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I was arrested this weekend.... Updated

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Definitely have your friend start going to therapy; she will repeat this behavior of abusive relationships until then.

IMO, any "man" cowardly enough to hit a woman should have gotten MUCH worse. Castration and being fed to the dogs comes to mind. I have NO tolerance for people like that.
 
As far as limiting the punches goes, two makes you seem like a calm, rational person. An all out beat down would look worse to a cop, rather then in your case, where you can obviously control yourself by only hitting him twice.
 
Wow, alot of replies, the poor old dialup can barely keep up.

Fettsbabe - That's a nice image, I'll remember that one. She was out cold though 🙁

I know the police did the right thing, it doesn't make me feel any less annoyed. And while it's true it's extremely unlikely I will get convicted of anything it's the hassle for what I feel is a pointless exercise. Not to mention a complete waste of time for the judiciary system.

And to all that have mentioned it, I am going to try to get her to therapy. Hopefully it will help her alot.
 
SirFshALot is wrong-if this happened anywhere near the way you said, I am almost certain that you will be ultimately resolved in the judicial system. What judge or jury is going to convict you?

I was referring to the part about being jailed at the onset.

But now that you bring it up, it's still possible that he will get convicted, as well. Nothing is a sure deal when you get in front of a judge.
I'm there all the time as part of my job, and I get surprized quite a bit.
 
You did the right thing man.... that girl is blessed to have a friend like you...
Hats off for a good guy..

🙂
 
I rarely say this but I think you did the right thing to. I have no respect for drunk and abusing boyrfriends especially when they use a fist, that was asking for it.

With Martial Arts comes the codes and respect is key amoung them and he had it coming to him especially when the justice system wouldn't have been justice.
 
GOOD JOB! wow, a broken cheekbone huh? you must really know your moves. I think and know you did the right thing. No man should ever beat any kind of girl, I find that disgusting and completely disrespectful. That son of a bitch deserves all that, and guess what, you showed his ass. You have won your prize my friend, go here to collect it. I hope your friend turns out okay, she seriously needs to just not date any guy for that matter if she loves to select the wrong guys. But make sure you support her at this point, which i'm sure you are already. Good luck with the charges, I'm sure you'll be fine. No one will convict you of charges if they have witnesses that you acted on a defense to a victim of a woman nutless beater. Good day! 🙂

danny~!
 


<< don't let UnixFreak get wind of her

that's his kind of fragile target

>>



Not only do only date sluts and bar skanks, but battered women as well. Your Jealousy is starting to show bad

But seriously, kazeakuma, you shouldnt get in that much trouble. I once was in the same position, when a freind of mine's boyfriend pushed her in my house, I beat him down worse than you did, I went way too far, with a broken nose, concussion, teeth missing, and two broken ribs (I had been drinking a bit of tequila that night), and I got off on it, because I was defending someone. When you explain it, with your witnesses, you will be ok.
 
Good job, but if there is a next time skip the face so you don't leave any marks. 😉 😀
 
myputer - she doesn't want to and I don't really see the point. It is probably better for her to leave this behind and try to rebuild her life.

thanx dannylove, can I keep her?

Unixfreak - Believe me I wanted to mess him up some more but common sense got the better of me. I'm not worried about the charge really.

PG - I think the face is more fitting. Makes it harder for him to find another to beat
 
I don't think you have to worry about the criminal repurcussions as much as the CIVIL ones. This guy could sue you, and even if you win the civil case, you will spend a lot of $$ on a lawyer.
 
one more &quot;atta boy&quot; for ya....GREAT JOB FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING.... ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !

there's little better than defending those in need...


-i
 


<< thanx dannylove, can I keep her? >>

i'm sorry, but you cannot. If you read the fine print all prizes cannot be claimed. She already belongs to me 🙂

danny~!
 
You did a good thing, but you need to understand that you can't play protector for your friend's bad choices. I know where your coming from as well. I have friend who for whatever reason ends up with the same type of men.
 
While I think you did the right thing there are some things here that have red flags all over them.

Unless your &quot;friend&quot; enrolls herself immediately in therapy I would drop her cold. Her habit of choosing creeps,just put you
at physical risk, what if that loser had pulled a gun and blown your brains out ?What if he decides to seek revenge later and decides to target your girlfriend or your parents or brother/sister ? And even if you win this case,an arrest for violence is now on your record.. say good bye high level security clearances

You say now that you're thinking of having her move in with you to help her. I wouldn't go there, you're being sucked into the role of Little Prince Rescuer and if this woman isn't firm in her resolve to seek help your life could quickly become a nightmare



You paid a heavy price for being a good friend, here's hoping this woman realises it and acts accordingly !
 
I think you did the right thing and were justified in your actions, however with the wrong judge on the wrong day things might not be that simple. Heck, here in the US you have to prove that you or your family were in mortal danger before you shoot the son-of-a-gun that broke into your house. They would have to prove that you weren't intervening to stop him from doing more damage only to exact some revenge.
 
props to you baby!

good job...and ignore all that bs about being put in a cell (it's just how we sort things out in this country). now that all is done you can be pleased with the end result- friend is no longer w/ a jerk, you're a hero (awww), and the jerk has a broken cheek bone (serves him right).

we need more men like you in this country! 😉
 


<< You say now that you're thinking of having her move in with you to help her. I wouldn't go there, you're being sucked into the role of Little Prince Rescuer and if this woman isn't firm in her resolve to seek help your life could quickly become a nightmare >>



now you have just made me think. I'm going to have to think that one over. I see your point exactly but I would do no less for any of my friends. We were once asked a question, If someone shot at a good friend would you take the bullet? Without hesitation I would say yes. It's just the way I am.




<< what if that loser had pulled a gun and blown your brains out >>


Guns aren't an issue, 1. no one could get into a club carrying, 2. it's hard enough to get any kind of firearm.
 
Now I know violence should never be used

Actually, I will have to disagree with you here. Violence is justified in any number of situations. The person who said that violence never solved anything was a poor student of history.
The fact that the charges will be dropped is an indication that the system &quot;worked&quot;. In Alabama one can use force (in fact lethal force) in protection of yourself, your property, or another person. Even so, expect an investigation and possible arrest.
 


<< In my opinion you did the right thing. Good to see that gentlemen are still to be found. >>



i fourty second that motion...

dave
 
You did the right thing, and unfortunately this thing is not over for you.
This guy is violent, and now is probably going to come back at you.
As for letting this lady move in with you, forget that untill she gets things in her personal life resolved. Also make sure she prosecutes this guy for punching her, otherwise she is setting herself up for more of the same treatment. Some people just have a habbit of never learning, ever, and there is nothing you'll be able to do to change that.
 
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