If it's "ok" to date more than one woman...

[glen]

It is not OK to do it.
The how is basically be good looking.
In the end, women are about as shallow as we are.
If a girl was hot enough, quite a few of us would shag her, even if we knew she wouldn't date us exclusively.

 

[NuAlphaMan]

How about you tell the truth? If you're not exclusive with either girl, it shouldn't be a problem. As you stated yourself, you're "dating" them. You should be able to go out with whomever you want and so should they.

 

[archiloco]

had a cousin date 3 girls at the same time 2 from same town, one from one town over. he said at one point he had the girl from out of town on the phone(the other two kept calling), then one on one side of the street (from his office at a corner) and the other on the other side of the street.....he said that was the most stressful point ever...but he got thru it. he told them not to get out of their cars and they listened....haha, he a tru player

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: archiloco
had a cousin date 3 girls at the same time 2 from same town, one from one town over. he said at one point he had the girl from out of town on the phone(the other two kept calling), then one on one side of the street (from his office at a corner) and the other on the other side of the street.....he said that was the most stressful point ever...but he got thru it. he told them not to get out of their cars and they listened....haha, he a tru player

I would blow a gasket trying to balance all of that.

 

[Elderly Newt]

Originally posted by: Ilmater
I'm SUPPOSED to be allowed to DATE more than one woman at a time, aren't I?

Wtf. no.

 

[sixone]

You can get away with that for a while, but eventually you're gonna decide that you like one better than the other. First choice will find out about the other one just about the same time, and dump your sorry ass, and then you'll try to keep your second choice as a consolation prize. Only she'll be dating someone else too, and liars always finish last.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: Elderly Newt

Originally posted by: Ilmater
I'm SUPPOSED to be allowed to DATE more than one woman at a time, aren't I?

Wtf. no.

If we're not exclusive, YES!

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: sixone
You can get away with that for a while, but eventually you're gonna decide that you like one better than the other. First choice will find out about the other one just about the same time, and dump your sorry ass, and then you'll try to keep your second choice as a consolation prize. Only she'll be dating someone else too, and liars always finish last.

That's not dating, that's insecurity and pscyho possiveness. Dating is going out and having fun. You can and are even expected to date as many people as possible at the same time. If the possiblity of any kind of actual relationship comes about then maybe trim back to two or three of them until there's any talk of exclusively dating. Then you have to decide if you really only want to date one person at a time.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: sixone
You can get away with that for a while, but eventually you're gonna decide that you like one better than the other. First choice will find out about the other one just about the same time, and dump your sorry ass, and then you'll try to keep your second choice as a consolation prize. Only she'll be dating someone else too, and liars always finish last.

That's not dating, that's insecurity and pscyho possiveness. Dating is going out and having fun. You can and are even expected to date as many people as possible at the same time. If the possiblity of any kind of actual relationship comes about then maybe trim back to two or three of them until there's any talk of exclusively dating. Then you have to decide if you really only want to date one person at a time.

So what do you call lying to the girls you're dating, so that they don't know you're not exclusive?

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: sixone
You can get away with that for a while, but eventually you're gonna decide that you like one better than the other. First choice will find out about the other one just about the same time, and dump your sorry ass, and then you'll try to keep your second choice as a consolation prize. Only she'll be dating someone else too, and liars always finish last.

Sorry? I'm just trying to decide if one is worth seeing long-term. Why is that bad? Why does that make me sorry?

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: sixone
You can get away with that for a while, but eventually you're gonna decide that you like one better than the other. First choice will find out about the other one just about the same time, and dump your sorry ass, and then you'll try to keep your second choice as a consolation prize. Only she'll be dating someone else too, and liars always finish last.

Sorry? I'm just trying to decide if one is worth seeing long-term. Why is that bad? Why does that make me sorry?

Because you don't have the stones to tell them that you're seeing other people.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: sixone
So what do you call lying to the girls you're dating, so that they don't know you're not exclusive?

But we're NOT exclusive, I just know how women are, and they won't be able to handle that.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: sixone
So what do you call lying to the girls you're dating, so that they don't know you're not exclusive?

But we're NOT exclusive, I just know how women are, and they won't be able to handle that.

You're not dating the right kind of women.

 

[yllus]

Slightly off-topic: If you're sexually active with two or more of those women, you're morally obligated to inform them of that fact. Even if you use protection, there are still nasty little viruses that can be passed on - you should let them make the call as to whether they want to continue running that risk.

 

[KoopaTroopa]

Originally posted by: FoBoT
if you are supposed to, then why can't they know about it?

exactly...it's ok to date both of them only if you are open about it with all the women

the fact that you are hiding it from them makes it wrong

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: KoopaTroopa

Originally posted by: FoBoT
if you are supposed to, then why can't they know about it?

exactly...it's ok to date both of them only if you are open about it with all the women

the fact that you are hiding it from them makes it wrong

Do you people even know women? That sh1t doesn't work. You can't tell women you're dating other women, it just doesn't work.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: yllus
Slightly off-topic: If you're sexually active with two or more of those women, you're morally obligated to inform them of that fact. Even if you use protection, there are still nasty little viruses that can be passed on - you should let them make the call as to whether they want to continue running that risk.

Clearly. I'm not, no worries.

 

[spidey07]

So why tell them? It's none of their business what you do when you are not with them. You don't have to explain anything. I have plans. No lieing, no nothing. Just letting them know that you have other things to do in your life besides them. And if that happens to be dating other women then that's fine.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: KoopaTroopa

Originally posted by: FoBoT
if you are supposed to, then why can't they know about it?

exactly...it's ok to date both of them only if you are open about it with all the women

the fact that you are hiding it from them makes it wrong

Do you people even know women? That sh1t doesn't work. You can't tell women you're dating other women, it just doesn't work.

Yeah, I think I have a little experience there. If you're dating a girl that can't handle reality, you're just asking for trouble. And you will find it, believe me.

 

[sunase]

It's completely normal to date multiple people. That's what the whole "going steady" thing is about. There is no expectation that you have to limit yourself until a declaration like that. Girls do this all the time, dating several people, and if a guy starts acting possessive just because they got a date or two, they are considered psycho.

 

[AbAbber2k]

As has already been said, there's nothing wrong with "dating" multiple people. The problem is when one becomes a "serious relationship" and you don't let the others go. If you're serious with one of them, then ditch the other. Part of it is learning to gauge their level of emotional attachment and commitment.

There is nothing wrong with dating multiple people and being honest about it. Dating is what people do to FIND the person they want. IMHO you're limiting yourself if you don't date multiple people. Granted I don't necessarily do such, but I do hang out with various girls I'm interested in, generally out of date context, and then pick and choose from that pool the one that I'm most attracted too and has the most attraction to me. As long as when you start dating someone you that you're not looking to get serious and you date multiple people they'll understand that you're just looking for "Miss Right." Hell, you don't even have to use the word date... or even directly imply it for that matter. Just tell her a story about how you went out last week with some girl and had a lot of fun. Fvck, girls do the same damn thing. Some people even keep shopping around once they're in a serious relationship.

 

[batmang]

because you are not being upfront with them, im sure your pen15 will end up in a corn field somewhere.

 

[yllus]

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: yllus
Slightly off-topic: If you're sexually active with two or more of those women, you're morally obligated to inform them of that fact. Even if you use protection, there are still nasty little viruses that can be passed on - you should let them make the call as to whether they want to continue running that risk.

Clearly. I'm not, no worries.

Hey, just making sure. I was dumb enough to make this mistake so I start by assuming everyone was once at my low standard.

Edit: The people who seem to imply that you should fully declare the amount of women you're dating to each one likely have little to no experience in doing as much. You have absolutely no obligation to tell anyone you haven't made a commitment to where your romantic interests lie. It's your life.

 

[Dobbs]

date all you want, have fun, explore the world so to speak but if your in a relationship then its a different story, end of story.

A date is just that, a date which = "casual".
Relationship is also just that, a relationship which = "serious"

 

[RichUK]

It depends on whether you're manly enough to spread the loving x2.