I have a Question about the amount of house work your SO does.

[ValkyrieofHouston]

Originally posted by: OhioState

Originally posted by: DainBramaged
ur a woman, it's your job

o man that is soooo cold blooded.

I must be a strange man. I enjoy house work I cook and clean and do laundry.

For example i dont own a mop i clean my floor on my hands and knees and bring along a toothbrush for the grout.

anywho back to your question i would iron them really BADLY and he will come around.

OMG... if only you had a clone or two! GRIN

 

[Chryso]

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
When we first moved in together, before her sister moved in with us, I didn't do as much as I should have. She got pissed. We talked. Now I do my share and everyone's happy.

I want to hear more about her sister living with you...

 

[OVERKILL]

Originally posted by: lizardth

I already cook, clean dishes, clean house, wash clothes, put away laundry, and take care of the yard. Now he has asked me to start ironing his uniforms.

I admit I do not have a job, and I do have a lot of spare time. But you guys just don't know how messy he is. I consider it a triumph that I have trained him to put his dirty clothes in the hamper.

I do have to admit I greatly dislike ironing too...

This isn't the 50's anymore.
You do enough for him.
It's time for him to grow up and take responsibility for his "adult" life.
Your not his momma are you?
Sounds like you have a little boy on your hands.
Remember, You don't have to tolerate this behavior.
He will continue to push the limits until you enforce your boundries.

 

[dawnbug]

I think he's entitled to ask for his shirts to be ironed, since OP doesn't have a job and seems to have plenty of free time to play computer games.

 

[cKGunslinger]

Originally posted by: ValkyrieofHouston

Originally posted by: lizardth

I already cook, clean dishes, clean house, wash clothes, put away laundry, and take care of the yard. Now he has asked me to start ironing his uniforms.

I admit I do not have a job, and I do have a lot of spare time. But you guys just don't know how messy he is. I consider it a triumph that I have trained him to put his dirty clothes in the hamper.

I do have to admit I greatly dislike ironing too...

You are not his mother or his maid. The chores should be mutually shared. He needs to realize that everything in your relationship is shared responsibility regardless of you having a job or not. Besides if you have some spare time that should be your own time to focus on yourself and take a break. Everybody needs some time off for themselves.

And what reason do you have for throwing that caveat in there? She is certainly not "sharing responsibility" when it comes to earning money to pay for the house, car, electricity, food, computer parts, games, bills, etc. While I don't agree with the "she's a woman, that's her job" responses, I certainly don't think ironing a uniform once in a while in exchange for a place to stay, food to eat, toys to play with, etc is such a horrible, insulting deal.

And aren't you the same poster who basically said it was your job to make your man as happy as possible when he came home, including sucking his toes?

 

[cKGunslinger]

Originally posted by: OVERKILL

Originally posted by: lizardth

I already cook, clean dishes, clean house, wash clothes, put away laundry, and take care of the yard. Now he has asked me to start ironing his uniforms.

I admit I do not have a job, and I do have a lot of spare time. But you guys just don't know how messy he is. I consider it a triumph that I have trained him to put his dirty clothes in the hamper.

I do have to admit I greatly dislike ironing too...

This isn't the 50's anymore.
You do enough for him.
It's time for him to grow up and take responsibility for his "adult" life.
Your not his momma are you?
Sounds like you have a little boy on your hands.
Remember, You don't have to tolerate this behavior.
He will continue to push the limits until you enforce your boundries.

Well, somebody didn't read the entire thread.

 

[DAGTA]

I love reading all the men that have been raised in the feminist mindset. According to them, the man should work full time and still come home to half the chores while his wife barely gets her half done in her 'busy' day and she needs precious 'time for herself'.

Now flip the sexes. A woman working 13 hours a day and the man stays home playing video games and doing most of the chores. He doesn't want to do all the of the chores. Can you imagine what the women would say? "Deadbeat! Loser! Asshole!" etc.

Women wanted EQUALITY. Well, you don't get equal rights without equal responsibilities. If one partner is working full time and the other is not, then the one not working is responsible for all the chores he/she is capable of physically doing at home. The partner that is working has a responsibility to not be a slob (thus not taking advantage of the other partner), and the partner that is not working has a responsibility to be wise with spending (thus not taking advantage of the other partner).

 

[Need4Speed]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
I love reading all the men that have been raised in the feminist mindset. According to them, the man should work full time and still come home to half the chores while his wife barely gets her half done in her 'busy' day and she needs precious 'time for herself'.

Now flip the sexes. A woman working 13 hours a day and the man stays home playing video games and doing most of the chores. He doesn't want to do all the of the chores. Can you imagine what the women would say? "Deadbeat! Loser! Asshole!" etc.

Women wanted EQUALITY. Well, you don't get equal rights without equal responsibilities. If one partner is working full time and the other is not, then the one not working is responsible for all the chores he/she is capable of physically doing at home. The partner that is working has a responsibility to not be a slob (thus not taking advantage of the other partner), and the partner that is not working has a responsibility to be wise with spending (thus not taking advantage of the other partner).

bingo!

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
I love reading all the men that have been raised in the feminist mindset. According to them, the man should work full time and still come home to half the chores while his wife barely gets her half done in her 'busy' day and she needs precious 'time for herself'.

Now flip the sexes. A woman working 13 hours a day and the man stays home playing video games and doing most of the chores. He doesn't want to do all the of the chores. Can you imagine what the women would say? "Deadbeat! Loser! Asshole!" etc.

Women wanted EQUALITY. Well, you don't get equal rights without equal responsibilities. If one partner is working full time and the other is not, then the one not working is responsible for all the chores he/she is capable of physically doing at home. The partner that is working has a responsibility to not be a slob (thus not taking advantage of the other partner), and the partner that is not working has a responsibility to be wise with spending (thus not taking advantage of the other partner).

I'm trying really hard to separate my own personal experiences from this thread, but here's an interesting take: I can't tell you guys how many times (when my wife was staying at home with our son) that I came home only to find my wife's ass bonded to the couch:

"What the hell... the house is upside down and you're watching TV?"
"You don't understand! He was really cranky today and I'm tired!"
"He's apparently 'really cranky' every day of the week except Saturday and Sunday... you know - THE DAYS WHEN I DO THE WEEK'S CLEANING."
"That's not fair!!"
"Why not?"
"You don't understand!"
"EXPLAIN IT TO ME!"
"So you want me to just ignore our son and clean all day???" <- typical wildly exaggerated response from my wife when she's cornered like a 3-legged cat
"Who the hell said anything about ignoing him cleaning all day? THE KID SLEEPS FOR SIX HOURS!!!!!"
"Not EVERY day!"
"Let's assume that he didn't sleep AT ALL... do you not think it reasonable to expect you to spend a few hours - out of NINE - to get the house in order? Pick up a few toys? Run a load of dishes? Clean the fscking high-chair off between meals???" (by dinner time, his tray had an average of 2 - 4 meals CAKED to it)

We would go round and round like this every single FSCKING DAY. My resentment got so bad at one point that thoughts of divorce had run through my mind. It was the first time it ever did. I was so pissed because she was a) more of a damn slob than me and my son COMBINED, b) lazy as hell, and most of all c) totally incapable of taking any responsibility for the problem. There were a few spotted days where she made a half-hearted attempt to organize a room or two before I got home, but apparently that made her exempt for the next 10 days. A day after one such cleaning, the place was a trainwreck, and I got pissed:

""What the hell... the house is upside down and you're watching TV?" <- every rant pretty much started that way
"I cleaned it yesterday!"
"I WORKED YESTERDAY, but shockingly, I HAD TO GO BACK TODAY!"
"You didn't even thank me for doing it yesterday."
"I don't recall getting an ass-kissing for going to work yesterday, or the day before that, or the day before that."

These fights were terrible. My wife and I, actually, get along very well... so this time was pretty traumatic. We hardly fought before that or since. Had she refused to go back to work I doubt our marriage would have survived. I've learned to live with the slob-like condition by creating my own areas of refuge, but the part where her only contribution to the family unit was to feed our son and change diapers was flat-out intolerable. If I'm working 40 hours a week at work, I expect 40 hours from you at home. I have no problem coming home and partaking in raising the kids, etc., but none of this work for 2 minutes play for an hour sh*t while I'm humping some job I can't stand.

 

[Need4Speed]

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: DAGTA
I love reading all the men that have been raised in the feminist mindset. According to them, the man should work full time and still come home to half the chores while his wife barely gets her half done in her 'busy' day and she needs precious 'time for herself'.

Now flip the sexes. A woman working 13 hours a day and the man stays home playing video games and doing most of the chores. He doesn't want to do all the of the chores. Can you imagine what the women would say? "Deadbeat! Loser! Asshole!" etc.

Women wanted EQUALITY. Well, you don't get equal rights without equal responsibilities. If one partner is working full time and the other is not, then the one not working is responsible for all the chores he/she is capable of physically doing at home. The partner that is working has a responsibility to not be a slob (thus not taking advantage of the other partner), and the partner that is not working has a responsibility to be wise with spending (thus not taking advantage of the other partner).

I'm trying really hard to separate my own personal experiences from this thread, but here's an interesting take: I can't tell you guys how many times (when my wife was staying at home with our son) that I came home only to find my wife's ass bonded to the couch:

"What the hell... the house is upside down and you're watching TV?"
"You don't understand! He was really cranky today and I'm tired!"
"He's apparently 'really cranky' every day of the week except Saturday and Sunday... you know - THE DAYS WHEN I DO THE WEEK'S CLEANING."
"That's not fair!!"
"Why not?"
"You don't understand!"
"EXPLAIN IT TO ME!"
"So you want me to just ignore our son and clean all day???" <- typical wildly exaggerated response from my wife when she's cornered like a 3-legged cat
"Who the hell said anything about ignoing him cleaning all day? THE KID SLEEPS FOR SIX HOURS!!!!!"
"Not EVERY day!"
"Let's assume that he didn't sleep AT ALL... do you not think it reasonable to expect you to spend a few hours - out of NINE - to get the house in order? Pick up a few toys? Run a load of dishes? Clean the fscking high-chair off between meals???" (by dinner time, his tray had an average of 2 - 4 meals CAKED to it)

We would go round and round like this every single FSCKING DAY. My resentment got so bad at one point that thoughts of divorce had run through my mind. It was the first time it ever did. I was so pissed because she was a) more of a damn slob than me and my son COMBINED, b) lazy as hell, and most of all c) totally incapable of taking any responsibility for the problem. There were a few spotted days where she made a half-hearted attempt to organize a room or two before I got home, but apparently that made her exempt for the next 10 days. A day after one such cleaning, the place was a trainwreck, and I got pissed:

""What the hell... the house is upside down and you're watching TV?" <- every rant pretty much started that way
"I cleaned it yesterday!"
"I WORKED YESTERDAY, but shockingly, I HAD TO GO BACK TODAY!"
"You didn't even thank me for doing it yesterday."
"I don't recall getting an ass-kissing for going to work yesterday, or the day before that, or the day before that."

These fights were terrible. My wife and I, actually, get along very well... so this time was pretty traumatic. We hardly fought before that or since. Had she refused to go back to work I doubt our marriage would have survived. I've learned to live with the slob-like condition by creating my own areas of refuge, but the part where her only contribution to the family unit was to feed our son and change diapers was flat-out intolerable. If I'm working 40 hours a week at work, I expect 40 hours from you at home. I have no problem coming home and partaking in raising the kids, etc., but none of this work for 2 minutes play for an hour sh*t while I'm humping some job I can't stand.

thats some serious underlining there...

 

[JDrake]

Originally posted by: OhioState

Originally posted by: DainBramaged
ur a woman, it's your job

o man that is soooo cold blooded.

I must be a strange man. I enjoy house work I cook and clean and do laundry.

For example i dont own a mop i clean my floor on my hands and knees and bring along a toothbrush for the grout.

anywho back to your question i would iron them really BADLY and he will come around.

Man card please.

 

[Shaftatplanetquake]

Originally posted by: ValkyrieofHouston

You are not his mother or his maid. The chores should be mutually shared. He needs to realize that everything in your relationship is shared responsibility regardless of you having a job or not. Besides if you have some spare time that should be your own time to focus on yourself and take a break. Everybody needs some time off for themselves.

Obviously a worthless, thoughtless, baseless opinion. Are you ignoring that THE MONEY THE WORK THE FVCKING MILITARY SERVICE is being contributed to the relationship by the HUSBAND? What equivelant is the wife providing? She should hope that a solid 4 hours of housework per day would be deemed acceptable. Instead, she complains that an hour and a half per day is too much.

In most relationships, somebody is the bitch. I vote for the hard working military man being the bitch in this situation.

edited to clean up quote

 

[spidey07]

You're not working, he's out busting his butt.

Of course you iron the uniform.

 

[DainBramaged]

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: Lonyo

Originally posted by: Pablo

Originally posted by: Allanv
we both work but here is how we do things

I cook, she washes the pots
she irons
I hoover the upstairs of the house she does the downstairs.
I drive she does not.

You silly Brits with your hoovering...

You silly Americans with your something silly.

I Nissan'ed to work today.

lmao