I hate being an introvert. There. (serious)

[MrSquished]

Usually the cat and dog are laying near me on the couch and I'm drinking a nice beer, but sounds about right to me a lot of the time

 

[[DHT]Osiris]

Being an introvert is awesome. Interacting with everyone who isn't however...

 

[Dr. Detroit]

INTJ/ENTJ - depending on my level of extro/intro at that moment with the results always being the same for the past 18yrs.

My go to winning strategy - drinking! Get me good and socially lubricated and lets party!

 

[brianmanahan]

you guys are introverts... and yet you still managed to get married?

 

[BoomerD]

Your Results

Logistician
ISTJ-A
Sentinel
Confident Individualism
13% EXTRAVERTED
87% INTROVERTED

26% INTUITIVE
74% OBSERVANT

72% THINKING
28% FEELING

75% JUDGING
25% PROSPECTING

64% ASSERTIVE
36% TURBULENT

Not at all surprised at the results. I've taken the Meyers-Briggs test numerous times over the years. ALWAYS ISTJ.

 

[Red Squirrel]

This is what I love about working shift work, I always have a good excuse to not go to stuff I don't want to since I can just say I'm working that day. I just make sure that my truck is not in the driveway that day in case they check. I'll go visit my parents or go in the bush or something. But now with hybrid WFH I don't even need to do that, they'll just assume I'm working from home.

 

[sdifox]

you guys are introverts... and yet you still managed to get married?

Mail order is a thing

 

[Zeze]

If you hate being an introvert, you ain't one.

oh believe me i am. Don't gate keep introversion. I know all the pains.

 

[Zeze]

you guys are introverts... and yet you still managed to get married?

I'm one of those tryhard ambiverts that's really an introvert.

I think disliking my 'introvert' ways even as a kid aspired me in a positive way. I grew up doing praise band lead, bible study lead, and got pretty good at public speaking - sermons or college presentations. I prepare the hell out of it and I slay 'em. But I have learned that doing performative stuff well =! being an extrovert. This is common for musicians too, understandably. Hell my line of work is management. And god, I'm required to talk to too many people and I'm a boss of an entirely separate team.

I gotta say.. there's some serious self hate going on for me now. I just see 0 upside to being an introvert (don't give me the stereotypes) and I hate it.

 

[lxskllr]

Pains? I feel like I'm getting ripped off on my subscription. Is there a page where I can read all the benefits I should be receiving? Might be cause I'm on the free tier, but still no ads.

 

[Zeze]

Pains? I feel like I'm getting ripped off on my subscription. Is there a page where I can read all the benefits I should be receiving? Might be cause I'm on the free tier, but still no ads.

Sorry fobglish. My grasp of the language is pretty sad. I don't even know how I got this far.

 

[brianmanahan]

But I have learned that doing performative stuff well =! being an extrovert. This is common for musicians too, understandably.

dang it, this is my life. i should've at least played guitar instead of piano.

chicks always digged the guitar guys. even the bass and percussion guy rated higher on the scale than piano guy.

but the singers, they were the top of the coolness food chain.

 

[Zeze]

Hmm I knew it. I'm something weird or off-brand. I'm definitely not an INTJ.

Your personality type is:
Campaigner
Your full personality type code is ENFP-T

What the hell is Campaigner? Probably some kind of a hybrid.

Introduction | Campaigner (ENFP) Personality | 16Personalities

www.16personalities.com

 

[pmv]

I'm certainly not an extrovert, maybe I'm an introvert, but if so it's the least of my problems.

I don't really care. I'm suspicious of all this "personality type" stuff anyway. I gather a lot of it was invented by personnel managers and is not really based on any valid 'science'. Not that psychology itself is a valid science in any case - it's all ideological hokum, that was created to serve political purposes.

 

[Zeze]

I'm certainly not an extrovert, maybe I'm an introvert, but if so it's the least of my problems.

I don't really care. I'm suspicious of all this "personality type" stuff anyway. I gather a lot of it was invented by personnel managers and is not really based on any valid 'science'. Not that psychology itself is a valid science in any case - it's all ideological hokum, that was created to serve political purposes.

I dont care for the now-disproven briggs whatever personality types. My OP focused on just hate being an introvert in this world I live in.

 

[IronWing]

I'm certainly not an extrovert, maybe I'm an introvert, but if so it's the least of my problems.

I don't really care. I'm suspicious of all this "personality type" stuff anyway. I gather a lot of it was invented by personnel managers and is not really based on any valid 'science'. Not that psychology itself is a valid science in any case - it's all ideological hokum, that was created to serve political purposes.

Meyers Briggs is completely discredited quackery. It's worse than useless; it encourages people to pigeon hole themselves and others is unhealthy ways.

 

[BurnItDwn]

I hate the social pressure and how worn out i feel when I go out to social things. I've learned how to do smalltalk and be somewhat sociable in party settings and such. I have wonderful fun when out with friends. Dealing with too many people just drains me completely. Also i hate crowds. Give me a small setting with a few friends or alone with wife and im quite content. Also im a hermit and dont like to leave my house.

 

[Red Squirrel]

I hate the social pressure and how worn out i feel when I go out to social things. I've learned how to do smalltalk and be somewhat sociable in party settings and such. I have wonderful fun when out with friends. Dealing with too many people just drains me completely. Also i hate crowds. Give me a small setting with a few friends or alone with wife and im quite content. Also im a hermit and dont like to leave my house.

That's pretty much how I am too. I do like to hang out with friends once in a while as I do feel I need social interaction in small doses, but not a fan of parties or anything with lot of people. Definitely don't like crowds either. I've been in big cities like Toronto and I just feel a weird sense of anxiety, just too many people in one place.

Interestingly there are people who are polar opposite. I read a Reddit post of someone that gets super anxiety when they are in a rural area or even a small city and pretty much can't cope with going in the bush. Meanwhile I feel at peace in those settings.

 

[William Gaatjes]

I hate it. I'll come out and say it in a forum full of likely introverts. Here is my thought process:

1. The world obviously revolves around being social. Enjoying life mostly requires others together to get the maximum enjoyment. Examples:
   • Going to movies / hanging out together / creating memories
   • Birthdays
   • Weddings
   • Births/funerals, etc.
   • House get-togethers - hosting and being invites to.
   • Trips together, etc.
   • Sports / activities, etc.
2. I hate how I'm wired. I want to do above, but at the same time it's not easy to make friends at my age in a new town (while others seem to do it better). Also sometimes I just don't want to do above yet while complaining about it. It sucks
3. I absolutely hate the stereotypes about extroverts and introverts.
   • Extroverts are painted as some kind of uber insecure, bumbling, clumsy, not smart, and so on.
   • Introverts are painted as detail oriented, smart, empathetic, etc.
   • I don't these are accurate at all. I see tons of extroverts that are just as empathetic, detail oriented, and genuine. I see tons of dumb idiot introverts that just suck.
4. Given above, I think it just sucks being an introvert. I see it as a disadvantage (See point #1) with no real clear advantages

I've been struggling with this a lot. I've had many friends while younger too, but I find myself becoming more introverted. And as a dad, I HATE it.

If i may add my toughts based on my life experience and my own experiences.
Introvert is just a label that you and anybody else get. Just like extravert. In reality, all humans are both but based on the moment in time and the situation.
Also most people are scared to be ridiculed by the group. It is a social thing. Just do fun things and go a little crazy once in a while. Something people do not expect from you. Make them laugh a few times in a while but not constantly all the time. Because then it is forced and it is a turn off.
Even for very social people , sometimes it is good to not care...
There are a lot of people that just do not want attention all the time or do not want all the time to be the center of attention. Sometimes they do but not all the time.
That may be you as well. And that is good.

When people want attention all the time and everywhere, there is something wrong with those people. They cannot sustain on their own for whatever reason.
Also people who give attention all the time also have issues.

It is not a bad thing to be not at every social event there is out there.
Also, FOMO is very present when people get older. We all suffer from it.

 

[BurnItDwn]

That's pretty much how I am too. I do like to hang out with friends once in a while as I do feel I need social interaction in small doses, but not a fan of parties or anything with lot of people. Definitely don't like crowds either. I've been in big cities like Toronto and I just feel a weird sense of anxiety, just too many people in one place.

Interestingly there are people who are polar opposite. I read a Reddit post of someone that gets super anxiety when they are in a rural area or even a small city and pretty much can't cope with going in the bush. Meanwhile I feel at peace in those settings.

I like being somewhat close to civilization. Would hate to live some place where i had to drive an hour or more to get to a hospital, supermarket, or hardware store.
I'm hoping to move north (from 50mi NNW of Chicago deep into the land of Americas dairy and cherry.) But its likely going to be several years before it becomes reality, depending on house prices and how much im willing to pay or how much im willing to finance.

 

[Kaido]

If you hate being an introvert, you ain't one.

Nope, that describes me! I get easily drained around other people & I'd really prefer not to feel that way lol. There are kind of 3 groups of people:

1. Extroverts, who have a battery that gets charged UP by being around other people
2. Introverts, who like people but have a batter that gets DRAINED from being around other people, so we have a "limit" we hit & then need to recharge by being alone
3. Antisocial people, who don't like people

I always thought I was antisocial because I had anxiety & would get the battery-drain effect from crowds, concerts, sports stadiums, school, work, shopping at the mall, etc. Turns out I just have introvert energy & get a power drain from having to pay attention to things that much. I simply have an overly-sensitive nervous system that goes into high-alert mode around people & it saps my energy levels the longer I stay in it. After a standard work day, I'm ready to go home, get some food, surf the net or watch TV, and not have to talk to anyone for awhile lol.

 

[Kaido]

That's pretty much how I am too. I do like to hang out with friends once in a while as I do feel I need social interaction in small doses, but not a fan of parties or anything with lot of people. Definitely don't like crowds either. I've been in big cities like Toronto and I just feel a weird sense of anxiety, just too many people in one place.

Interestingly there are people who are polar opposite. I read a Reddit post of someone that gets super anxiety when they are in a rural area or even a small city and pretty much can't cope with going in the bush. Meanwhile I feel at peace in those settings.

Yeah, I'm an introvert & my best friend is an extrovert. We like to drive into NYC about once a month to hang out. I have to leave mid-afternoon before traffic hits, otherwise I start hating humanity & the universe in general because my little introvert battery gets DRAINED, haha! Whereas he can stay there all day & all night going to town and he just gets all jazzed up from it, rather than getting worn down! It's interesting how different our power sources are, haha!

 

[Zeze]

Also remember that social anxiety and introversion are two different things. Extroverts can have social anxiety too (they want to hang and reach out but doesn't connect).

 

[Exterous]

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I've been struggling with this a lot. I've had many friends while younger too, but I find myself becoming more introverted. And as a dad, I HATE it.

Are there things that 'recharge' your interest\tolerance for social interactions? Find those or do those more. I currently manage a large number of people and have to hear\help\redirect conversations about a number of large or small topics. And that means I have to be 'on' - engaged and ready to respond. Over time this completely drains my social interaction interest even at home. So I started taking an annual trip somewhere just by myself. It's only for 3-4 days but - for me - that complete release from any work\home responsibilities along with notable reductions in required interpersonal interactions really helps. A lot of people don't get it but that's fine. One of my wife's good friends, when she heard I was out of town for a leisure trip just on my own, started trying to console my wife about whatever marital problems we were having that obviously to hear lead to my trip. Fortunately my wife is supportive of my trips and just laughed that off

 

[Captante]

I can see both sides .... I really like people and am frequently even "social" (gasp) BUT relationships bring risk of getting hurt.

Life is full of little conundrums!