you have to lie to do it... then apparently its not ok to do... got it?