• We’re currently investigating an issue related to the forum theme and styling that is impacting page layout and visual formatting. The problem has been identified, and we are actively working on a resolution. There is no impact to user data or functionality, this is strictly a front-end display issue. We’ll post an update once the fix has been deployed. Thanks for your patience while we get this sorted.

I left my G/F of 8yrs last nite

Page 4 - Seeking answers? Join the AnandTech community: where nearly half-a-million members share solutions and discuss the latest tech.
Congrats on your newfound freedom. Take advantage of it! Oh, and don't be afraid of her grandpa... you can take him. 😉
 
OK i have a question that's been bothering me and I guess it indirectly relates to this topic.

Is it really that awful to marry and be faithful to the first (and only) girl you were ever with? Is the relationship/marriage doomed to fail? Are you going to forever wish for someone else/better? I know i'm generalizing and obviously every relationship is different. But while the OP had very specific issues regarding this gf...one of the major parts was that he wanted to "experience" more with OTHER women, he doesn't want to be tied down anymore with the first and only girl he's ever slept with.

So is that the case for most guys? Should I even bother staying with my bf if he's just going to spend the rest of our relationship wishing he could "try out" other girls? I dunno...maybe the fact that he wasn't MY first might cause him to wish MORE that he could be with other girls. I don't want to end up like the OP's gf...8 years later being thrown away just so he can have his "variety". I personally think he's already starting to entertain the idea...might even be shopping around. I don't want to have to deal with the pain of being let go so he could seek his pleasure in another girl. I'd rather end the relationship on MY terms.

blah. i'm ranting..i'm sorry.
 
Originally posted by: Jikininki
So is that the case for most guys?
Click to expand...

I never really started to feel that way until I got older and was thinking more about what I wanted in life. Then I started to think about what would make me happy and if I could really be trully happy with this girl. I don't think it matters as long as both parties are happy. Apparently, people just change alot between highschool and college ages. 16-24.
 
Originally posted by: Jikininki
OK i have a question that's been bothering me and I guess it indirectly relates to this topic.

Is it really that awful to marry and be faithful to the first (and only) girl you were ever with? Is the relationship/marriage doomed to fail? Are you going to forever wish for someone else/better? I know i'm generalizing and obviously every relationship is different. But while the OP had very specific issues regarding this gf...one of the major parts was that he wanted to "experience" more with OTHER women, he doesn't want to be tied down anymore with the first and only girl he's ever slept with.

So is that the case for most guys? Should I even bother staying with my bf if he's just going to spend the rest of our relationship wishing he could "try out" other girls? I dunno...maybe the fact that he wasn't MY first might cause him to wish MORE that he could be with other girls. I don't want to end up like the OP's gf...8 years later being thrown away just so he can have his "variety". I personally think he's already starting to entertain the idea...might even be shopping around. I don't want to have to deal with the pain of being let go so he could seek his pleasure in another girl. I'd rather end the relationship on MY terms.

blah. i'm ranting..i'm sorry.
Click to expand...


No. My current gf of 3 years is my 2nd. Granted and are pretty close to over as well but it has nothing to do with me wanting other women.

 
Originally posted by: Jikininki
OK i have a question that's been bothering me and I guess it indirectly relates to this topic.

Is it really that awful to marry and be faithful to the first (and only) girl you were ever with? Is the relationship/marriage doomed to fail? Are you going to forever wish for someone else/better? I know i'm generalizing and obviously every relationship is different. But while the OP had very specific issues regarding this gf...one of the major parts was that he wanted to "experience" more with OTHER women, he doesn't want to be tied down anymore with the first and only girl he's ever slept with.

So is that the case for most guys? Should I even bother staying with my bf if he's just going to spend the rest of our relationship wishing he could "try out" other girls? I dunno...maybe the fact that he wasn't MY first might cause him to wish MORE that he could be with other girls. I don't want to end up like the OP's gf...8 years later being thrown away just so he can have his "variety". I personally think he's already starting to entertain the idea...might even be shopping around. I don't want to have to deal with the pain of being let go so he could seek his pleasure in another girl. I'd rather end the relationship on MY terms.

blah. i'm ranting..i'm sorry.
Click to expand...

Eh, the OP wanted to experience other women cause he wasnt happy with the one he was with, no because of some universal rule that you can never marry your first. He lasted an impressive 8 years with this one.

But marriage is still contrary to million of years of instinct and evolution that make us men want to bury our bones in every woman's backyard. As long as he knows well enough just to look and not to touch, don't give him a hard time...it's a daily struggle. 😛

Granted, there is definitely a part of any man (or woman) that will always wonder how it would be different if they were with someone else, or if they didnt have to deal with the downsides of a relationship, but at the end of the day, that is something you have to live with.
 
Originally posted by: zachtos
Originally posted by: Jikininki
So is that the case for most guys?
Click to expand...

I never really started to feel that way until I got older and was thinking more about what I wanted in life. Then I started to think about what would make me happy and if I could really be trully happy with this girl. I don't think it matters as long as both parties are happy. Apparently, people just change alot between highschool and college ages. 16-24.
Click to expand...

Definitely very true - those are the years where you turn from child to adult. The person I was at 16 is not the person I am at 26. You can't possibly make good decisions about the rest of your adult life when you don't have the experience nor the fully formed brain to make those decisions wisely.

It isn't inevitable that people grow apart, but it does seem to happen quite often. It's kind of a shame that it took 8 years for you to realize that, but it wasn't all for nothing - if you didn't go through this, then you wouldn't know what to avoid next time around.
 
Originally posted by: Jikininki
OK i have a question that's been bothering me and I guess it indirectly relates to this topic.

Is it really that awful to marry and be faithful to the first (and only) girl you were ever with? Is the relationship/marriage doomed to fail? Are you going to forever wish for someone else/better? I know i'm generalizing and obviously every relationship is different. But while the OP had very specific issues regarding this gf...one of the major parts was that he wanted to "experience" more with OTHER women, he doesn't want to be tied down anymore with the first and only girl he's ever slept with.

So is that the case for most guys? Should I even bother staying with my bf if he's just going to spend the rest of our relationship wishing he could "try out" other girls? I dunno...maybe the fact that he wasn't MY first might cause him to wish MORE that he could be with other girls. I don't want to end up like the OP's gf...8 years later being thrown away just so he can have his "variety". I personally think he's already starting to entertain the idea...might even be shopping around. I don't want to have to deal with the pain of being let go so he could seek his pleasure in another girl. I'd rather end the relationship on MY terms.

blah. i'm ranting..i'm sorry.
Click to expand...

I personally have no problem with it. Like everything else, especially relationships, its all a matter of an opinion and the fact that no two relationships are alike. I say that people should do what they want and when they think its time for the relationship to end, then let it happen. But, if you still love spending time with one another and are still having fun with little conflict (conflict is necessary for healthy relationships afterall!), then keep doing what you are doing.

I'm marrying my first, and if you have a problem with it, DIAF.
 
you may want to actually talk to girls in real life instead of on-line though.....

grats on getting out
 
IMHO you need to be single for a decent amount of time, you're already talking to the womens and searching for the next person when you need to be looking for the next one night stand then moving on.

I've had friends that are the same way, they just don't know how to not be in a long term relationship.

It'll do you some good to not get all wrapped up in a new relationship right away, give yourself at least 6 months down time before getting tied down again.

Just my opinion though.

 
GOOD FOR YOU. I'm glad you dumped that biatch and moved on. Now seriously, go out in the real world and meet people face to face. Internet dating is for losers.

danny~!
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

TRENDING THREADS

Back
Top