I have a Question about the amount of house work your SO does.

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Fullmetal Chocobo

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Jzero
If you don't want to iron his uniforms, stop being a leach and get a job. I'd love to have a sugar momma so that all I had to do was do household chores all day. I'd be up at 6, done all my chores by 10 on a bad day and on the golf course by 11. Every. Single. Day.

i'd like to see how the putz handled it if she had a job outside of the home. you really think he'd do 50% of the household chores?

It's not relevant. If one party has a job and the other doesn't, the other's job becomes working around the house, ESPECIALLY if there are no children.

she does work around the house, but just because he has a job in the military doesn't mean he's exempt from 100% of the household chores does it? i'm not saying he needs to do a lot of the chores, but still a guy would tend to do the yard work wouldn't he?

the woman doesn't need to be a slave. he puts in an 8 hour day - so should she, but i'll bet when he comes home and puts his feet up she is still working.

LOL. No. When I get home, she's playing Guild Wars. When I go to sleep at night, she's still playing. She doesn't match my 13 hours shift, nor do I expect her to. And I do what i can around the house--the point is that I don't have the time to do as much as she has the chance to. She isn't complaining about being worked to death--she just doesn't like ironing. Mosh, I've never seen you so hostile...

sorry, didn't mean to seem hostile. i guess i didn't realize she was playing video games all day/night. i also didn't realize you did anything around the house after reading her initial post.
after realizing that i take back my prior posts.

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
she does work around the house, but just because he has a job in the military doesn't mean he's exempt from 100% of the household chores does it? i'm not saying he needs to do a lot of the chores, but still a guy would tend to do the yard work wouldn't he?

We have no idea what she defines as "yard work." Fact of the matter is, it doesn't take that long to iron a uniform, and they do not all need to be done at once. I'm sure an unemployed, childless housewife can find time in her busy schedule to iron a uniform.

the woman doesn't need to be a slave. he puts in an 8 hour day - so should she, but i'll bet when he comes home and puts his feet up she is still working.

If that is true, it's nly because she is not working efficiently when he is not home.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: Fullmetal Chocobo

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Jzero
If you don't want to iron his uniforms, stop being a leach and get a job. I'd love to have a sugar momma so that all I had to do was do household chores all day. I'd be up at 6, done all my chores by 10 on a bad day and on the golf course by 11. Every. Single. Day.

i'd like to see how the putz handled it if she had a job outside of the home. you really think he'd do 50% of the household chores?

It's not relevant. If one party has a job and the other doesn't, the other's job becomes working around the house, ESPECIALLY if there are no children.

she does work around the house, but just because he has a job in the military doesn't mean he's exempt from 100% of the household chores does it? i'm not saying he needs to do a lot of the chores, but still a guy would tend to do the yard work wouldn't he?

the woman doesn't need to be a slave. he puts in an 8 hour day - so should she, but i'll bet when he comes home and puts his feet up she is still working.

LOL. No. When I get home, she's playing Guild Wars. When I go to sleep at night, she's still playing. She doesn't match my 13 hours shift, nor do I expect her to. And I do what i can around the house--the point is that I don't have the time to do as much as she has the chance to. She isn't complaining about being worked to death--she just doesn't like ironing. Mosh, I've never seen you so hostile...

If this is an accurate depiction of what's taking place, then I think asking her to iron your uniforms is pretty damn reasonable. Iron or get a job FTW.

We all have parts of our job we don't like... doesn't mean you shouldn't have to do it, though.

if this is an accuration depiction then i agree with jbourne.

actually, i am puzzled as to why she brought this up on a messageboard just to have you read it. no one is going to agree with her after you tell us she is a Guild Wars addict.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: moshquerade
she does work around the house, but just because he has a job in the military doesn't mean he's exempt from 100% of the household chores does it? i'm not saying he needs to do a lot of the chores, but still a guy would tend to do the yard work wouldn't he?

We have no idea what she defines as "yard work." Fact of the matter is, it doesn't take that long to iron a uniform, and they do not all need to be done at once. I'm sure an unemployed, childless housewife can find time in her busy schedule to iron a uniform.

the woman doesn't need to be a slave. he puts in an 8 hour day - so should she, but i'll bet when he comes home and puts his feet up she is still working.

If that is true, it's nly because she is not working efficiently when he is not home.

eh, in light of the new information i have changed my opinion of the situation.

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: moshquerade
she does work around the house, but just because he has a job in the military doesn't mean he's exempt from 100% of the household chores does it? i'm not saying he needs to do a lot of the chores, but still a guy would tend to do the yard work wouldn't he?

We have no idea what she defines as "yard work." Fact of the matter is, it doesn't take that long to iron a uniform, and they do not all need to be done at once. I'm sure an unemployed, childless housewife can find time in her busy schedule to iron a uniform.

the woman doesn't need to be a slave. he puts in an 8 hour day - so should she, but i'll bet when he comes home and puts his feet up she is still working.

If that is true, it's nly because she is not working efficiently when he is not home.

eh, in light of the new information i have changed my opinion of the situation.

Ditto here :thumbsup:

 

[Zombie]

Originally posted by: lizardth

I already cook, clean dishes, clean house, wash clothes, put away laundry, and take care of the yard. Now he has asked me to start ironing his uniforms.

I admit I do not have a job, and I do have a lot of spare time. But you guys just don't know how messy he is. I consider it a triumph that I have trained him to put his dirty clothes in the hamper.

I do have to admit I greatly dislike ironing too...

Why don't you have a job?

 

[Lola]

OP, did i miss it or can you tell me how old the two of you are? I know it really doesnt matter, i am just curious.
also, how long have you been married?

 

[j00fek]

Originally posted by: lizardth

I already cook, clean dishes, clean house, wash clothes, put away laundry, and take care of the yard. Now he has asked me to start ironing his uniforms.

I admit I do not have a job, and I do have a lot of spare time. But you guys just don't know how messy he is. I consider it a triumph that I have trained him to put his dirty clothes in the hamper.

I do have to admit I greatly dislike ironing too...

get a job then you can pawn off all this crap on him

 

[Kelemvor]

Woman should do the laundry which includes the ironing. But the man should be doing theyardwork. What exactly DOES he do? anything?

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: FrankyJunior
What exactly DOES he do? anything?

Working... apparently while she's playing Guild Wars.

 

[markgm]

I think I read a contract on here yesterday that you can ask her to sign .

It's funny the things you don't discover about a person until you're married. I have to agree, with no kids, I have no idea how any real work would need to be done. I guess the slob part explains it. If I put in 2 hours a week keeping my place clean I'd be surprised, and it's pretty spotless.

I voted no, but after reading the whole thread I'm more undecided.

 

[Need4Speed]

Originally posted by: markgm
I think I read a contract on here yesterday that you can ask her to sign .

It's funny the things you don't discover about a person until you're married. I have to agree, with no kids, I have no idea how any real work would need to be done. I guess the slob part explains it. If I put in 2 hours a week keeping my place clean I'd be surprised, and it's pretty spotless.

I voted no, but after reading the whole thread I'm more undecided.

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0217062contract1.html

 

[Fullmetal Chocobo]

ROFL... She doesn't just play Guild Wars all day (although she is addicted). She sends food with me to work, and cooks dinner when I get home. And which I am very very grateful for. She does the yard work, and helps with building the desk and stuff like that, because I simply suck at it. I do stuff around the house, but I usually just don't have any free time to.

The main reason she doesn't have a job yet is that she doesn't have her driver's license, and with her degree, it would be pointless to get a part-time job in the local little town that we are in.

I seriously don't think that it is nearly as bad as most people think. I've been in horrible situations, where I would come back from being underway for five days, and nothing got done in the house, and my ex only worked 4 hours a week. So I would get home, and have to do all of the laundry, the dishes, and everything else. That is why I am insistent that if she is home, she should do some of the stuff. I'm not all about the wife should be doing her womanly duties and stuff. That is bullsh!t. But if she has the time available, then there is no sense in her doing stuff at home. When she gets a job, then the work at home will have to be divided and adjusted accordingly.

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
OP, did i miss it or can you tell me how old the two of you are? I know it really doesnt matter, i am just curious.
also, how long have you been married?

She's 24, and I'm 25. And we will have been married for one year on the 12th of March.

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: Fullmetal Chocobo
ROFL... She doesn't just play Guild Wars all day (although she is addicted). She sends food with me to work, and cooks dinner when I get home. And which I am very very grateful for. She does the yard work, and helps with building the desk and stuff like that, because I simply suck at it. I do stuff around the house, but I usually just don't have any free time to.

The main reason she doesn't have a job yet is that she doesn't have her driver's license, and with her degree, it would be pointless to get a part-time job in the local little town that we are in.

I seriously don't think that it is nearly as bad as most people think. I've been in horrible situations, where I would come back from being underway for five days, and nothing got done in the house, and my ex only worked 4 hours a week. So I would get home, and have to do all of the laundry, the dishes, and everything else. That is why I am insistent that if she is home, she should do some of the stuff. I'm not all about the wife should be doing her womanly duties and stuff. That is bullsh!t. But if she has the time available, then there is no sense in her doing stuff at home. When she gets a job, then the work at home will have to be divided and adjusted accordingly.

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
OP, did i miss it or can you tell me how old the two of you are? I know it really doesnt matter, i am just curious.
also, how long have you been married?

She's 24, and I'm 25. And we will have been married for one year on the 12th of March.

Bah... she's a deadbeat.

Of course I'm j/k .

THE most important thing is that whatever your situation is, it works for YOU TWO. It really doesn't matter what we all think. If you work 120 hours a week and she stays at home and plays with marbles, and you're both happy, then that's great. If you work 40 hours a week and she does all the housework but refuses to iron, and you're both happy, then that's great.

It sounds like you two have a very agreeable situation with one small item in contention (ironing). Provided you two can get past that, who cares what ATOT thinks.

But thanks for letting us all sit on our high horses and judge you . That's always fun.

 

[badmouse]

You know, one of these and one of these would enable the ironer to do a better job.

As would one of these.

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: badmouse
You know, one of these and one of these would enable the ironer to do a better job.

As would one of these.

whooooo!! you bet that last link would. I would even iron in JUST that last one!

Nice!

 

[AMCRambler]

My SO doesn't mind doing laundry and cleaning, but she hates cooking. Doesn't really know how and doesn't really want to. We don't live together yet, but I imagine we'll be moving in together soon. If she were to do the laundry and some cleaning for me, I'd have no problem doing all the cooking. I hate laundry and cleaning so I think it will work out well. Maybe you can work out a deal with the hubby, if there is some chore he hates doing, you can handle that, and let him do the ironing. Although it sounds like you already do all the chores! You do the yard work too? That's guy work totally. My vote is to have him do the yard work and you do the ironing. It's not like it takes that long to iron a few uniforms. You'd definitely be getting the better end of that deal.

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: kalster
Are you for real

obviously not. all women love babies... its genetic.

 

[dirtboy]

If you don't have a job, you should do it.

How would you feel if the situation was reversed? What if he did those things, but spent his spare time playing video games, then told you to iron your own uniforms? I bet you'd be rather upset.

 

[FoBoT]

if the army taught him to iron his own uniforms, then he should do it himself

 

[cKGunslinger]

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: Lonyo

Originally posted by: Pablo

Originally posted by: Allanv
we both work but here is how we do things

I cook, she washes the pots
she irons
I hoover the upstairs of the house she does the downstairs.
I drive she does not.

You silly Brits with your hoovering...

You silly Americans with your something silly.

I Nissan'ed to work today.

edit: I forgot my ROFL

 

[Chryso]

WTF, he doesn't even mow the grass?

 

[cKGunslinger]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: badmouse
You know, one of these and one of these would enable the ironer to do a better job.

As would one of these.

whooooo!! you bet that last link would. I would even iron in JUST that last one!

Nice!

If you promised a series of pics, I'd be willing to bet the ATOT collective would start a fund and you'd have one on your doorstep in 48-hours.

RossMan - hook us up with the deal!

 

[hjo3]

OP, are you a child-bride in Kentucky or something?

 

[ValkyrieofHouston]

Originally posted by: lizardth

I already cook, clean dishes, clean house, wash clothes, put away laundry, and take care of the yard. Now he has asked me to start ironing his uniforms.

I admit I do not have a job, and I do have a lot of spare time. But you guys just don't know how messy he is. I consider it a triumph that I have trained him to put his dirty clothes in the hamper.

I do have to admit I greatly dislike ironing too...

You are not his mother or his maid. The chores should be mutually shared. He needs to realize that everything in your relationship is shared responsibility regardless of you having a job or not. Besides if you have some spare time that should be your own time to focus on yourself and take a break. Everybody needs some time off for themselves.