I just got possibly the worst insult I could get

[Lean L]

I was talking to my roommate the other day and he said something along the lines of I am static and that he learned everything about me in the first month of living with me. That cannot be true for anybody but it does ring true in a sense. I usually put on almost a masquerade to hide my vulnerabilities. I never talk to him seriously and often say things to provoke a response. Honestly I think it's better to do that as opposed to having nothing to say or being soft spoken.

This translates to other problems though as I don't take anything seriously and no one takes me seriously. WTF? I realize that I don't have any long term friends nor do I keep in touch with people who I like. I've been to a shrink and even her response is that I didn't open up to her as much as she would have liked.

Is this a serious problem? Anyone in a similar boat?

 

[shortylickens]

Nope. Opposite.
I let everyone know exactly whats going on in my head every minute of the day.

Amazingly enough, no one likes it.

People are fucking hypocrites.

 

[purbeast0]

i thought you were gonna say that somebody called you an idiot.

 

[SunnyD]

Start doing shit totally bizarre and completely unexpected from your usual routine. Sounds like your roommate needs a good fapping on his bed or something to spice things up.

 

[Corporate Thug]

you're static is the worst insult?

 

[MotF Bane]

you're static is the worst insult?

This.

 

[NikolaeVarius]

I think your username explains the problem quite well.

 

[BrokenVisage]

STAY BACK, I'M NOT AFRAID TO USE IT!

 

[Leros]

So you're boring?

 

[unxpurg8d]

good grief - THAT is the worst insult?!?! Send your roommate over to me for awhile. I'll send him back with an arsenal of insults that will broaden your horizons on the subject. That'll make "static" a whole lot less painful.

 

[JeffreyLebowski]

Your roommate is correct. Some people are static in that they behave in a very predictable way. Their responses to situations and events can be viewed and easily predicted. I know several people like this.
It's scary being able to predict someone's responses so accurately.

 

[HAL9000]

Personally I think being open with people is paramount, it makes for stronger more intimate relationships, I have friends who are closed off, and it is a problem, I won't lie. I don't think I could live with them. It works for some people but not for me.

 

[CurseTheSky]

I wouldn't take it as in insult. I rarely show my true colors, except to my closest of friends and family. Too many people my age (early to mid 20s) seem to still be stuck in the high school drama routine, and it's just not worth the effort to be a genuine person around them.

I just let them keep guessing. Guessing whether or not I actually meant what I said, whether or not I'm silent during their crazy story because I disapprove or because I've done the same crazy shit myself. If they're truly interested in me as a person, they can come open up to me first.



Edit: I met my fiancée and several of my closest friends that way. I even had one of my really good friends ask me, dead serious, if I was the devil once. It was f'n great.

 

[olds]

That's nothing, OP. Now, if you had said that he thought you were neckbeard...

 

[WT]

It's scary being able to predict someone's responses so accurately.

Scary not really the right word there.

When someone yells "FIRE!!!" in a movie theater, I run for the exit. Predictable ? yes.

The fact that you knew I was going to run is not scary.

Damn, you guys haven't seen predictable until you've lived with an autistic ! Then let me know how predictable OP is compared to that !

 

[HAL9000]

That's nothing, OP. Now, if you had said that he thought you were neckbeard...

You love me don't you? You just can't stop talking me about me, every time I see you post it's about me, as I've mentioned before if you want to fuck me this badly please PM me, don't just constantly troll.

 

[spaceman]

say what u feel
feel what u mean

 

[olds]

You love me don't you? You just can't stop talking me about me, every time I see you post it's about me, as I've mentioned before if you want to fuck me this badly please PM me, don't just constantly troll.

You're name isn't neckbeard. And stating facts isn't trolling.

 

[Crono]

I would say, "I'm not you're entertainment, fool".

 

[HAL9000]

You're name isn't neckbeard. And stating facts isn't trolling.

You didn't state any facts, and people call me neckbeard as well you know.

 

[SphinxnihpS]

I've never met anyone more annoying than someone with his heart on his sleeve. Emotional openess is reserved for those you TRUST. Trust no one!

Frankly I am stronly opposed to nearly all of humanist and gestalt phycological views. Thank god neuroscience is englufing its pseudo-science counterpart, psychology.

 

[HAL9000]

I've never met anyone more annoying than someone with his heart on his sleeve. Emotional openess is reserved for those you TRUST. Trust no one!

Frankly I am stronly opposed to nearly all of humanist and gestalt phycological views. Thank god neuroscience is englufing its pseudo-science counterpart, psychology.

I cannot more strongly disagree with this, being open, honest and emotional are fantastic traits in people that make life better.

 

[Jeffg010]

You didn't state any facts, and people call me neckbeard as well you know.

Don't feel to bad at least he did call you moonbeam.

 

[Crono]

Thank god neuroscience is englufing its pseudo-science counterpart, psychology.

Agree with that.

Psychology is philosophy in disguise. Neither of which I liked being required to take in college.

 

[Redfraggle]

I was talking to my roommate the other day and he said something along the lines of I am static and that he learned everything about me in the first month of living with me. That cannot be true for anybody but it does ring true in a sense. I usually put on almost a masquerade to hide my vulnerabilities. I never talk to him seriously and often say things to provoke a response. Honestly I think it's better to do that as opposed to having nothing to say or being soft spoken.

This translates to other problems though as I don't take anything seriously and no one takes me seriously. WTF? I realize that I don't have any long term friends nor do I keep in touch with people who I like. I've been to a shrink and even her response is that I didn't open up to her as much as she would have liked.

Is this a serious problem? Anyone in a similar boat?

I am surprised you have to ask if it's a problem or not. Yes, it's a problem.

Also, yes, he probably learned everything he needed to about you in a month.