lavagirl669
Diamond Member
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iwearnosox
Lifer
A guy walks into a bar... Ouch! 🙂
No, go to sleep. Sleep deprivation only worstens emotional issues.
iwearnosox
Lifer
I see the seeds of tomorrow's most lurid regrattable thread:
"Drank too much and woke up in Kroze's arms"
...must... stop... 😀
lavagirl669
Diamond Member
Kroze,
can I ask what happened?
Is there any chance it might be worked out?
you can PM if you don't want to discuss it here.
Kroze
Diamond Member
Why does it hurt so much. I packed everything up that i ever have of her (mostly pictures) and all of the stuff she ever gave me including all of the mails i got from her while in iraq. Now the house feel so empty without any sign of her ever being here. I just can't stop sobbing.
Kroze
Diamond Member
It's a very long story. but all in all, she said that i don't trust her and have a feeling that i never will. I don't spend enough time with her parents side but she never missed an event on my family side. There's absolutely warmth in her tone anymore. it's just cold. I can sense there's nothing else for us.
I'll post some small advice (it might help) since you aren't a noob or a troll 😛
Sorry about it Kroze, the pain will take a while to go away. 🙁 Only time will make things right, but for now just try to keep your daily life from falling apart. Don't try to run away from it cuz it will just come back and hurt a lot more. Look back at the memories and be thankful for the good times and think of the next step as another chapter in your life. It will be rough times but things will get better eventually.
Sorry about it Kroze, the pain will take a while to go away. 🙁 Only time will make things right, but for now just try to keep your daily life from falling apart. Don't try to run away from it cuz it will just come back and hurt a lot more. Look back at the memories and be thankful for the good times and think of the next step as another chapter in your life. It will be rough times but things will get better eventually.
lavagirl669
Diamond Member
So she broke your trust...is that true?
That is a tough one to get through.
I'd say be strong, and though I know it SUCKS big time, she may come around
or if not...You will find another love
That is a tough one to get through.
I'd say be strong, and though I know it SUCKS big time, she may come around
or if not...You will find another love
lavagirl669
Diamond Member
You're young.....don't worry, it will happen.
I know how you feel....like nothing could ever compare....but you know what?
Someday you'll see that.....it just takes time.
I know how you feel....like nothing could ever compare....but you know what?
Someday you'll see that.....it just takes time.
Kroze
Diamond Member
Date: Mon, 5 Jul 2004 11:20:19 -0700 (PDT)
From: "" <@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: about last night
To: "Bao" <@yahoo.com>
I just dont understand why you don't believe me that we are just friends. Now I feel like that i will never be able to go out with any of my frineds without worry if you and joe and all his friends will show up and start stuff wiht me. Bao go out there and date. I am not dateing anyone i just have been hanging out wiht my friends from work. Thats all I am doing. I would like it if you would stop putting friends in qutoes b/c all were are friends weither you belive me or not. Not being with you isnt the easy thing for me to do either, and when you gave the stuff back i was in my room crying all day. I care a bout you so much and I still do but after last night you really hurt me. I am not going to try and explain anymore to you b/c you never seem to understand waht I am trying to tell you.
As for the Save The Hores Ride a Cowboy...It is a Country song from Big & Rich. you can chcek it out on cmt.com under videos. I am sorry if you took it the wrong way.
Sorry things had to end like this. I had great 4 years with you and its been jsut as hard for me as it has been for you. I am sorry that you dont belive me when i tell you the truth.
Bao @yahoo.com> wrote:
They were all drunks (I wasn't) and has been fighting 2 different people before we got there around 2. So they were pretty riled up in the first place before we got there. They were just trying to cheer me up and suggested to take me eat. As far as we know, all we see is that some guy is having dinner with you in the middle of the night. And as soon as I see you, you just picked up and left with him. Now all this happen before Joe even see you and the other guy. Don't say that oh they went over our table harrassing us and we were forced to leave. As you got by the exit, where we were getting in. Joe by this time, saw this, and asked me what's up? am I doing anything about this? I was just as mad as he was at the time but I say no. He said, She just straight up walk past you without saying anything man. So he decided to say something.
After 2 fights and a couple of drinks 2 hours before all this. trust me Joe talked to you with a lot of respect at that time. He wouldn't dare call you any name, or stop you from going at all. If it were someone else, it would have happen a lot differently.
All I heard him said to you was.
- Aileen! That was f*k up!
- You could've said hi to the kid. I don't care who you are with, you couldv'e said hi to him.
And by that time, you and the other guy went to the car to leave.
How would you feel if you catch your best friend's girl, dating someone in front of his face. Not only that, she didn't even say anything to him when she walk by him. Seeing that I was mad and wasn't going to do anything. He did for me. To him, that is beyond low for anyone to do to him or his friends. If you were someone else that night, trust me babe, he was very very respectful to you. Granted he raised his voice because he was mad and drunk from the previous fight. If it was someone else, it would end up very differently.
I am again sorry for everyone's action the other night. I shouldv'e stopped them but i was too angry and didn't. I couldn't sleep at all after that. It hurt me very much to have pack all of the memories we've had together for 4 years that morning to give it back to you.
About that hotter girlfriend B.S. you know it as well as I do. Do you seriously think that after all these year, I am the kind of person who would say what you and your mom understood it as? I was making a point of how much I love you and want to be with you even with these stupid girls around. Tell your mom to re-read them e-mails of yours. I am sorry that she misunderstood me and don't like me. I have a lot of repsect for her and wouldn't dare talking back to her. I am sorry that Joe did, but he doesn't know better. He treat everyone like it's they're at his age level and maturity.
Like I said, i've talk to all of them and none of them will bother you or your "friend" ever again. Oh yea, when you're sitting in the front and your friends sit on the back, that psychologically means that you are with the person in front and the one sit behind are just trail along. I didn't say that you are "with" "with him".
As you said it best on your Instant messenger away message "Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy" - Aileen
Good luck with your "friend"
From: "" <@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: about last night
To: "Bao" <@yahoo.com>
I just dont understand why you don't believe me that we are just friends. Now I feel like that i will never be able to go out with any of my frineds without worry if you and joe and all his friends will show up and start stuff wiht me. Bao go out there and date. I am not dateing anyone i just have been hanging out wiht my friends from work. Thats all I am doing. I would like it if you would stop putting friends in qutoes b/c all were are friends weither you belive me or not. Not being with you isnt the easy thing for me to do either, and when you gave the stuff back i was in my room crying all day. I care a bout you so much and I still do but after last night you really hurt me. I am not going to try and explain anymore to you b/c you never seem to understand waht I am trying to tell you.
As for the Save The Hores Ride a Cowboy...It is a Country song from Big & Rich. you can chcek it out on cmt.com under videos. I am sorry if you took it the wrong way.
Sorry things had to end like this. I had great 4 years with you and its been jsut as hard for me as it has been for you. I am sorry that you dont belive me when i tell you the truth.
Bao @yahoo.com> wrote:
They were all drunks (I wasn't) and has been fighting 2 different people before we got there around 2. So they were pretty riled up in the first place before we got there. They were just trying to cheer me up and suggested to take me eat. As far as we know, all we see is that some guy is having dinner with you in the middle of the night. And as soon as I see you, you just picked up and left with him. Now all this happen before Joe even see you and the other guy. Don't say that oh they went over our table harrassing us and we were forced to leave. As you got by the exit, where we were getting in. Joe by this time, saw this, and asked me what's up? am I doing anything about this? I was just as mad as he was at the time but I say no. He said, She just straight up walk past you without saying anything man. So he decided to say something.
After 2 fights and a couple of drinks 2 hours before all this. trust me Joe talked to you with a lot of respect at that time. He wouldn't dare call you any name, or stop you from going at all. If it were someone else, it would have happen a lot differently.
All I heard him said to you was.
- Aileen! That was f*k up!
- You could've said hi to the kid. I don't care who you are with, you couldv'e said hi to him.
And by that time, you and the other guy went to the car to leave.
How would you feel if you catch your best friend's girl, dating someone in front of his face. Not only that, she didn't even say anything to him when she walk by him. Seeing that I was mad and wasn't going to do anything. He did for me. To him, that is beyond low for anyone to do to him or his friends. If you were someone else that night, trust me babe, he was very very respectful to you. Granted he raised his voice because he was mad and drunk from the previous fight. If it was someone else, it would end up very differently.
I am again sorry for everyone's action the other night. I shouldv'e stopped them but i was too angry and didn't. I couldn't sleep at all after that. It hurt me very much to have pack all of the memories we've had together for 4 years that morning to give it back to you.
About that hotter girlfriend B.S. you know it as well as I do. Do you seriously think that after all these year, I am the kind of person who would say what you and your mom understood it as? I was making a point of how much I love you and want to be with you even with these stupid girls around. Tell your mom to re-read them e-mails of yours. I am sorry that she misunderstood me and don't like me. I have a lot of repsect for her and wouldn't dare talking back to her. I am sorry that Joe did, but he doesn't know better. He treat everyone like it's they're at his age level and maturity.
Like I said, i've talk to all of them and none of them will bother you or your "friend" ever again. Oh yea, when you're sitting in the front and your friends sit on the back, that psychologically means that you are with the person in front and the one sit behind are just trail along. I didn't say that you are "with" "with him".
As you said it best on your Instant messenger away message "Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy" - Aileen
Good luck with your "friend"
imported_Aelius
Golden Member
Did you come back from Iraq and this "arguing" started?
Did you both serve in Iraq? I'm only asking because you said you both went through boot camp.
It's hard for someone whom hasn't seen combat, if they are a soldier or passed soldier, to understand what someone else has gone through whom has been in combat unless they are highly introverted.
The differences in your experiences and how you now react to it could be exact opposites, which I can see why that might cause a relationship, strong or not, to collapse. It doesn't mean it's impossible to fix the relationship but communication, very deep discussions, where the one whom hasn't been in combat must be highly understanding and be able to feel empathy.
This is all assumptions since I can only guess at your specific situation.
If you were both in combat then a general lack of communication on your experiences might be what caused the rift which again begs the question did you both serve togeather and if so in combat as well?
Did you both serve in Iraq? I'm only asking because you said you both went through boot camp.
It's hard for someone whom hasn't seen combat, if they are a soldier or passed soldier, to understand what someone else has gone through whom has been in combat unless they are highly introverted.
The differences in your experiences and how you now react to it could be exact opposites, which I can see why that might cause a relationship, strong or not, to collapse. It doesn't mean it's impossible to fix the relationship but communication, very deep discussions, where the one whom hasn't been in combat must be highly understanding and be able to feel empathy.
This is all assumptions since I can only guess at your specific situation.
If you were both in combat then a general lack of communication on your experiences might be what caused the rift which again begs the question did you both serve togeather and if so in combat as well?
lavagirl669
Diamond Member
email was a bit tough to decipher....but it sounds to me like a lot of trust
was broken and accusations and stuff.
Just keep your distance and do other stuff....if she comes around it was meant to be
if not....You'll be ok.
and cheers to you for being in Iraq and I'm glad you got home safe
was broken and accusations and stuff.
Just keep your distance and do other stuff....if she comes around it was meant to be
if not....You'll be ok.
and cheers to you for being in Iraq and I'm glad you got home safe
lavagirl669
Diamond Member
give it some time dude....she might come around
girls are weird like that sometimes.
Maybe it is better not to call her right now, she will just build up more anger. It sucks but just take time to yourself and continue on with life. If she comes back it's good news but if she doesn't you are just going to have to bite your tongue and keep on going. Good luck and from the e-mail name you must be Viet.
Kroze
Diamond Member
thanks. do you think it's good for me to take everything that reminds me of her and gave it all back to her? I now feel really alone because of that. I return everything imagineable. even stuff that's not hers, as long as anything that remind me of her.... now i'm feeling so empty. the only thing i have left is digital pictures of our vacation to the bahamas.
I already removed all of her pictures from my site. www.bao2k.com
I already removed all of her pictures from my site. www.bao2k.com
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