I think I may have to dump my fiance

[LuckyTaxi]

She's been busting her butt working like 90+ hours every 2 weeks. I asked why she's killing herself and her answer is that we need money. That is true, but I dont want her working 90+ hours during her pay period! Well, I went to transfer some money into our savings account and noticed she took out $120. I have no problems with her spending money on meaningful things, but for her to pull it and give it to her mom to send to our native country is another thing!

She says she owes it to her grandmother to help pay for certain things. If you ask me, it's ALL BS. I realize we're better off but we have to worry about ourselves before we worry about someone else. She (her grandma) has other ppl to help out, why do they come asking my fiance for money. Mind you we have like $1800 in bills a month and you dont see other ppl offering to help, not that I want them to.

Anyways, I'm tired of this. We could use that extra money to help pay the car off. Mind you winter is around the corner and gas bill is going to be in the mid hundreds, not to mention gas for our car is ridiculous!!!!!!!!!! Belive me, I spoke with her regarding this many times but it doesnt work. I can't say anything since it's her family but she has to draw the line somewhere. Am I the one who's wrong?

 

[loup garou]

Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

 

[Orsorum]

I don't see anything wrong with her sending the money. And 45 hours a week is not too much. 70 hours/week is too much.

 

[Frew]

I :heart: lilcam

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.

 

[suse920]

at 90 hours a week come talk to me

 

[LordMaul]

I think you're going to have a hard time finding anyone here that cares. Best bet would be to post it on your LiveJournal, and follow the advice from the most intellectual comment. :thumbsup:

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

The job she's in it is. So getting up @ 6 every morning and coming home around 9pm isnt? Then what is? I dont think I can do what she does, but then again I'm salary so it's worst.

How long is her drive to work?

<--- worked 50 hours a week this summer and was never away from my apt for more than 12 hours/day.

 

[LordMaul]

Originally posted by: Frew
I :heart: lilcam

My God, what a freakin nef. :roll:

 

[jpeyton]

Sounds like her dumping you would be in her favor. 45 hours a week is not ridiculous; thats full time with a few extra hours. Sending $120 home to her family is absolutely fine; she worked for it, she can help her blood relatives if she wants to.

If those are all your complaints, you need to remove the stick pronto.

 

[Xionide]

You should have figured this out before you got married. Obviously this is a clash in culture and you will need to have some understanding between the two of you. Good luck.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Your gf is coasting and sticking you in the arse. Dump the broad, she considers her family in bumfvck wherever more important than you.

Your life will not change, and neither will she, after you are married and she rapes you for all you have.

 

[dwil]

I had 35 hours of OT on a previous check. 45 a week isn't so bad.

 

[AnonymouseUser]

She isn't sending that money to her family, she is spending it on her other boyfriend. :beer:

 

[ruffilb]

45 hours/week isn't killing onesself.

If you have a car, a house, and can afford to worry about gas prices, you're living the good life.

But, if thing just WILL NOT WORK OUT between you two, make damn sure you figure it out BEFORE you have any kids.

 

[mobobuff]

I say it's the money she worked for, she can do whatever she wants with it (so long as she's not being fatally stupid with it).

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: werk
Wait...90 hours every 2 weeks...45 hours a work week. That's not busting your butt!!!

Hell yeah!

My work week is 10 hours per day/50 hours per week right off the bat. I leave the building for lunch maybe once a week.

Typically, I work 11-12 hours a day and often get called in on the weekends. I am mgmt and on salary; I don't get overtime, incentives, bonus pay or anyting else.

Your GF needs a boot in the ass and smack from the hand of reality. She doesn't know what working hard is yet.

 

[SVT Cobra]

/me predicts a long thread

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Uhh... don't make that such a big issue, let her help out her relatives if she wants, many will consider it a good choice

 

[suse920]

Originally posted by: Son of a N00b
/me predicts a long thread

/ chops off Son of a N00b's crouch

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: ruffilb
45 hours/week isn't killing onesself.

If you have a car, a house, and can afford to worry about gas prices, you're living the good life.

But, if thing just WILL NOT WORK OUT between you two, make damn sure you figure it out BEFORE you GET MARRIED

fixed, jesus, if you two cant agree on finances things arent going to work, ever.

45ish hours a week isnt that bad, thats about what i usually work, maybe 50 if im really busy at work. but i wouldnt just take out money and give to someone else to start with.

pitch her and buy some hand lotion.

 

[YOyoYOhowsDAjello]

Originally posted by: Xionide
You should have figured this out before you got married. Obviously this is a clash in culture and you will need to have some understanding between the two of you. Good luck.

"dump my fiance"

?

 

[spidey07]

wow. guess we know where her priorities are.

good luck man.

this should be a huge red flag.

Did so without asking.....bad kharma.

 

[MichaelD]

"I did it all for the nookie" applies here, lilcam.

Her behavior now will only get worse once the garrott is around your balls...er, after the wedding.

Talk w/her; advise her of what you have issues with, give her a chance to modify her behaivor.

Then, dump her anyway b/c she'll only be bitter about what you asked her to do in the first place and will make your life miserable for the rest of your sad days.

 

[ruffilb]

Originally posted by: suse920

Originally posted by: Son of a N00b
/me predicts a long thread

/ chops off Son of a N00b's crouch

I'd be mortified, but first I've got to figure out how to cut someone's crouch off...

Originally posted by: xSauronx

Originally posted by: ruffilb
45 hours/week isn't killing onesself.

If you have a car, a house, and can afford to worry about gas prices, you're living the good life.

But, if thing just WILL NOT WORK OUT between you two, make damn sure you figure it out BEFORE you HAVE KIDS.

fixed, jesus, if you two cant agree on finances things arent going to work, ever.

45ish hours a week isnt that bad, thats about what i usually work, maybe 50 if im really busy at work. but i wouldnt just take out money and give to someone else to start with.

pitch her and buy some hand lotion.

Eh, as much as I care about the OP and his fiancee, I'd care a lot more if there were an innocent 3rd party involved.