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HumblePie
Lifer
Ahhh, but that's the crux. You see, you've known them. I don't. Heck, if I don't go out at all I don't get to see any females. So the only way for me to even get in contact with the opposite sex is to go to bars, clubs, and I even attended a few church seminars but that was wierder then hell. I've been told for years that you can pick up chicks from church but I don't think that's really right. You can pick up chicks from church through intermidiaries, like friends of hers and yours hooking you guys up, which can really be done anywhere.
The reason I say it's San Antonio is because if I go to other cities, states or countries and if I go out, girls come to me to talk and flirt. And on the rare occasion I start talking first, it always ends up good enough to get a phone number and a date at least if she is single. In San Antonio, of all the times I've gone out not ONE girl has approached me. Heck, I went on a trip to Utah 4 months ago and went to a bar with my uncle to grab a beer and wasn't even thinking about girls, but still I had 3 girls approach me and they all looked damn good. I was so sad to leave Utah, despite any crap I've heard about the place, the fact that chicks come hit on me puts it in good standing in my book. As I said, in SA, no chicks ever come up to me or hell even friends I know. And if you go up to them... well you better flash some bling, or look like brad pitt if you don't want to get the "Who the fvck are you? and why are you trying to talk to me?" response back.
there is your problem.
But yeah, San Antonio can be a ghost town for single people unless you know people, or if you don't put up an effort to go out. Hang around the college areas more often. The club scene is bad. Most of the girls, not all of them, that go there are either insecure in some way or unstable. Also, join a club or a sport team (you can find that stuff in the papers or online). That does help out. Even meeting new guy friends will allow you to have more connections. They may have cute younger sisters. 😉 j/k... but seriously go out more. And stop trying to look for girls at clubs and bars (those tend to be the desperate or money-grubbing ones)
Skunkwourk
Diamond Member
Hook the OP up.
Saint Nick
Lifer
don't go thinking you have to settle down and start a family just because thats what everyone else does. is it what you really want? try an online service, try cupid.com. nothing wrong with meeting someone over the internet.
I've never had a problem picking up girls in San Antonio in the passed. Me and my current GF are from San Antonio, and this January will be 3 years.
If you think that girls are supposed to come up and talk to you rather than you initiate converstation, then you have a bigger problem that you can't see.
If you think that girls are supposed to come up and talk to you rather than you initiate converstation, then you have a bigger problem that you can't see.
HumblePie
Lifer
Yah, I think so too but I know my limitations and it's not happening around here. Seriously. So, I'm not going to worry about it, just rearranging my goals in life a bit more. Instead of maybe finding someone around here, I'm going to get a few other things accomplished and then start looking for a career somewhere else. Right now I can go work for Bill Moraless, a friend of my Dad who is in charge of the Lucas Films division and work out in San Fransico right now if I want, but I wanted my clearance to come through first so I have more to market myself with just incase that doesn't happen. Since I didn't know how long I was going to be in this limbo until the paperwork pushed through, I was trying to achieve other life goals. Hence, why I bought a new car I like. Was trying a bit harder to meet a girl where in the past I never really cared. I figured if it was going to happen before it was going to happen. but when I started trying to make it happen around here it didn't work. No biggie.
Time to be a bit more patient, and see if I can get into that position at Lucas Arts or somewhere else I might enjoy. Then whatever happens, happens.
serialkiller
Golden Member
why do you always have to wait for the female to come talk to you? Why dont you go and talk to them? Atleast you get females to come talk to you. Majority of the time I have to go out of my way to talk to these skanky, gold diggin, high class wannabe, heffers. =)
HumblePie
Lifer
Good advice guys, but seriously I've tried it all. I've signed up for a few seasons at Gunn Sports park for Softball and Volleyball. I used to go daily to play tennis (despite the fact I really suck at tennis) with a friend over at the medical district park. Let me tell you, there are a TON of cuties that go there and run around the track around that park at almost all hours. However, if you approach one, expect to be ignored or get a can of mace in your face.
As far as expecting girls to come up to me. I never expected that. As I said, before, when I was younger, I didn't really care one way or another if I was single or not. As such I rarely approached girls. Then again, I didn't need to as they tended to approach me so I was happy. In SA, no one approaches me so as I said, so I have to approach them instead. To which I get some REALLY bad responses here. I'm dead serious. I was out the other night shooting pool with my friend Tray, jaysgirl he's the black guy on my friends list at myspace. Anyhow, we were shooting, a couple cute girls show up at the pool table next to us without any form of male escort. 3 girls, no wedding bands nothing. So I perk up my ears and over here one of the girls mention the crappy quality of guys in town. So I figure, hell why not? I start making comments like nice shot as I watch there game while drinking a beer and when one looks over and smiles at me, I make my move. Start asking if they wanted a beer, "Sure" was the response. I start flirting with them and telling them my friend Tray and I come here usually twice a week to play and we wouldn't mind more company to play pool with. You know the kind of talk, trying to angle in for asking one of them out. At that point, one of them turns to me and says, "look you cute, but your white and we aren't interested."
I'm dead serious and that was the end of that so I went back pretty sullen face to drinking my beer and playing a lousy game of pool after that. Another time, I get the chicks saying they already are married (despite no wedding band) and what not. I'm getting some really bad responses around here. I try different approaches, from buying them drinks, to mimicking what my friends do to grab girls. Most of my friends are not white. They have no problems, but I do. Then again, some of the girls my friends look for are not exactly the quality I'm looking for. I did mention I'm not interested in a 5 dollar whore right? Some of my friends don't give a damn so long as they get their rocks off.
So, I've been trying for a number of years around here, but it ain't working. Going out, going to school, volunteering time, trying to go to church (despite being mostly deism) with others and what not. Heck, I even volunteered my time at an animal hospital to make them a database they needed for the new computer system they were installing. The reason that came about is because I was trying all angles I could. My parents are even trying to help out and a friend of my mom's runs the place. She said there were a bunch of cute girls that volunteer time there and said that they could use my help. I would have helped anyhow, but the fact that girls were there was a nice bonus. So, off I went, only to find ONE single female there. She was 38 and not even a 5. So I just did the job I came to do and left when I finished at the end of a week.
I also tried the onlie thing. Myspace, Match, eharmony, and meetup. None of it works around here. I've gotten only bot replies back to go "check out my webcam for $20 a month" or crap like that.
So as I said, not worried about it until I can get to an area where a girl would never use the excuse "because I'm white" to turn me down.
As far as expecting girls to come up to me. I never expected that. As I said, before, when I was younger, I didn't really care one way or another if I was single or not. As such I rarely approached girls. Then again, I didn't need to as they tended to approach me so I was happy. In SA, no one approaches me so as I said, so I have to approach them instead. To which I get some REALLY bad responses here. I'm dead serious. I was out the other night shooting pool with my friend Tray, jaysgirl he's the black guy on my friends list at myspace. Anyhow, we were shooting, a couple cute girls show up at the pool table next to us without any form of male escort. 3 girls, no wedding bands nothing. So I perk up my ears and over here one of the girls mention the crappy quality of guys in town. So I figure, hell why not? I start making comments like nice shot as I watch there game while drinking a beer and when one looks over and smiles at me, I make my move. Start asking if they wanted a beer, "Sure" was the response. I start flirting with them and telling them my friend Tray and I come here usually twice a week to play and we wouldn't mind more company to play pool with. You know the kind of talk, trying to angle in for asking one of them out. At that point, one of them turns to me and says, "look you cute, but your white and we aren't interested."
I'm dead serious and that was the end of that so I went back pretty sullen face to drinking my beer and playing a lousy game of pool after that. Another time, I get the chicks saying they already are married (despite no wedding band) and what not. I'm getting some really bad responses around here. I try different approaches, from buying them drinks, to mimicking what my friends do to grab girls. Most of my friends are not white. They have no problems, but I do. Then again, some of the girls my friends look for are not exactly the quality I'm looking for. I did mention I'm not interested in a 5 dollar whore right? Some of my friends don't give a damn so long as they get their rocks off.
So, I've been trying for a number of years around here, but it ain't working. Going out, going to school, volunteering time, trying to go to church (despite being mostly deism) with others and what not. Heck, I even volunteered my time at an animal hospital to make them a database they needed for the new computer system they were installing. The reason that came about is because I was trying all angles I could. My parents are even trying to help out and a friend of my mom's runs the place. She said there were a bunch of cute girls that volunteer time there and said that they could use my help. I would have helped anyhow, but the fact that girls were there was a nice bonus. So, off I went, only to find ONE single female there. She was 38 and not even a 5. So I just did the job I came to do and left when I finished at the end of a week.
I also tried the onlie thing. Myspace, Match, eharmony, and meetup. None of it works around here. I've gotten only bot replies back to go "check out my webcam for $20 a month" or crap like that.
So as I said, not worried about it until I can get to an area where a girl would never use the excuse "because I'm white" to turn me down.
HumblePie
Lifer
LOL, not worried about it. It would be really wierd in the first place. How the hell would you pitch that to someone you know?
"You see, there's this person on this geeky message board that made a comment about most girls in San Antonio sucking. Since he's single and you are single how about it?"
I doubt that'll fly to well.
Proletariat
Diamond Member
People turn you down because you're white?
Skunkwourk
Diamond Member
Yeah, Im still in that mindset too. But some people are ok with it, and others are using it more and more. I have a friend who met her boyfriend on friendster. I think they're gonna get married.
Proletariat
Diamond Member
Never been to San Antonio what is the population like down there?
serialkiller
Golden Member
try being asian.... we get shafted pretty hard from all races, even asians... hahahaha.. this reminds me of this one website...
www.bitterasianmen.com
some/alot might say this is all bs... but alot of it is pretty true... pretty entertaining too..
serialkiller
Golden Member
majority hispanic
You have any friends that live in San Antonio that know any girls whatsoever? Plan a house party with your friends and have them invite there friends who are girls. ... Not your style (prefer smaller social environment (I doubt it cause you go clubbing)>,
Then invite a few friends on a planned outing (New Braunfels). Go tubing/jetskiing and ask said friends to invite some of their friends who are girls. Tell the girls to invite their friends. Spend plenty of money on the excursion. Make it fun for everyone. The girls will notice, but it all takes planning. Once they notice, invite them to other things like bowling, pool, the sports that you joined, so on. Get more intimate in your said group with a dinner party, or poker party, or board game night (trust me, it is fun). Go from there and ask one of the girls in YOUR NEWLY DEVELOPED GROUP OF FRIENDS out on a date. It just takes serious planning, but it works almost 80-90% of the time.
1) The actual planning of these events subconsciously tells the girl you are a leader, not a follower.
2) The fun events (you must have fun yourself) tells the girl you are fun to be around.
3) The intimate dinner parties and poker nights will allow them to more comfortable with you in a quieter environment with a few friends.
4) The asking out shows them you are truly interested.
This just takes a lot of planning and time at first, and it might make you start hanging out with more outgoing people instead of neffing all day, but it is definitely a plus.
This only works if you are not living with your folks BTW. Otherwise, get a job and move out or quit complainng and keep working toward that goal.
Then invite a few friends on a planned outing (New Braunfels). Go tubing/jetskiing and ask said friends to invite some of their friends who are girls. Tell the girls to invite their friends. Spend plenty of money on the excursion. Make it fun for everyone. The girls will notice, but it all takes planning. Once they notice, invite them to other things like bowling, pool, the sports that you joined, so on. Get more intimate in your said group with a dinner party, or poker party, or board game night (trust me, it is fun). Go from there and ask one of the girls in YOUR NEWLY DEVELOPED GROUP OF FRIENDS out on a date. It just takes serious planning, but it works almost 80-90% of the time.
1) The actual planning of these events subconsciously tells the girl you are a leader, not a follower.
2) The fun events (you must have fun yourself) tells the girl you are fun to be around.
3) The intimate dinner parties and poker nights will allow them to more comfortable with you in a quieter environment with a few friends.
4) The asking out shows them you are truly interested.
This just takes a lot of planning and time at first, and it might make you start hanging out with more outgoing people instead of neffing all day, but it is definitely a plus.
This only works if you are not living with your folks BTW. Otherwise, get a job and move out or quit complainng and keep working toward that goal.
Corporate Thug
Lifer
atleast you have b-ball
HumblePie
Lifer
Okay, maybe she was refering to the fact I had white teeth? Or I had white eyeballs? I wasn't wearing a white t-shirt ot white-socks nor white underwear so it wasn't that. Maybe I had a smattering of white dandruff on my shoulder or something?
It's also about hte 4th or 5th time I've been told that. Well, not exactly like THAT incident last week but from flirting with a few girls here in the past and getting to know them. A few has told me they aren't really attracted to white men around here. These were girls I was hanging out with who were current girlfriends to my normal buds at the time. I'm not saying all guys will get turned down here because they are white, I just mentioned I HAVE been turned turn before with the excuse being because I was white and have been told by girls around here they aren't attracted to white guys at all.
Also Dashen, while that's great advice, but I've tried all that. Know what's done for me? Nada except form a black hole in my bank account it feels like 😛 Events like that,even something as "cheap" as going tubingin the Guadalupe adds up. Beer, rentals, gas, food, and everything else starts adding up. I do those things anyhow becaue I have fun, and will keep doing stuff like that but I don't expect to meet chicks around here anymore by doing things like that.
Skunkwourk
Diamond Member
Yeah but that happens to everyone, people are attacted to different things. Better than being told, "Im not attracted to you because you are ugly".
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