I think this is the first time I have actually been speechless

[SarcasticDwarf]

This is part rant and part request for advice.

My new roommate during grad school is a Venezuelan version of Monk. Unfortunately, he is not obsessive about everything, only very specific things*. Today is an example.

I am reading in my room and he knocks on my door. He says that he can't use the drainer (the drying rack for dishes). I had cleaned my dishes an hour before and was letting them actually dry. Apparently by his understanding he is unable to actually put away the pot, strainer, and bowl sitting in there because it is a mess I made. I actually stood there for a good 15 seconds in complete and utter shock.

It will be a miracle if I don't kill him. Am I being at all unreasonable?








* Examples of stuff he does not care about: The mold everywhere in the bathroom, the toothpaste he manages to get on the shower curtain, his hair all over the bathroom floor, the mold on the fridge, the years of old grease and other stuff running down the side of the stove, etc.
* Stuff he does care about: No dishes are allowed to be left in the sink except his on occasion, the counter must always be wiped down, the sink must *never* have the tiniest bit of food still stuck to the bottom, etc.

 

[Flammable]

have fun!

 

[Excelsior]

He sounds like a control freak. It sounds like you're being reasonable. You need to tell him to stop acting like a twat. It shouldn't be too early to request another roommate/move to another room, as well.

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

you're both disgusting fvcking pigs if you have mold growing in your tub and fridge.

 

[Jhill]

He sounds like a dope.

 

[SarcasticDwarf]

Originally posted by: Excelsior
He sounds like a control freak. It sounds like you're being reasonable. You can't keep letting him act like a sh!t, tell him that he needs to grow up and relax. Or something.

It is not that he is not a nice guy, there are just things that he is completely unreasonable about. I think a lot of it stems from the fact that he grew up in at least a fairly well do do household (with its own cook-he never cooked prior to moving here). Other than his last roommate (who was a total disaster), he has never had to live with anyone. Plus I am coming in after he has lived here a year, so it is mostly his stuff everywhere.

 

[Delta6Echo]

Originally posted by: SarcasticDwarf
My new roommate during grad school is a Venezuelan version of Monk. Unfortunately, he is not obsessive about everything, only very specific things*. Today is an example.

I am reading in my room and he knocks on my door. He says that he can't use the drainer (the drying rack for dishes). I had cleaned my dishes an hour before and was letting them actually dry. Apparently by his understanding he is unable to actually put away the pot, strainer, and bowl sitting in there because it is a mess I made. I actually stood there for a good 15 seconds in complete and utter shock.

It will be a miracle if I don't kill him.


* Examples of stuff he does not care about: The mold everywhere in the bathroom, the toothpaste he manages to get on the shower curtain, his hair all over the bathroom floor, the mold on the fridge, the years of old grease and other stuff running down the side of the stove, etc.
* Stuff he does care about: No dishes are allowed to be left in the sink except his on occasion, the counter must always be wiped down, the sink must *never* have the tiniest bit of food still stuck to the bottom, etc.

...and who was the brilliant person that decided to live with him?

That's right....YOU! Move out or kick his ass to the curb.

 

[Delta6Echo]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
you're both disgusting fvcking pigs if you have mold growing in your tub and fridge.

That too.

 

[SarcasticDwarf]

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
you're both disgusting fvcking pigs if you have mold growing in your tub and fridge.

It really can't be helped. There is no air conditioning in this 65 year old building. Mold *will* grow, but you can keep it under control. The fridge is bad because there is that 2 inch strip between the fridge and freezer doors on the outside front. You just have to wipe the condensation off once a week or so to take care of it. The bathroom is a disaster as there is no ventilation and needed renovated a good five years ago.

I have cleaned it all and am keeping it under control, but it has never phased him. The idea that you can spray bleach on mold to get rid of it blew his mind. He had never heard of it (again, largely due to his upbringing).

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

Originally posted by: SarcasticDwarf

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
you're both disgusting fvcking pigs if you have mold growing in your tub and fridge.

It really can't be helped. There is no air conditioning in this 65 year old building. Mold *will* grow, but you can keep it under control. The fridge is bad because there is that 2 inch strip between the fridge and freezer doors on the outside front. You just have to wipe the condensation off once a week or so to take care of it. The bathroom is a disaster as there is no ventilation and needed renovated a good five years ago.

so buy anti-fungal and mildew spray for your bathroom and clean the fridge daily.

 

[Delta6Echo]

Originally posted by: SarcasticDwarf

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
you're both disgusting fvcking pigs if you have mold growing in your tub and fridge.

It really can't be helped. There is no air conditioning in this 65 year old building. Mold *will* grow, but you can keep it under control. The fridge is bad because there is that 2 inch strip between the fridge and freezer doors on the outside front. You just have to wipe the condensation off once a week or so to take care of it. The bathroom is a disaster as there is no ventilation and needed renovated a good five years ago.

I have cleaned it all and am keeping it under control, but it has never phased him. The idea that you can spray bleach on mold to get rid of it blew his mind. He had never heard of it (again, largely due to his upbringing).

Do you live in a toxic dump? How can you live somewhere like that?

 

[Tiamat]

this is why i pay the price for my own single studio.

 

[SarcasticDwarf]

Originally posted by: Delta6Echo

Originally posted by: SarcasticDwarf

Originally posted by: MikeyIs4Dcats
you're both disgusting fvcking pigs if you have mold growing in your tub and fridge.

It really can't be helped. There is no air conditioning in this 65 year old building. Mold *will* grow, but you can keep it under control. The fridge is bad because there is that 2 inch strip between the fridge and freezer doors on the outside front. You just have to wipe the condensation off once a week or so to take care of it. The bathroom is a disaster as there is no ventilation and needed renovated a good five years ago.

I have cleaned it all and am keeping it under control, but it has never phased him. The idea that you can spray bleach on mold to get rid of it blew his mind. He had never heard of it (again, largely due to his upbringing).

Do you live in a toxic dump? How can you live somewhere like that?

I challenge you to find ANY sixty year old apartment (one not recently renovated) that does not have mold problems in the bathroom.

 

[SarcasticDwarf]

Originally posted by: Tiamat
this is why i pay the price for my own single studio.

$340 per person per month as it is now. The CHEAPEST I can get a studio is $580. The next cheapest apartments (and I am in a damn good neighborhood) are about $800/month. It worked out well in that I was looking for a roommate and happened to run across him. I did not have the time (and I was living 130 miles away from this college) to come down here all the time to a new city looking for a roommate and apartment.

 

[SarcasticDwarf]

Bueller?

 

[S Freud]

I don't know what advice you are looking for. Either discuss it with him and tell him how you feel or move into something else. You need to come to a middle point with each other. I am sure there are things you do that bother him too. Designate who cleans the bathroom week to week and who cleans the fridge/kitchen. Do a chore chart if it comes down to it.

If he still refuses then it obviously its not going to work and you will need to find something else. You don't want to be uncomfortable in your own house.

 

[FoBoT]

good luck with that
don't commit any felonies