I love being a tech-savvy parent >:D

[Fritzo]

My daughter started driving in the last year, and she's been going out with her friends on weekends, but she seems to have a problem getting home before curfew. I recently installed Lookout security on her phone, so now I'm using the "locate phone" feature to track her movements when she's out.

Last night, she claimed she was stuck by traffic and was going to be late. I checked her location and she was actually in an entirely different county! I had her mom call her and start asking questions to see if she would admit she was lying...never admitted to being where she wasn't supposed to be.

We finally had to tell her we could see her exact location and she freaked out and demanded to know how we could see her. Instead of telling her about Lookout, I said we installed a tracking device in the car for her safety.

I believe good parenting involves instilling just the right amount of paranoia :twisted:

 

[sixone]

And what was her punishment for lying?

 

[waggy]

agreed.

Trust but verify. I don't go through my kids stuff in there bedroom. but i do have the tracking on the phone.

 

[Vdubchaos]

OP, did she pay for the car or does she pay insurance/gas etc?

Also does she pay for her own phone?

And what was her punishment for lying?

This

OP?

 

[Fritzo]

And what was her punishment for lying?

No car, phone, ipad, and Macbook for a week. Going 30 miles away from where you are supposed to be is kind of a big deal. If we didn't have tracking and she drove into a ditch somewhere, we would never find her.

OP, did she pay for the car or does she pay insurance/gas etc?

She uses my car. She's only 16 and didn't get home until nearly 12:30am. We have a curfew law saying anyone under 18 can not be out without a parent/guardian after 12am.

 

[SheHateMe]

Creepy.

 

[Red Storm]

Change title to "I love being a creeper controlling parent who's afraid to be open with my children!"

Believe me, you acting like big Brother and spying on your kids is not at all going to help your bond with them or their trust in you.

 

[Vdubchaos]

No car, phone, ipad, and Macbook for a week. Going 30 miles away from where you are supposed to be is kind of a big deal. If we didn't have tracking and she drove into a ditch somewhere, we would never find her.

pfffft

She won't mind.....week is NOTHING

 

[Fritzo]

Change title to "I love being a creeper controlling parent who's afraid to be open with my children!"

Believe me, you acting like big Brother and spying on your kids is not at all going to help your bond with them or their trust in you.

You're grounded next mister.

 

[Jaskalas]

You ever get the truth of what she was doing?

 

[z1ggy]

But even with all that, you still won't be able to tell how many dudes are trying to tap that a$$ at the party she is at.

 

[SheHateMe]

If we didn't have tracking and she drove into a ditch somewhere, we would never find her.

Do you guys live in the Australian Outback or something?


Sounds like you're being a drama queen.

 

[Vdubchaos]

You ever get the truth of what she was doing?

Chances are, he probably doesn't want to know. What you don't know, can't hurt you.

(big con to "technology" thing he is so excited about)

 

[SheHateMe]

Can't wait to hear about you stalking her once she goes off to college.


"I see you at that Kegger, honey. I put a tracker on you..."

 

[Vdubchaos]

But even with all that, you still won't be able to tell how many dudes are trying to tap that a$$ at the party she is at.

Hey hey hey

Take it easy on the guy. Raising a daughter is not easy (probably the hardest thing I have EVER had to deal with).

But it's also rewarding in many respects....

 

[olds]

I approve of this technology. But 1 week for lying is going easy on her.

 

[lxskllr]

You screwed up. You tipped your hand over a triviality. Kids are never where they say they are. You should have saved the information for something more important.

As far as tracking goes... I'm not willing to come out and say it's wrong, but it's distasteful. Kids need freedom to explore and make mistakes. It's a necessary part of growing up.

 

[sixone]

No car, phone, ipad, and Macbook for a week. Going 30 miles away from where you are supposed to be is kind of a big deal. If we didn't have tracking and she drove into a ditch somewhere, we would never find her.

Good on you, for being an active, protective parent.

 

[Krazy4Real]

Do you really need to know what she was doing? Or rather, do you really want to know?

 

[Fritzo]

You ever get the truth of what she was doing?

She was carting friends around and dropping them off...with my gas and no gas money offered.

You screwed up. You tipped your hand over a triviality. Kids are never where they say they are. You should have saved the information for something more important.

As far as tracking goes... I'm not willing to come out and say it's wrong, but it's distasteful. Kids need freedom to explore and make mistakes. It's a necessary part of growing up.

On that, I don't keep tabs on her unless she's doing something wrong. She can go wherever she wants as long as she tells us where she's going and when she's going to be back. If she's not back when she said she's going to be, you're damn right I'm going to track her.

Do you guys live in the Australian Outback or something?


Sounds like you're being a drama queen.

We live in the country, and most roads are two narrow lanes at 55mph with ditches on each side. She's 16 and driving at night on these roads...not the safest environment. City driving is a different story.

 

[Vdubchaos]

She was carting friends around and dropping them off...with my gas and no gas money offered.

You still haven't answered my questions.

Was it with you car as well.
Does she use your phone?
Does she pay insurance?

If the answer is yes, what does it matter if it's your gas as well?

 

[SheHateMe]

Oh look, she was carting her friends around and here you were thinking she was going to get swallowed by a black hole if you didn't put a tracker on her phone.


Helicopter parents..

 

[purbeast0]

wow that sounds a little harsh. lying to your parents and getting away with it is part of growing up.

 

[Mixolydian]

I approve of this technology. But 1 week for lying is going easy on her.

Seriously? Everybody lies. Especially teenagers. No amount of punishment can change that.

 

[ultimatebob]

You screwed up. You tipped your hand over a triviality. Kids are never where they say they are. You should have saved the information for something more important.

As far as tracking goes... I'm not willing to come out and say it's wrong, but it's distasteful. Kids need freedom to explore and make mistakes. It's a necessary part of growing up.

Yeah... if she's smart, she'll have a tech savvy friend check her phone and remove the tracking software. Then she'll go party in Atlantic City to celebrate