If it's "ok" to date more than one woman...

[Ilmater]

I'm dating one girl in town and another out of town. The girl from out of town wanted to come into town this weekend, and I have a date with the girl in town on Friday night. Of course I had to lie to them both about what I was doing the rest of the night so that I can get out of date 1 in time for date 2, but it's not fair. I'm SUPPOSED to be allowed to DATE more than one woman at a time, aren't I? But you can't do that without lying, which makes me feel guilty, but dangit, I shouldn't feel guilty at all.

It just isn't right. Sorry, had to get that off my chest.

 

[ViviTheMage]

bad karma

 

[compnovice]

There is no YAGT in the title....

 

[FoBoT]

if you are supposed to, then why can't they know about it?

 

[Pastore]

So don't lie? As long as you're not screwing both of them and passing herpies between them you're not really cheating, just dating.

 

[Sex Smurf]

don't lie about it so they compete for your attention = you win.

 

[Canun]

Don't lie about it. Or just don't tell all the truth. Ask her to come in Saturday, because you already made plans you couldn't break. That way you would still have Sat. and Sun. to hang out.

 

[acemcmac]

<cough cough>

I wouldn't know. I-I-I-I-I would never do such a thing....

<shifty eyes>

 

[Cooler]

Just take them both out at same time and you will not feel guilty.
Three things can happen.
1. Both girls leave and you never see them again.
2. One girl leaves and you never see her again.
3. Both Girls stay.

 

[randay]

Well eventually your left and right hands are gonna meet each other, I mean, why delay the inevitable, plus you might even get a threesome out of it.

 

[spidey07]

Just say you have plans are aren't available that night.

If they push, just keep repeating "I have plans"

You don't have to lie and the mystery will make them bonkers for you.

 

[isekii]

Originally posted by: randay
Well eventually your left and right hands are gonna meet each other, I mean, why delay the inevitable, plus you might even get a threesome out of it.

 

[mordantmonkey]

well it depends. You can either hide the fact or not. Hide it is a big pain in the ass, not to mention unfair, dishonest, and generally assholish. Being open however could get you sacked by both of them. I've dated more than one girl only once, and they both knew. It got kind of weird after a while, and no it didn't evolve into a threesome situation.

i personally wouldn't lie about something like that, because i myself would want to know if it were the other way around.

 

[TheNinja]

Yup, either say

1) I'm busy that night sorry

or

2) I thought we were in an open relationship right now and therefore have a date that night. I'm really looking forward to our date though too.


Although by saying #2 to both of them you might end up not having to worry about 2 women anymore.

 

[AbAbber2k]

Assuming neither is serious, why lie about it? Just tell them you have plans with a friend (not a lie). If they ask you who it is be honest. Worst case scenario, one of them turns out to be a jealous bitch, in which case it's better to weed her out quick. Chances are though it'll just make her work harder to try and pull your attention away from the other girl so she can have you to herself.

 

[DaiShan]

Are you "exclusive" with either of these women? If not, then technically it should be ok to just say that you have other plans, however, I'm currently dating this girl (really great girl BTW) who's just out of a long term relationship so she said that she wanted to take things slow and not be exclusive for a while. The other night she found out that I made out with another girl the day after our first date and got pissy...WTF?!

 

[Sex Smurf]

If it's just a date, date the hotter one.

 

[blackangst1]

Originally posted by: spidey07
Just say you have plans are aren't available that night.

If they push, just keep repeating "I have plans"

You don't have to lie and the mystery will make them bonkers for you.

QFT :thumbsup:

 

[Alienwho]

Until you have a talk with one of them, saying you're exclusive, you are simply playing the game and have no reason to feel bad.

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: Cooler
Just take them both out at same time and you will not feel guilty.
Three things can happen.
1. Both girls leave and you never see them again. 99.999% likely
2. One girl leaves and you never see her again. .0009%likely
3. Both Girls stay. .0001% likely

Fixed to reflect liklihood of the above outcomes.

 

[randay]

Ok lets get real here, we all know the answer, its not "ok" to date more than one woman. Your only option here is to dump one, and find some new side action. Preferrably one that doesn't like to travel. If you try to keep them both through either lies or truths, its gonna turn out bad for you, don't ****** yourself.

 

[JS80]

"we're not exclusive"

but then tell her you're not seeing anyone else. ftw.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: AbAbber2k
Assuming neither is serious, why lie about it? Just tell them you have plans with a friend (not a lie). If they ask you who it is be honest. Worst case scenario, one of them turns out to be a jealous bitch, in which case it's better to weed her out quick. Chances are though it'll just make her work harder to try and pull your attention away from the other girl so she can have you to herself.

Dude, that never works. Even good women will end things.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: DaiShan
Are you "exclusive" with either of these women? If not, then technically it should be ok to just say that you have other plans, however, I'm currently dating this girl (really great girl BTW) who's just out of a long term relationship so she said that she wanted to take things slow and not be exclusive for a while. The other night she found out that I made out with another girl the day after our first date and got pissy...WTF?!

CASE IN POINT!!!

 

[DaShen]

lying is bad, mmmmkay...

I am guessing they know that it is an open dating relationship? But still lying is bad.