I will not be a hovering mother!

[Flammable]

Is he in college?

 

[Corporate Thug]

I would be less worried about an autistic 22 year old going to an anime thing rather than a 22 year going to get loaded at a bar.

 

[DVad3r]

That's amazing, 50 % of the people I deal with are autistic at work. I know what an accomplishment being independent is for your son. Congrats to you and him It's also really good that you are letting him explore things on his own.

Let us know how it goes...

 

[Fullmetal Chocobo]

Sounds like you are doing everything right. Do you know who to call if things go wrong?

 

[Chaotic42]

Good on the both of you. :beer:

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: DVad3r
That's amazing, 50 % of the people I deal with are autistic at work. I know what an accomplishment being independent is for your son. Congrats to you and him It's also really good that you are letting him explore things on his own.

Let us know how it goes...

He came home all happy and he must have been given 6 email addresses from other group members

 

[Miramonti]

:thumbsup:

 

[darkxshade]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: DVad3r
That's amazing, 50 % of the people I deal with are autistic at work. I know what an accomplishment being independent is for your son. Congrats to you and him It's also really good that you are letting him explore things on his own.

Let us know how it goes...

He came home all happy and he must have been given 6 email addresses from other group members

Nothing to be happy about, ask him about the number he got off that girl with the anime work

 

[runzwithsizorz]

He's passed the test, and earned his wings.
It's time for him, to experience things.
But as his mom, I'm sure you know
There is no button, nor a switch
That turns off, that hovering itch

My dear lady, your love, and devotion I find truly inspiring. Runz

 

[maziwanka]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Anime/manga is quite popular here and apparently there are a large number of young women who are members this is a big group,35 people. 13-14 women.

rotflol, He just asked for advice concerning clothing and cologne...hehehe, he remembered there will be women there

Well, I'm still not wrong about them all being nerds . Just tell him to watch out for subtle clues about what kind of female anime/manga fan they are. Gotta avoid them weird, quirky yaoi-loving girls! *shudder*

Apparently the members of this group take turns playing various clips they like and discussing them with each other. my son told the group leader that for tonight he will
prefer to just sit and listen and ease his way into the group. He has a collection of anime and I'll probably gift him with a couple more films to celebrate.

im sure he's gonna have a good time! let us know how it turns out

edit: hahha. realized this was a thread from yday. im glad he had a good time.

 

[Aikouka]

Glad it went well . Watched me some anime last night too!

Originally posted by: Fullmetal Chocobo
Do you know who to call if things go wrong?

Ghostbusters! *hums the tune*

 

[So]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
My son is going out this evening, he will take 2 buses and a train ride to his first meeting in an anime/manga lovers club. He'll also most likely stop in Harvard square for a bite to eat.

Not unusual,not rare, except for the fact that my son is 22 and autistic. He's armed with a brand new cell phone, so he can call when he arrives and when he's headed home and enough money for food,club donation and his bus fares.

I will not be a hovering anxious mother.. it's just another social event right?

Maybe I misunderstand Autism, but he must be pretty highly functioning to (even want to) do all that stuff.

I'm sure he'll be fine.

 

[The Boston Dangler]

2 buses and a train? yikes! do you live in the suburbs? that could be 2 hours or more.

 

[ivan2]

Originally posted by: Fayd

Originally posted by: lxskllr

Originally posted by: Aikouka


Well, I'm still not wrong about them all being nerds . Just tell him to watch out for subtle clues about what kind of female anime/manga fan they are. Gotta avoid them weird, quirky yaoi-loving girls! *shudder*

I had to look that up. You mean this?

yaoi = boy*boy sexual relationships in manga.

that image was just wierd.

what has been seen...

 

[GagHalfrunt]

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I will not be a hovering anxious mother.. it's just another social event right?

Just with lots of nerds !

All sharing a love of tentacle porn.

 

[PCTC2]

Originally posted by: The Boston Dangler
2 buses and a train? yikes! do you live in the suburbs? that could be 2 hours or more.

It's Harvard Square. It could be just two bus line transfers and a few T-stops. You don't need to live in the suburbs to need to take 2 buses and a T to Harvard Square. He had a Charlie Card, which means T. And buses in Boston go everywhere.

Glad he had fun. Two of my cousins (twins) are autistic, and they are generally self-sufficient. Live in an apartment about 20 minutes from their parents. It's always fun to find a new group of friends for anyone. Hope he got a number or two.
And tell him that these "strange guys on that internet forum" rooted for him. Maybe we can assimilate him.

God, 2 things popped into my head when I read this.
1) I wonder if some kids from my old high school were in this group.
2) I still have a Charlie Card with $30 on it and I live in San Diego now.

 

[Adul]

you may ont be hovering, but its only natural for you to worry.

 

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: So

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
My son is going out this evening, he will take 2 buses and a train ride to his first meeting in an anime/manga lovers club. He'll also most likely stop in Harvard square for a bite to eat.

Not unusual,not rare, except for the fact that my son is 22 and autistic. He's armed with a brand new cell phone, so he can call when he arrives and when he's headed home and enough money for food,club donation and his bus fares.

I will not be a hovering anxious mother.. it's just another social event right?

Maybe I misunderstand Autism, but he must be pretty highly functioning to (even want to) do all that stuff.

I'm sure he'll be fine.

He's really high functioning and the fact that he wants to be social is very impressive.

I worked with a 20 + year old autistic guy one time and we had deep/complex discussions about world war 2 all the time, in fact it barely felt like I was working and more like I was spending time with a buddy.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: DVad3r

Originally posted by: So

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
My son is going out this evening, he will take 2 buses and a train ride to his first meeting in an anime/manga lovers club. He'll also most likely stop in Harvard square for a bite to eat.

Not unusual,not rare, except for the fact that my son is 22 and autistic. He's armed with a brand new cell phone, so he can call when he arrives and when he's headed home and enough money for food,club donation and his bus fares.

I will not be a hovering anxious mother.. it's just another social event right?

Maybe I misunderstand Autism, but he must be pretty highly functioning to (even want to) do all that stuff.

I'm sure he'll be fine.

He's really high functioning and the fact that he wants to be social is very impressive.

I worked with a 20 + year old autistic guy one time and we had deep/complex discussions about world war 2 all the time, in fact it barely felt like I was working and more like I was spending time with a buddy.

Because autism is a disorder of speech/communication and social relatedness, it's long been assumed that folks living with autism don't want friends, that they look at people as objects. A neurologist brought me to tears years ago by telling me that my son looked at me much as he would a chair in the living room.

My son does value friendships, is keenly aware of how different he is from normal people and wants very deeply to achieve more inclusion in the so called neurotypical community.
These social experiences he's now enjoying are his 1st experiences with large groups of higher functioning people with autism/asperger's.

I've never heard him as animated and excited as he was last night while describing his evening. He's looking forward to the pizza and games group next.


Btw,while I'm at it, there is a real dearth of programs/supports for autistic adults. I found these social groups after literally days of googling and making phone calls, if a young adult isn't also mentally retarded there's literally almost nothing once that adult turns 22.

 

[nestlewater]

OK, I just read autistic on Wikipedia, it doesn't put a complete image in my head. "Inhibited Social Interactions" What does that mean exactly, their descriptions were so broad.

 

[tk149]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Aharami
dont kid yourself, he's really going to a furry party.

jk.

I understand you worrying more since your son's autistic, but you have to let him start being independent at some point.

lol, I just asked him if he thought it was just a cover and if this was going to be a furry party,he laughed and said " you've been talking to those strange guys on that computer forum again haven't you ?

:laugh::laugh::laugh: :thumbsup: This boy knows us too well!

 

[Mo0o]

I read an article on Slate a few days ago about a mom of an adult austistic son with really violent tendencies. Really scary stuff since he knew he had these urges but could do nothing to stop them. Heartbreaking

Glad to see your son is getting out there and doing his best to interact w/ the world.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Mo0o
I read an article on Slate a few days ago about a mom of an adult austistic son with really violent tendencies. Really scary stuff since he knew he had these urges but could do nothing to stop them. Heartbreaking

Glad to see your son is getting out there and doing his best to interact w/ the world.

When my son was much younger, disruptions in routine or seeing people not following the rules could trigger a meltdown, most usually involving him head banging, he did have a few verbal outbursts as a teen and did actually hit another kid once.. basically he round housed a rat bastid who'd been tormenting him without mercy for weeks.. Matt got the boot for one day..the other kid for 3 sort of situation.

Matt has worked very hard to learn how to tell others if he's feeling really anxious or confused
by things. I worry more about how others will treat him than I do about how he will treat others.

Imagine that you have to give an important presentation including a speech to a large group of important people. Think about how anxious you would be, my son experiences that kind of anxiety on a regular basis over social interactions that the rest of us accomplish without a second thought.

 

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Mo0o
I read an article on Slate a few days ago about a mom of an adult austistic son with really violent tendencies. Really scary stuff since he knew he had these urges but could do nothing to stop them. Heartbreaking

Glad to see your son is getting out there and doing his best to interact w/ the world.

When my son was much younger, disruptions in routine or seeing people not following the rules could trigger a meltdown, most usually involving him head banging, he did have a few verbal outbursts as a teen and did actually hit another kid once.. basically he round housed a rat bastid who'd been tormenting him without mercy for weeks.. Matt got the boot for one day..the other kid for 3 sort of situation.

Matt has worked very hard to learn how to tell others if he's feeling really anxious or confused
by things. I worry more about how others will treat him than I do about how he will treat others.

Imagine that you have to give an important presentation including a speech to a large group of important people. Think about how anxious you would be, my son experiences that kind of anxiety on a regular basis over social interactions that the rest of us accomplish without a second thought.

Yeah. It's a tough situation.

Just realized the article was in Salon.com
http://www.salon.com/mwt/featu...09/03/26/bauer_autism/

Interesting read, sounds like her son's case is rarer

 

[Q]

Read all replies, good thread. I'm sick or reading all the time warps and borderline 4chan stuff going on today.

:thumbsup: