I have a dilemma

[Riprorin]

My wife shared some information with me regarding something that happened to her in her childhood. She instructed me not to tell anyone about it, especially her parents. She told me that if I said anything to them "it would be bad for me."

I think that she desperately needs counselling, so I am considering telling her father about what happened so he can encourage her to get help.

Any thoughts on what I should do?

 

[bleeb]

SHUT your face... or you're gonna GET IT.

 

[kermalou]

do what she says orrrrrrrrr

 

[TheGameIs21]

IN NO WAY SHOULD YOU APPROACH HER FATHER!!!! That will be a sure fire long term fight if not divorce (depending on how personal/severe of an issue) At most, encourage her to seek counseling.

 

[Geekbabe]

She asked that the info be kept confidential,you have no dilemma.

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
She asked that the info be kept confidential,you have no dilemma.

 

[EagleKeeper]

Originally posted by: TheGameIs21
IN NO WAY SHOULD YOU APPROACH HER FATHER!!!! That will be a sure fire long term fight if not divorce (depending on how personal/severe of an issue) At most, encourage her to seek counseling.

If she is religious, have her talk to the local church leader (priest/minister/rabbi, etc). They are usually qualified to be a starting point for her to come to grips with the situation.

By her telling you, it indicates that she needs to confront some issue.

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: TheGameIs21
IN NO WAY SHOULD YOU APPROACH HER FATHER!!!! That will be a sure fire long term fight if not divorce (depending on how personal/severe of an issue) At most, encourage her to seek .

I second not telling her father. That has to be her choice. You don't want to turn into someone she doesen't think she can trust.

Professional help is the way to go here.

 

[krunchykrome]

Take her advice and do not share the information with anyone. However, if you feel she does need help, you should encourage her.

 

[zimu]

you should talk to her! say that you think its serious enough that you really feel it your duty to tell her father.

 

[Platypus]

Whatever happened to trust?

 

[Reliant]

Tell her father if you never want her to trust you again.

 

[agnitrate]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
Whatever happened to trust?

predictability? the milkman, the paperboy, evening tv...

whoops. sorry. anyways, i also suggest not telling her father or anybody for that matter.

-silver

 

[Riprorin]

I'm fairly mentally tough so I can take her behavior, but it is getting to the point where it's impacting the kids, especially my daughter.

If it were just affecting me, I'd have no problem keeping my mouth shut.

Guess I'll just soldier on in silence.

 

[Riprorin]

Originally posted by: EagleKeeper

Originally posted by: TheGameIs21
IN NO WAY SHOULD YOU APPROACH HER FATHER!!!! That will be a sure fire long term fight if not divorce (depending on how personal/severe of an issue) At most, encourage her to seek counseling.

If she is religious, have her talk to the local church leader (priest/minister/rabbi, etc). They are usually qualified to be a starting point for her to come to grips with the situation.

By her telling you, it indicates that she needs to confront some issue.

She's not religious and refuses to get counseling. To the best of my knowledge, I'm the only one that knows about it.

 

[nick1985]

i second the notion for maybe going to a priest.