hahahahahha, sorry to inform you, but you've been duped. That's a form letter, everybody eventually gets one. Some people get two or three. They're not changing anything at all in the network, or in the way they do things. Oh, they're probably doing some node splits, but they always are. No, you can stay static just fine. Probably around the 22nd they'll reorganize the network and you may end up with a different ip, but then it'll be stable for a long time after that. They may also be upgrading the network to pure DOCSIS complience, but it will only affect people with older modems (ones that they've purchased more than likely since @Home is pretty good about upgrading their own modems). I received one of those about two months after getting service. Then again 6 months ago. Nothing changes, except maybe your ip once or twice. Ignore them, they'll eventually go away.
Ad for getting it to work DHCP, you can keep trying if you'd like. You are correct that @Home's system is closer to a WINS server than a DHCP. Who knows what chaos that will cause you though. I'd personally just stay static and if it stops working, call in and demand your new settings. They'll argue with you, but they can't refuse to give you your current settings so eventually you'll win.