should i leave my g/f?
I asked this question on anandtech about a week ago. I also posted my situation on multiple relationship sites. Everyone said the same thing, get out.
I told her last night that I haven't been happy for years and felt that I could never marry her without knowing what else is out there. I said I can't keep stringing her along and pretending to be happy because that is wrong. I told her that it wasn't from the weight she gained, but more to do with deeper issues. such as incompatible sense of humors (apparently I'm uber immature). but the truth is, she isn't very smart and most jokes are over her head or just not funny too her. I like dry/sarcastic, she likes wacky/goofy humor. She hates all of my friends and vice versa. Both our families wanted it to end. I think I stayed so long because I was afraid to be alone and grew acustomed to her. very different then being in love I'm told. I didn't cry, or really tear up. I did lose a few hours of sleep and woke my parents up to talk about it last night with them. I told her she can still email me, but that we can not see eachother anymore because it will make it too hard on her. I told her I intend to be alone to learn about myself but plan to see other people eventually. She said she will always be there waiting for me. she did threaten to kill herself again, and I was scared when I left last night. She took off before I could say a final goodbye and hid behind the house crying and screaming. Her grandpa chased me out of the driveway and I peeled out in terror. I heard firetrucks taking off right after I left which scared me, but she called my sister a half hour later so I think she's ok. I'm worried about her, But I really am looking forward to being able to date and do whatever I want when I want. I have never had that before.
Do you think I did the right thing, or handled this improperly?
UPDATE
I've only been single a week and already have been talking to alot of girls online. I'm trying to avoid the bar scene still. I have found a girl that I really like and we have been talking back and forth. She is smart and sense of humor and is moderatly attractive. I'm very happy right now. First time in years. Only a week!
I asked this question on anandtech about a week ago. I also posted my situation on multiple relationship sites. Everyone said the same thing, get out.
I told her last night that I haven't been happy for years and felt that I could never marry her without knowing what else is out there. I said I can't keep stringing her along and pretending to be happy because that is wrong. I told her that it wasn't from the weight she gained, but more to do with deeper issues. such as incompatible sense of humors (apparently I'm uber immature). but the truth is, she isn't very smart and most jokes are over her head or just not funny too her. I like dry/sarcastic, she likes wacky/goofy humor. She hates all of my friends and vice versa. Both our families wanted it to end. I think I stayed so long because I was afraid to be alone and grew acustomed to her. very different then being in love I'm told. I didn't cry, or really tear up. I did lose a few hours of sleep and woke my parents up to talk about it last night with them. I told her she can still email me, but that we can not see eachother anymore because it will make it too hard on her. I told her I intend to be alone to learn about myself but plan to see other people eventually. She said she will always be there waiting for me. she did threaten to kill herself again, and I was scared when I left last night. She took off before I could say a final goodbye and hid behind the house crying and screaming. Her grandpa chased me out of the driveway and I peeled out in terror. I heard firetrucks taking off right after I left which scared me, but she called my sister a half hour later so I think she's ok. I'm worried about her, But I really am looking forward to being able to date and do whatever I want when I want. I have never had that before.
Do you think I did the right thing, or handled this improperly?
UPDATE
I've only been single a week and already have been talking to alot of girls online. I'm trying to avoid the bar scene still. I have found a girl that I really like and we have been talking back and forth. She is smart and sense of humor and is moderatly attractive. I'm very happy right now. First time in years. Only a week!
for taking the advice of us animals here.
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