i HATE my roommates - damn bastards

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NewSc2

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Ok, after reading most of the responses, my original thread wasn't really trying to point out why they're dicks or if it's just me or not, it's basically what are my rights if I need to move out or not, and even if I am locked to a contract if I could get out because of the noise complaints or whatnot.

Why we don't get along is just a complete mystery to me, and I'd like to just think it was me not being able to get along with them, but a few of my friends come over often and comment on it too, and for the past few months I've been scanning my brain to see if I'd done anything to warrant this reaction, but nothing comes up.

I'll look into moving out of this room I guess with the leasing office tomorrow, but to the best of my knowledge I think I have to stay for a year, I don't think I was listed as just an "occupant" but hopefully I am, but they did do a background check on my family's financial situation like they do on all their leasees.

I think I've learned my lesson too - I'll look into getting my own apartment next year - sure it might cost more than what I pay now, but I'm willing to sacrifice and work a bit to pay for the extra bills.
 
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h8red

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if you are locked into a lease, you can find out how much it will cost to get out of it. Otherwise make sure that you make their lives hell too;)
 
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Vette73

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No offense but it sounds like yu are the one that WAS causing problems and they are trying to get rid of you.

If someone brought drugs in my Apartment they would be gone, period.

If you want the whole drunk and drug thing, then yu should have found weeders to move in with, not a regular joe.


best thing to do is sit down and lay it all out, if you want me to stay I want this to happen, if you want me to leave then when is a good time.

Playing games is what causd this, Grow up (both of you) and handle this like a adult.
 
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Pepsei

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Originally posted by: MichaelD
Your description of their actions is identical to what my GF (at the time) did to me when we lived together back in 1996-1997. What a bitch. Your friends too. :|

Move out dude. Then when you see them out and about, just give them the one-finger-salute.
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dude..that really sucks... seems like life just hands you lemons all the time.

 
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Lets say you are locked in until July...

You obviously knew these guys enough to move in together (assumption I know)... lets look at it from a different angle.

Get with the guys together and discuss the bills issue...If you are all sharing the bills then you all have to right to split them

evenly. As far as being not-so-nice, try and apologise for (insert whatever) and tell them how you feel. See if they will compromise...

it sounds like they might be mad at you so find out why and level with them in a nice way. No one ever changes behavior for someone

else if they are mad. Most people dont want to be nice back but the old rule still stands.. Do to others what you want them to do to you.

Hope this helps.
 
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NewSc2

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Originally posted by: Mrpilot007
Lets say you are locked in until July...

You obviously knew these guys enough to move in together (assumption I know)... lets look at it from a different angle.

Get with the guys together and discuss the bills issue...If you are all sharing the bills then you all have to right to split them

evenly. As far as being not-so-nice, try and apologise for (insert whatever) and tell them how you feel. See if they will compromise...

it sounds like they might be mad at you so find out why and level with them in a nice way. No one ever changes behavior for someone

else if they are mad. Most people dont want to be nice back but the old rule still stands.. Do to others what you want them to do to you.

Hope this helps.
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Thanks for the advice, but I have tried talking to them before, they sort of shrugged me off. Even though I'd like to continue saying "hi" to them every time I see them and I do wash their dishes when I wash my own... I do have my limits, and it doesn't look like they're going to oblige anytime soon.
 
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Mrpilot007

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If you are locked in then heres what I would do:

Go to Wal-Mart, in the sports section they sell pink earplugs for shooting... it takes a little to get used to but ohhhh the silence... helps to sleep.

Find a new place to study like the school library or public library.

Plan ahead for where you will go in the future.

Sounds like you will be looking back and saying "when I was in college I made a mistake picking roomates" :)
 
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Mrpilot007

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Go to Wal-Mart, in the sports section they sell pink earplugs for shooting... it takes a little to get used to but ohhhh the silence... helps to sleep.
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This implies to go buy earplugs, not a gun.
 
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MichaelD

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Originally posted by: Mrpilot007
Go to Wal-Mart, in the sports section they sell pink earplugs for shooting... it takes a little to get used to but ohhhh the silence... helps to sleep.
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This implies to go buy earplugs, not a gun.
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LOL...legal disclaimer. ;)
 
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Tallgeese

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Originally posted by: NewSc2
I think the whole reason they started acting up was because one of their friends was looking for a place to stay, because once they found that out, it was like night and day
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one day we were perfectly fine, playing games and stuff together, but within a week they'd be slamming their doors and acting like dicks to me. Their friend found a place - basically I didn't want to be muscled out of my room, but now that I think about it maybe I should have.
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Did they ever ask you outright about their friend taking your place? If so, then that is why they are bein so crappy to ya. Getting back at ya for not letting their bud come in your stead.
I'm going to go check up at the leasing office today to see what my options are, and I've already started looking around for housing. Last option anyways is that I could move back home, which is about 20 minutes from campus (with rush hour though, about 45 min). I really don't feel like doing that though, because I feel if I did that I'd be excluding myself out of the whole college routine. I'm willing to chance new roommates, but I kind of want to room with somebody I at least know a little bit about before I move in - that's why I'm cautious about moving out =\.
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I'd do what you needed to do, but I'd be DAMNED if I let a couple of assclowns like that run me out of my own place for their convenience. Make sure whatever you do is in your interest as well.
 
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UF Jspec

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I agree with Mrpilot007.

Confront them and get it all out in the open. They have no right to make your life miserable. If the talk does no good, then bring the hell to them. As a previous poster said, clean only your stuff and ignore their dumbasses too. They are purposely trying to irk you so find out why. Don't take their crap anymore, period.

I am not sure about the entire background to the alcohol and weed, but I'd lay down a major ass whopping if that happened to me. If you need an enforcer, I'd be happy to come by, jk.
 
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Stark

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the next time they start playing music at 5am, turn off all the stuff in your room, go find the fusebox and flip all the breakers a few times.

That should teach them. :D
 
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AlienCraft

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Originally posted by: h8red
skace brings up another good point. Don't pay your bills in cash. Write a check for everything. On the memo line write "electricity bill for December" or whatever so that you have proof that you paid it. Again, make sure everything is in writing
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It also helps to read and get copies of anything you sign. You may open yourself up to a world of hurt if you don't.
Start by getting a copy of the lease. Then you can see how difficult it will be to move, or how exposed to his actions you are.

 
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mattgyver

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Get a can off pepper spray too. Maybe it sounds like I'm being a pansy, but I had an asshole roommate that had just gotten back from Marine bootcamp and made it a point to remind me that he could kill someone in six seconds with his bare hands, and had 500 hours of jujitsu training. When I confronted him about his slobbish behavior, he threatened to kick my ass. Even his girlfriend (after they broke up) admitted he was a psycho, and he had beaten her before. So better to be safe than sorry. Just get out as quickly as you can. You will be MUCH happier, I promise, even if you have to get a more expensive one bedroom.



EDIT: Unless you are the big Marine type. . . . Then just kick his ass.
 
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Ns1

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Originally posted by: mattgyver1
Get a can off pepper spray too. Maybe it sounds like I'm being a pansy, but I had an asshole roommate that had just gotten back from Marine bootcamp and made it a point to remind me that he could kill someone in six seconds with his bare hands, and had 500 hours of jujitsu training. When I confronted him about his slobbish behavior, he threatened to kick my ass. Even his girlfriend (after they broke up) admitted he was a psycho, and he had beaten her before. So better to be safe than sorry. Just get out as quickly as you can. You will be MUCH happier, I promise, even if you have to get a more expensive one bedroom.



EDIT: Unless you are the big Marine type. . . . Then just kick his ass.
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nah he's pretty small, NewSc2 can kick his ass pretty easily (fatass)
 
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LH

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I dont know if the roomates are the problems. You're the one that brought illegal substances into the house. Sounds to me they are trying to get you to move out, because they dont want any legal issues. If cops came and found the alchol or dope, all three of you would be charged for it not just you.
 
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Ns1

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Originally posted by: LH
I dont know if the roomates are the problems. You're the one that brought illegal substances into the house. Sounds to me they are trying to get you to move out, because they dont want any legal issues. If cops came and found the alchol or dope, all three of you would be charged for it not just you.
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he doesn't do anything to warrant the police coming in and searching. and why coudln't the roomates be adults about it and you know SAY SOMETHING instead of doing stupid sh!t like that. And hey guess who gets the cops to come, THE ROOMATES not NewSc2.

Who's the one that actually causes more trouble? Say what you want but I'd rather have a pothead that keeps the apt clean and does the dishes (etc) than somebody else who doesn't

Seriously, who's being the bigger asshole (to everyone, including neighbors)

NewSc2 who likes to smoke a bowl everyonce in a while, or the roomates who turn up their music (which does happen to shake walls) at 1 in the morning, at 5 in the morning, etc. Who's contributing to the hostile living environment?
 
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