I have never seen so many proud parents in my life.

[zerocool84]

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: eLiu
Haha my mother actually has a very different take on this. I went to MIT for my undergrad, and so during the admit week I got a bumper-sticker for her. She put it up in her office & people would way things like "wow, you must be proud" etc. But her view on the matter is that she doesn't have much to be proud of. She gave birth to me and kept me alive/healthy for 18 years and taught me plenty of things, but she argues that a child's academic achievements are theirs alone & should have nothing to do with the parents (beyond genetics).

I dunno what I think about that one way or the other since I'm not a parent, but I always thought that was at least an interesting viewpoint.

In my case, my mom was my teacher and counselor and my achievements are very much to her credit. (UC Davis, so I don't have extreme bragging rights... but I did graduate double major at 19.) My mom is amazing. 🙂

So I'm guessing you had no life when you were younger. That must suck.

 

[LordMorpheus]

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: eLiu
Haha my mother actually has a very different take on this. I went to MIT for my undergrad, and so during the admit week I got a bumper-sticker for her. She put it up in her office & people would way things like "wow, you must be proud" etc. But her view on the matter is that she doesn't have much to be proud of. She gave birth to me and kept me alive/healthy for 18 years and taught me plenty of things, but she argues that a child's academic achievements are theirs alone & should have nothing to do with the parents (beyond genetics).

I dunno what I think about that one way or the other since I'm not a parent, but I always thought that was at least an interesting viewpoint.

In my case, my mom was my teacher and counselor and my achievements are very much to her credit. (UC Davis, so I don't have extreme bragging rights... but I did graduate double major at 19.) My mom is amazing. 🙂

I'll be starting my Ph.D. in mechanical engineering at Cornell next fall (could have been Stanford, but they wanted me to pay ...). This is my accomplishment.

However, doing well enough in middleschool to make the cut for one of the better Jesuit schools back home, and doing well enough there to get into Rice for my undergrad, that's my mom's doing. I didn't learn how to push myself until late highschool/early college.

an aside: my parents knew this and were expecting pretty abyssmal grades my first semester at Rice. But I also knew this and overcompensated and made the best grades in my life that semseter. Things were downhill from there, but only slightly.

 

[eLiu]

Originally posted by: Dear Summer

Originally posted by: eLiu
Haha my mother actually has a very different take on this. I went to MIT for my undergrad, and so during the admit week I got a bumper-sticker for her. She put it up in her office & people would way things like "wow, you must be proud" etc. But her view on the matter is that she doesn't have much to be proud of. She gave birth to me and kept me alive/healthy for 18 years and taught me plenty of things, but she argues that a child's academic achievements are theirs alone & should have nothing to do with the parents (beyond genetics).

I dunno what I think about that one way or the other since I'm not a parent, but I always thought that was at least an interesting viewpoint.

but didn't your parents push you to achieve academic success?

any kind of tutoring, mentorship, etc?
I'm sure your parents played a very large part.

My parents left me alone academically after the 2nd grade. It was kind of a fast jump actually... b/c I didn't quite get the whole reading thing down until 2nd grade (and my mom thought I was retarded, seriously). So she used to spend a lot of time with me every day reading simple shit like "One fish two fish..." lol. No but after that I did very well in school and I don't really remember my parents ever pressuring me.

edit: and my mother claims she didn't have to watch me academically after the 2nd grade as well, so I'm not inventing this. Looks like I was a naturally over-achieving douche 😀

 

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: zerocool84

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: eLiu
Haha my mother actually has a very different take on this. I went to MIT for my undergrad, and so during the admit week I got a bumper-sticker for her. She put it up in her office & people would way things like "wow, you must be proud" etc. But her view on the matter is that she doesn't have much to be proud of. She gave birth to me and kept me alive/healthy for 18 years and taught me plenty of things, but she argues that a child's academic achievements are theirs alone & should have nothing to do with the parents (beyond genetics).

I dunno what I think about that one way or the other since I'm not a parent, but I always thought that was at least an interesting viewpoint.

In my case, my mom was my teacher and counselor and my achievements are very much to her credit. (UC Davis, so I don't have extreme bragging rights... but I did graduate double major at 19.) My mom is amazing. 🙂

So I'm guessing you had no life when you were younger. That must suck.

wow talk about sippin' unnecessary haterade

 

[Dacalo]

Originally posted by: AreaCode707
In my case, my mom was my teacher and counselor and my achievements are very much to her credit. (UC Davis, so I don't have extreme bragging rights... but I did graduate double major at 19.) My mom is amazing. 🙂

Fellow Aggie!

Originally posted by: Farang

Originally posted by: paulney

Originally posted by: AreaCode707
My mom is amazing. 🙂

That's what I said.

Dude, your own mom?

pwnzzz!

 

[Suspicious-Teach8788]

Originally posted by: Kaieye
Yes, I was one of those lucky parents. I have met over a dozen parents and they were all happy, smiling and feeling great about their kid's accomplishment. Quite a few were at Harvard and Yale the past week but ALL but one wants their kid to go to Stanford.

Life is good!

HEY! I was at StanFUrd on admit day too. Except it was for a friend's wedding. I saw all the young freshmen getting tours. I missed being a freshmen or even in HS =)

Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
Go Bears

Originally posted by: esun
As a Cal grad, I say SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS and GO BEARS!

Kudos to your kid, nonetheless.

FVCK YES. I was at Cal day last week too. Which reminds me... time to buy football tickets =)

 

[Kaieye]

Originally posted by: DLeRium

Originally posted by: Kaieye
Yes, I was one of those lucky parents. I have met over a dozen parents and they were all happy, smiling and feeling great about their kid's accomplishment. Quite a few were at Harvard and Yale the past week but ALL but one wants their kid to go to Stanford.

Life is good!

HEY! I was at StanFUrd on admit day too. Except it was for a friend's wedding. I saw all the young freshmen getting tours. I missed being a freshmen or even in HS =)

Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
Go Bears

Originally posted by: esun
As a Cal grad, I say SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS and GO BEARS!

Kudos to your kid, nonetheless.

FVCK YES. I was at Cal day last week too. Which reminds me... time to buy football tickets =)

Were you at the Old Union building where I saw all those chairs?

 

[allies]

Originally posted by: Mo0o

Originally posted by: Slew Foot
From my experiences with Stanford grads, that must be the most overrated school on the planet.

hmm opposite experience for me

So from your experience with Stanford grads, the uni is the most underrated school on the planet? Looks like you didn't go to Stanford 😛

Congrats on your kid being smart, OP.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: zerocool84

Originally posted by: AreaCode707

Originally posted by: eLiu
Haha my mother actually has a very different take on this. I went to MIT for my undergrad, and so during the admit week I got a bumper-sticker for her. She put it up in her office & people would way things like "wow, you must be proud" etc. But her view on the matter is that she doesn't have much to be proud of. She gave birth to me and kept me alive/healthy for 18 years and taught me plenty of things, but she argues that a child's academic achievements are theirs alone & should have nothing to do with the parents (beyond genetics).

I dunno what I think about that one way or the other since I'm not a parent, but I always thought that was at least an interesting viewpoint.

In my case, my mom was my teacher and counselor and my achievements are very much to her credit. (UC Davis, so I don't have extreme bragging rights... but I did graduate double major at 19.) My mom is amazing. 🙂

So I'm guessing you had no life when you were younger. That must suck.

Originally posted by: TallBill
Sounds like you missed out on a lot of fun. Hope you made up for it afterwards.

Depends on your definition of "fun" and "no life". I have a lot of good friends, never been into getting drunk/substanced out of my mind, and never would have done that in any case. I did go straight from school to work, so I can see the argument that I should have taken more time to just kick back and screw around, but I'm married to an incredible guy and live with him and some of my very best friends. I like my life. 🙂 I know it's not for everyone, but it works for me.

 

[sactoking]

Originally posted by: QueBert
maybe they were all just so happy because they knew their kid would soon be moving out?

They were proud b/c they were the naive ones that don't know that the trust fund legacy kids at Stanford have a pretty good black market trade going in beer, hard alcohol, cocaine, heroin, nitrous, etc. and that the drug culture there is very prevalent. Too many angst-y, well-funded white kids with nothing better to do.

Stanford, in my experience, has a tendency to produce VERY qualified graduates, but they tend to have little social skill. They also seem to have a very high rate of dropouts and losers. There seems to be little middle ground with that school's culture.

 

[BoomerD]

The closest I'll ever get to attending Stanford was a few years ago working on a couple of construction projects there.

Can't really tell you what they were, (no, not top secret) I really don't know what the projects final outcome were going to be. We were doing foundations and such.

I dunno...with free tuition for those making under $100K...😀 now if I only was smart enough to be admitted...😛

 

[Engineer]

Originally posted by: Rockinacoustic
You'll be smiling until you get that tuition bill 😉

That's what I was thinking, lol! :laugh:

Edit:

Originally posted by: Mo0o

Originally posted by: Rockinacoustic
You'll be smiling until you get that tuition bill 😉

Stanford gives a ridiculous amount of aid. Free tuition to those families who make less than$100k

Really? In state only I assume. If not, my kids are going to Stanford, lol! 😛

 

[Drako]

Originally posted by: Slew Foot
From my experiences with Stanford grads, that must be the most overrated school on the planet.

LOL, right up there with USC grads. Legands in their own minds.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: eLiu
Haha my mother actually has a very different take on this. I went to MIT for my undergrad, and so during the admit week I got a bumper-sticker for her. She put it up in her office & people would way things like "wow, you must be proud" etc. But her view on the matter is that she doesn't have much to be proud of. She gave birth to me and kept me alive/healthy for 18 years and taught me plenty of things, but she argues that a child's academic achievements are theirs alone & should have nothing to do with the parents (beyond genetics).

I dunno what I think about that one way or the other since I'm not a parent, but I always thought that was at least an interesting viewpoint.

the parent helps in keeping the child on track with studies, helps spark interest in school and learning, as well as gives them motivation to strive and complete difficult tasks. id say it was a good reflection on the parents that a child has the mettle to apply, get accepted and attend/ succeed in a college program.


<--- parent

 

[zanejohnson]

Originally posted by: darkswordsman17
The real question should be, do their kids want to go there?

Don't get me wrong, I'm glad that you seem to have taken an active interest in your kids life, but make sure that you're not just imposing your own will on them.

what kid WOULDN'T want to go to there...besides ungrateful little shits.

 

[zanejohnson]

Originally posted by: QueBert

Originally posted by: Spartan Niner

Originally posted by: QueBert
maybe they were all just so happy because they knew their kid would soon be moving out?

^ clearly not a parent

no, but I have parents and I know when I left home they were thrilled to no end. This whole thing about most parents missing their kids when they move out is a myth. Not saying it doesn't happen, it might even be common. But a lot, and I mean a lot of parents can't wait for the day their children turn 18 so they can give them the boot.

i left when i was ~18, had a g/f who actually lived in my parents house for a short while and we were in a huge hurry to get out... my mom actually missed us and came to visit us alot in the crappy little apartment we moved into... shortly after, she moved and sold us her house, which was a blessing, we got a great deal on a big house in an absolutely amazing place... its in a gated community and the home owners association fees are RIDICULOUS... we even moved out for a while and rented the place out to try to get out from under the burden of paying it... we ended up having horrible renters who couldnt afford the place and ending up in a worse situation than before... we were back in the place in about 8 months, and we're still here, we've pretty much scratched the idea of trying that again, we scrape to survive, and my business is up and down, wife doesnt work because of our two little ones...anyway im rambling now...

oh and for anyone interested, we pay 3600/yr to the poa (property owners association) i guess it's worth it though, there is a really nice golf course, tennis courts, two lake beaches, and everyone is really laid back and nice here... mostly retired old folks, great place to raise kids... and it's nice to see my kids growing up in the same place i did.

 

[TecHNooB]

T_T

I will make sure my kids do well someday.

 

[shopbruin]

Originally posted by: Engineer

Originally posted by: Mo0o

Originally posted by: Rockinacoustic
You'll be smiling until you get that tuition bill 😉

Stanford gives a ridiculous amount of aid. Free tuition to those families who make less than$100k

Really? In state only I assume. If not, my kids are going to Stanford, lol! 😛

They are a private school. You don't have to be a CA resident.

 

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: zanejohnson

Originally posted by: darkswordsman17
The real question should be, do their kids want to go there?

Don't get me wrong, I'm glad that you seem to have taken an active interest in your kids life, but make sure that you're not just imposing your own will on them.

what kid WOULDN'T want to go to there...besides ungrateful little shits.

kids who have to pay their own way.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: eLiu

Originally posted by: Dear Summer

Originally posted by: eLiu
Haha my mother actually has a very different take on this. I went to MIT for my undergrad, and so during the admit week I got a bumper-sticker for her. She put it up in her office & people would way things like "wow, you must be proud" etc. But her view on the matter is that she doesn't have much to be proud of. She gave birth to me and kept me alive/healthy for 18 years and taught me plenty of things, but she argues that a child's academic achievements are theirs alone & should have nothing to do with the parents (beyond genetics).

I dunno what I think about that one way or the other since I'm not a parent, but I always thought that was at least an interesting viewpoint.

but didn't your parents push you to achieve academic success?

any kind of tutoring, mentorship, etc?
I'm sure your parents played a very large part.

My parents left me alone academically after the 2nd grade. It was kind of a fast jump actually... b/c I didn't quite get the whole reading thing down until 2nd grade (and my mom thought I was retarded, seriously). So she used to spend a lot of time with me every day reading simple shit like "One fish two fish..." lol. No but after that I did very well in school and I don't really remember my parents ever pressuring me.

edit: and my mother claims she didn't have to watch me academically after the 2nd grade as well, so I'm not inventing this. Looks like I was a naturally over-achieving douche 😀

That formula does not work on everyone. Props to you for getting-r-done without parental pushing. So where are you in life now?

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: QueBert

Originally posted by: Spartan Niner

Originally posted by: QueBert
maybe they were all just so happy because they knew their kid would soon be moving out?

^ clearly not a parent

no, but I have parents and I know when I left home they were thrilled to no end. This whole thing about most parents missing their kids when they move out is a myth. Not saying it doesn't happen, it might even be common. But a lot, and I mean a lot of parents can't wait for the day their children turn 18 so they can give them the boot.

well, so maybe you just specifically suck?

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: Slew Foot
From my experiences with Stanford grads, that must be the most overrated school on the planet.

well, that would have to be Harvard. Certainly a fantastic school, but the tuition/relevance ratio is so unbelievably fucked up. Granted, the funding you can receive is astronomical, but then Harvard does have a shitload of money.

 

[alkemyst]

hopefully the parents let the kids choose their own education paths. Drove me nuts when I went back to school at 30 and witnessed mostly parents during enrollment with not many students present.

 

[TehMac]

Originally posted by: Spartan Niner

Originally posted by: QueBert
maybe they were all just so happy because they knew their kid would soon be moving out?

^ clearly not ever getting laid

fix'd