I feel like a complete jerk...

[shiner]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

Originally posted by: sniperruff
1) you should buy your own car with your own money... not "making payments"

2) chances are, your parents were going to surprise you and bump you up to the new taco and take yours as the spare. but guess what, you snapped at them and now you are driving a 13-year old taco with an FM radio and roll-down windows. guess you won't be getting the chicks anytime soon.

Yeah that. That car WAS yours.

I think that was never in the cards. Parents made a crappy decision in this.

lots of jealous ATOT'ers in full force. Shiner has some merit since he was cast aside and left on a doorstep after all.

Me jealous? Yeah right. I really want an old Tacoma to replace one of my current 4 vehicles.

* Edit * Actually...make that 5...I forgot to count my "classic" '88 Monte Carlo SS that I've had since high school.

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: ShadowOfMyself
I just find it hilarious that everyone says kids change your life and they are the most important thing to you blabla etc, but whenever a thread like this shows up, you quickly switch sites and make it look like you dont give a flying shit about your kids! Isnt ATOT amazing? And dont give me crap about not owing anything, Im talking about HELPING, is which more of a moral issue

This is why Ill think twice before having kids, I wanna make sure Ill be there for them always, specially considering they had no choosing in being born, so I might as well be there for them

Oh and my stance on this thread is neutral, both sides are partially wrong... OH AND, to finish, jump off the grow up bandwagon already... Are you telling me you never whine about random stuff in your life? I bet you do, about ridiculously unimportant things actually, its human nature, you cant change it... As long as we can have more, we want more, the sky is the limit... You can only be grateful for what you have to an extent, dont bullshit yourself, your brain will always normalize your situation and make you unhappy no matter how many things you have, its just the way it is, so whats wrong with complaining?

The ATOT holy membership never fails to impress

Kids do change your life. However that does not mean you have to provide them with a particular vehicle, gaming console, brand of shoes, etc, etc, etc... What you owe them is to make sure they have the necessities of life and grow up with a sense of responsibility and a work ethic that will help them in their adult lives.

The problem these days is parents seem to think their kids should have any and everything they want without question. As a result the kids end up having a sense of entitlement that will get them nowhere in life and will lead to a lifetime of disappointment.

My kids have all sorts of things. They get them by being respectful and by doing the small amount of chores they are asked to do. For the most part I believe the job of children is to be kids and enjoy themselves. That being said they do not get everything they want and if they start acting like brats, throw tantrums, are disrespectful they have something taken away from them as punishment.

Phreek is obviously no longer a child, at least not chronologically, but his actions were those of a child. His actions continue to be those of a child. He talks a good game about being blessed, grateful, whatever.....but his actions tell a different story. He didn't even have enough respect for his parents to apologize to them face to face.

Wow-- I kind of expect you, Shinerburke, the responsible one here apparently to at least read the posts after the first one.

I believe I said that I had to write a note because they were already asleep for work tomorrow, but that I would apologize when they got home (Which I did)

And my actions tell a different story? I made the thread based on one action that I felt remorse for. Since then I have been very apologetic-- Which action were you referring to where I was immature since the initial post?

-Kevin

You don't get it and probably never will.

You make the statement that you "hate the fact that everything makes sense for them to upgrade my car" and can't see that you are still acting like a brat. It might makes sense to you because you want the truck, but that doesn't mean it makes sense to anyone else or to your parents.

 

[TehMac]

lol. Kinda cheap, but you didn't have to flip out on them. A car is a car, and it won't help you pick up chicks, because if you're just depending on your car, your penis must be small indeed....and quarreling over a Toyota?

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: ShadowOfMyself
I just find it hilarious that everyone says kids change your life and they are the most important thing to you blabla etc, but whenever a thread like this shows up, you quickly switch sites and make it look like you dont give a flying shit about your kids! Isnt ATOT amazing? And dont give me crap about not owing anything, Im talking about HELPING, is which more of a moral issue

This is why Ill think twice before having kids, I wanna make sure Ill be there for them always, specially considering they had no choosing in being born, so I might as well be there for them

Oh and my stance on this thread is neutral, both sides are partially wrong... OH AND, to finish, jump off the grow up bandwagon already... Are you telling me you never whine about random stuff in your life? I bet you do, about ridiculously unimportant things actually, its human nature, you cant change it... As long as we can have more, we want more, the sky is the limit... You can only be grateful for what you have to an extent, dont bullshit yourself, your brain will always normalize your situation and make you unhappy no matter how many things you have, its just the way it is, so whats wrong with complaining?

The ATOT holy membership never fails to impress

Kids do change your life. However that does not mean you have to provide them with a particular vehicle, gaming console, brand of shoes, etc, etc, etc... What you owe them is to make sure they have the necessities of life and grow up with a sense of responsibility and a work ethic that will help them in their adult lives.

The problem these days is parents seem to think their kids should have any and everything they want without question. As a result the kids end up having a sense of entitlement that will get them nowhere in life and will lead to a lifetime of disappointment.

My kids have all sorts of things. They get them by being respectful and by doing the small amount of chores they are asked to do. For the most part I believe the job of children is to be kids and enjoy themselves. That being said they do not get everything they want and if they start acting like brats, throw tantrums, are disrespectful they have something taken away from them as punishment.

Phreek is obviously no longer a child, at least not chronologically, but his actions were those of a child. His actions continue to be those of a child. He talks a good game about being blessed, grateful, whatever.....but his actions tell a different story. He didn't even have enough respect for his parents to apologize to them face to face.

Wow-- I kind of expect you, Shinerburke, the responsible one here apparently to at least read the posts after the first one.

I believe I said that I had to write a note because they were already asleep for work tomorrow, but that I would apologize when they got home (Which I did)

And my actions tell a different story? I made the thread based on one action that I felt remorse for. Since then I have been very apologetic-- Which action were you referring to where I was immature since the initial post?

-Kevin

You don't get it and probably never will.

You make the statement that you "hate the fact that everything makes sense for them to upgrade my car" and can't see that you are still acting like a brat. It might makes sense to you because you want the truck, but that doesn't mean it makes sense to anyone else or to your parents.

If you would read the WHOLE POST you would see that was the exact words from my parents.

"It may be more practical and more convenient, but you have a perfectly fine truck right now. Start saving and keep doing well in school and you'll be able to afford niceties when you get a nice job..."

Now is a good time for you to be so mature like you say I wasn't and say "You're right Phreek, I wish I would have read the post and seen that". And then I say "Don't worry about it this is an internet forum!" 😛

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: shinerburke
Me jealous? Yeah right. I really want an old Tacoma to replace one of my current 4 vehicles.

* Edit * Actually...make that 5...I forgot to count my "classic" '88 Monte Carlo SS that I've had since high school.

still you are...88 monte carlo, big baller.

You hate that your parents didn't get you shit.

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: ShadowOfMyself
I just find it hilarious that everyone says kids change your life and they are the most important thing to you blabla etc, but whenever a thread like this shows up, you quickly switch sites and make it look like you dont give a flying shit about your kids! Isnt ATOT amazing? And dont give me crap about not owing anything, Im talking about HELPING, is which more of a moral issue

This is why Ill think twice before having kids, I wanna make sure Ill be there for them always, specially considering they had no choosing in being born, so I might as well be there for them

Oh and my stance on this thread is neutral, both sides are partially wrong... OH AND, to finish, jump off the grow up bandwagon already... Are you telling me you never whine about random stuff in your life? I bet you do, about ridiculously unimportant things actually, its human nature, you cant change it... As long as we can have more, we want more, the sky is the limit... You can only be grateful for what you have to an extent, dont bullshit yourself, your brain will always normalize your situation and make you unhappy no matter how many things you have, its just the way it is, so whats wrong with complaining?

The ATOT holy membership never fails to impress

Kids do change your life. However that does not mean you have to provide them with a particular vehicle, gaming console, brand of shoes, etc, etc, etc... What you owe them is to make sure they have the necessities of life and grow up with a sense of responsibility and a work ethic that will help them in their adult lives.

The problem these days is parents seem to think their kids should have any and everything they want without question. As a result the kids end up having a sense of entitlement that will get them nowhere in life and will lead to a lifetime of disappointment.

My kids have all sorts of things. They get them by being respectful and by doing the small amount of chores they are asked to do. For the most part I believe the job of children is to be kids and enjoy themselves. That being said they do not get everything they want and if they start acting like brats, throw tantrums, are disrespectful they have something taken away from them as punishment.

Phreek is obviously no longer a child, at least not chronologically, but his actions were those of a child. His actions continue to be those of a child. He talks a good game about being blessed, grateful, whatever.....but his actions tell a different story. He didn't even have enough respect for his parents to apologize to them face to face.

Wow-- I kind of expect you, Shinerburke, the responsible one here apparently to at least read the posts after the first one.

I believe I said that I had to write a note because they were already asleep for work tomorrow, but that I would apologize when they got home (Which I did)

And my actions tell a different story? I made the thread based on one action that I felt remorse for. Since then I have been very apologetic-- Which action were you referring to where I was immature since the initial post?

-Kevin

You don't get it and probably never will.

You make the statement that you "hate the fact that everything makes sense for them to upgrade my car" and can't see that you are still acting like a brat. It might makes sense to you because you want the truck, but that doesn't mean it makes sense to anyone else or to your parents.

If you would read the WHOLE POST you would see that was the exact words from my parents.

"It may be more practical and more convenient, but you have a perfectly fine truck right now. Start saving and keep doing well in school and you'll be able to afford niceties when you get a nice job..."

Now is a good time for you to be so mature like you say I wasn't and say "You're right Phreek, I wish I would have read the post and seen that". And then I say "Don't worry about it this is an internet forum!" 😛

Say you're right? Are you fucking kidding me? You acted like a spoiled brat and continue to. All you are attempting to do know is justify your childish actions in your mind. Whatever makes you sleep well at night I suppose.....

Your parents made a statement trying to teach you a life lesson and what do you do? Use their words to try and justify your tantrum. Sorry bud, not buying it. Hell my 9 year olds know better than to try a BS argument like that.

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: shinerburke
Me jealous? Yeah right. I really want an old Tacoma to replace one of my current 4 vehicles.

* Edit * Actually...make that 5...I forgot to count my "classic" '88 Monte Carlo SS that I've had since high school.

still you are...88 monte carlo, big baller.

You hate that your parents didn't get you shit.

I bought the Monte when I was in high school. Treat it like a baby and it only has 41k miles on it.

Again...my parents gave me plenty....not just material things, which there were, but also things like a college education, a sense of responsibility and a work ethic, etc, etc, etc.... Think what you want, but you're barking up the wrong tree with that argument. Hell you're not even in the right forest.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Say you're right? Are you fucking kidding me? You acted like a spoiled brat and continue to. All you are attempting to do know is justify your childish actions in your mind. Whatever makes you sleep well at night I suppose.....

Your parents made a statement trying to teach you a life lesson and what do you do? Use their words to try and justify your tantrum. Sorry bud, not buying it. Hell my 9 year olds know better than to try a BS argument like that.

This is interesting. A person miles away over the internet is saying-- "No, you are wrong, you don't feel that way. That is not the way you are feeling. HERE is what you are doing". Give me a break man! I'm not one of the kids in here that are whining and complaining-- I didn't do any of that. I believe my whole first post was, I regret that I have feelings of jealousy, and I regret the actions I took.

Then my posts since that point have been me realizing what I did wrong more and more and showing how I have learned from the experience.

Then my most recent post, I post the words of my parents letter for letter from the note. And you still deny it. I am not envious of the car anymore. I now see it as I should have earlier, a treat to drive when I come home on breaks. Perhaps something, if they are willing to sell it in a couple of years, that I can look forward to buying from them.

This whole thing has been about me maturing through the whole thing and going from realizing what I had done to getting over my selfish desires. Perhaps you should learn to not jump to conclusions and admit that you are wrong every once in a while. It seems to me that I, the person who is apparently ungrateful and a spoiled brat, can admit when I am wrong and work through it and correct myself, but the person who is lecturing me on all of this can't admit that he is being an absolute jerk over the internet for no apparent reason.

-Kevin

 

[UberNeuman]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Say you're right? Are you fucking kidding me? You acted like a spoiled brat and continue to. All you are attempting to do know is justify your childish actions in your mind. Whatever makes you sleep well at night I suppose.....

Your parents made a statement trying to teach you a life lesson and what do you do? Use their words to try and justify your tantrum. Sorry bud, not buying it. Hell my 9 year olds know better than to try a BS argument like that.

This is interesting. A person miles away over the internet is saying-- "No, you are wrong, you don't feel that way. That is not the way you are feeling. HERE is what you are doing". Give me a break man! I'm not one of the kids in here that are whining and complaining-- I didn't do any of that. I believe my whole first post was, I regret that I have feelings of jealousy, and I regret the actions I took.

Then my posts since that point have been me realizing what I did wrong more and more and showing how I have learned from the experience.

Then my most recent post, I post the words of my parents letter for letter from the note. And you still deny it. I am not envious of the car anymore. I now see it as I should have earlier, a treat to drive when I come home on breaks. Perhaps something, if they are willing to sell it in a couple of years, that I can look forward to buying from them.

This whole thing has been about me maturing through the whole thing and going from realizing what I had done to getting over my selfish desires. Perhaps you should learn to not jump to conclusions and admit that you are wrong every once in a while. It seems to me that I, the person who is apparently ungrateful and a spoiled brat, can admit when I am wrong and work through it and correct myself, but the person who is lecturing me on all of this can't admit that he is being an absolute jerk over the internet for no apparent reason.

-Kevin

When will you get it that NOBODY CARES ABOUT YOUR POOR FEELINGS!

Grow the hell up already - and don't bother typing up another 100+ word reply about how everyone isn't listening to you - you want absolution, go to a priest.....

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: shinerburke
Me jealous? Yeah right. I really want an old Tacoma to replace one of my current 4 vehicles.

* Edit * Actually...make that 5...I forgot to count my "classic" '88 Monte Carlo SS that I've had since high school.

still you are...88 monte carlo, big baller.

You hate that your parents didn't get you shit.

I bought the Monte when I was in high school. Treat it like a baby and it only has 41k miles on it.

Again...my parents gave me plenty....not just material things, which there were, but also things like a college education, a sense of responsibility and a work ethic, etc, etc, etc.... Think what you want, but you're barking up the wrong tree with that argument. Hell you're not even in the right forest.

Ahh I see now...since you were entitled you feel that is an exclusive club you must now keep everyone else out of.

Obviously you didn't get out much in High School though...enjoy you memories of nothing.

I only had this bought for me in highschool: LINK

I am not going to say that was everyone's experience though or think they failed because they didn't have that. One of my best friends (we all grad'd about 1989) had a Ferrari 328, 930 Turbo, Supra, a Ninja, and a few other cars during those few years. Another had this 1970 something station wagon that shot flames out the back sometimes. It was a heap. Still he was our friend.

 

[Capt Caveman]

Yep, the OP really needs to grow-up.

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: shinerburke
Me jealous? Yeah right. I really want an old Tacoma to replace one of my current 4 vehicles.

* Edit * Actually...make that 5...I forgot to count my "classic" '88 Monte Carlo SS that I've had since high school.

still you are...88 monte carlo, big baller.

You hate that your parents didn't get you shit.

I bought the Monte when I was in high school. Treat it like a baby and it only has 41k miles on it.

Again...my parents gave me plenty....not just material things, which there were, but also things like a college education, a sense of responsibility and a work ethic, etc, etc, etc.... Think what you want, but you're barking up the wrong tree with that argument. Hell you're not even in the right forest.

Ahh I see now...since you were entitled you feel that is an exclusive club you must now keep everyone else out of.

Obviously you didn't get out much in High School though...enjoy you memories of nothing.

I only had this bought for me in highschool: LINK

I am not going to say that was everyone's experience though or think they failed because they didn't have that. One of my best friends (we all grad'd about 1989) had a Ferrari 328, 930 Turbo, Supra, a Ninja, and a few other cars during those few years. Another had this 1970 something station wagon that shot flames out the back sometimes. It was a heap. Still he was our friend.

Entitled? No. I never expected anything to be given to me. Still don't. My parents are very giving people but never just handed anything to me and rightly so. To this day they would give me the shirt off their backs if I asked. The difference between myself in the OP is that I would never ask.

You missed where I said I bought the car, they didn't. They would have, but I didn't want them to.

Didn't get out much in high school? Oooooook.

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Say you're right? Are you fucking kidding me? You acted like a spoiled brat and continue to. All you are attempting to do know is justify your childish actions in your mind. Whatever makes you sleep well at night I suppose.....

Your parents made a statement trying to teach you a life lesson and what do you do? Use their words to try and justify your tantrum. Sorry bud, not buying it. Hell my 9 year olds know better than to try a BS argument like that.

This is interesting. A person miles away over the internet is saying-- "No, you are wrong, you don't feel that way. That is not the way you are feeling. HERE is what you are doing". Give me a break man! I'm not one of the kids in here that are whining and complaining-- I didn't do any of that. I believe my whole first post was, I regret that I have feelings of jealousy, and I regret the actions I took.

Then my posts since that point have been me realizing what I did wrong more and more and showing how I have learned from the experience.

Then my most recent post, I post the words of my parents letter for letter from the note. And you still deny it. I am not envious of the car anymore. I now see it as I should have earlier, a treat to drive when I come home on breaks. Perhaps something, if they are willing to sell it in a couple of years, that I can look forward to buying from them.

This whole thing has been about me maturing through the whole thing and going from realizing what I had done to getting over my selfish desires. Perhaps you should learn to not jump to conclusions and admit that you are wrong every once in a while. It seems to me that I, the person who is apparently ungrateful and a spoiled brat, can admit when I am wrong and work through it and correct myself, but the person who is lecturing me on all of this can't admit that he is being an absolute jerk over the internet for no apparent reason.

-Kevin

Hahahahahaha....you're delusional.

Thanks for the comedy. Not even worth replying to you anymore.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Say you're right? Are you fucking kidding me? You acted like a spoiled brat and continue to. All you are attempting to do know is justify your childish actions in your mind. Whatever makes you sleep well at night I suppose.....

Your parents made a statement trying to teach you a life lesson and what do you do? Use their words to try and justify your tantrum. Sorry bud, not buying it. Hell my 9 year olds know better than to try a BS argument like that.

This is interesting. A person miles away over the internet is saying-- "No, you are wrong, you don't feel that way. That is not the way you are feeling. HERE is what you are doing". Give me a break man! I'm not one of the kids in here that are whining and complaining-- I didn't do any of that. I believe my whole first post was, I regret that I have feelings of jealousy, and I regret the actions I took.

Then my posts since that point have been me realizing what I did wrong more and more and showing how I have learned from the experience.

Then my most recent post, I post the words of my parents letter for letter from the note. And you still deny it. I am not envious of the car anymore. I now see it as I should have earlier, a treat to drive when I come home on breaks. Perhaps something, if they are willing to sell it in a couple of years, that I can look forward to buying from them.

This whole thing has been about me maturing through the whole thing and going from realizing what I had done to getting over my selfish desires. Perhaps you should learn to not jump to conclusions and admit that you are wrong every once in a while. It seems to me that I, the person who is apparently ungrateful and a spoiled brat, can admit when I am wrong and work through it and correct myself, but the person who is lecturing me on all of this can't admit that he is being an absolute jerk over the internet for no apparent reason.

-Kevin

Hahahahahaha....you're delusional.

Thanks for the comedy. Not even worth replying to you anymore.

I don't recall ever saying "Its not fair" or "This is completely wrong". In fact, I believe, I BELIEVE, that I did the exact opposite and defended my parents decision after the initial post.

I feel sorry for your kids because you don't seem to be able to forgive anyone or admit that you are ever wrong. I hope you are more polite and respectful to your family....

 

[UberNeuman]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: shinerburke

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Say you're right? Are you fucking kidding me? You acted like a spoiled brat and continue to. All you are attempting to do know is justify your childish actions in your mind. Whatever makes you sleep well at night I suppose.....

Your parents made a statement trying to teach you a life lesson and what do you do? Use their words to try and justify your tantrum. Sorry bud, not buying it. Hell my 9 year olds know better than to try a BS argument like that.

This is interesting. A person miles away over the internet is saying-- "No, you are wrong, you don't feel that way. That is not the way you are feeling. HERE is what you are doing". Give me a break man! I'm not one of the kids in here that are whining and complaining-- I didn't do any of that. I believe my whole first post was, I regret that I have feelings of jealousy, and I regret the actions I took.

Then my posts since that point have been me realizing what I did wrong more and more and showing how I have learned from the experience.

Then my most recent post, I post the words of my parents letter for letter from the note. And you still deny it. I am not envious of the car anymore. I now see it as I should have earlier, a treat to drive when I come home on breaks. Perhaps something, if they are willing to sell it in a couple of years, that I can look forward to buying from them.

This whole thing has been about me maturing through the whole thing and going from realizing what I had done to getting over my selfish desires. Perhaps you should learn to not jump to conclusions and admit that you are wrong every once in a while. It seems to me that I, the person who is apparently ungrateful and a spoiled brat, can admit when I am wrong and work through it and correct myself, but the person who is lecturing me on all of this can't admit that he is being an absolute jerk over the internet for no apparent reason.

-Kevin

Hahahahahaha....you're delusional.

Thanks for the comedy. Not even worth replying to you anymore.

I don't recall ever saying "Its not fair" or "This is completely wrong". In fact, I believe, I BELIEVE, that I did the exact opposite and defended my parents decision after the initial post.

I feel sorry for your kids because you don't seem to be able to forgive anyone or admit that you are ever wrong. I hope you are more polite and respectful to your family....

So, would it be safe to say this thread has served its purpose and you should asked for it to be locked?

Try as you might, everyone isn't going to give you a slap on the back and a "atta boy!"

Right now, we're just going 'round and 'round....

 

[JC86]

This is not the place to post about being an ungrateful child. If you ran poll, I'd say 95% would say your a spoiled brat. The only reason they haven't resorted to flame throwing is that you admitted that you were being a jerk. I can see why you'd feel that they're just rubbing it in but i'm sure this was just a compromise they decided on to teach you that not everything comes that easy in life. You can work and pay them for the older truck and at the same time, have the nicer, newer truck at home that isn't technically yours but you could drive it if you needed/wanted to. They wanted to give you what you wanted without making it seem like they're giving you everything you ask for. At least that's how I see it.

 

[spittledip]

What I get from the OP is that the poster is a bit strange in that he feels the need to post this stuff on then forum. My suggestion is to wean yourself off the internet.

I dont get these people who post this type of stuff on an internet forum. then they are surprised when they get flamed or insulted.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: JC86
This is not the place to post about being an ungrateful child. If you ran poll, I'd say 95% would say your a spoiled brat. The only reason they haven't resorted to flame throwing is that you admitted that you were being a jerk. I can see why you'd feel that they're just rubbing it in but i'm sure this was just a compromise they decided on to teach you that not everything comes that easy in life. You can work and pay them for the older truck and at the same time, have the nicer, newer truck at home that isn't technically yours but you could drive it if you needed/wanted to. They wanted to give you what you wanted without making it seem like they're giving you everything you ask for. At least that's how I see it.

I would say that 95% is terribly inaccurate. But that first part aside I would say you are 100% right. They give me so much (Laptop for school, help with food and other bills, money when I haven't quite stuck to my budget) -- Thus is the reason I was so pissed at my lack of maturity at the beginning of the thread.

If I had been a day more mature, then I would have known exactly what I needed to-- instead I wasn't and I made a mistake and learned from it.

-Kevin

 

[UberNeuman]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: JC86
This is not the place to post about being an ungrateful child. If you ran poll, I'd say 95% would say your a spoiled brat. The only reason they haven't resorted to flame throwing is that you admitted that you were being a jerk. I can see why you'd feel that they're just rubbing it in but i'm sure this was just a compromise they decided on to teach you that not everything comes that easy in life. You can work and pay them for the older truck and at the same time, have the nicer, newer truck at home that isn't technically yours but you could drive it if you needed/wanted to. They wanted to give you what you wanted without making it seem like they're giving you everything you ask for. At least that's how I see it.

I would say that 95% is terribly inaccurate. But that first part aside I would say you are 100% right. They give me so much (Laptop for school, help with food and other bills, money when I haven't quite stuck to my budget) -- Thus is the reason I was so pissed at my lack of maturity at the beginning of the thread.

If I had been a day more mature, then I would have known exactly what I needed to-- instead I wasn't and I made a mistake and learned from it.

-Kevin

Please. Ask for this thread to be locked. It would be a high sign of maturity that you've made a mistake and are ready to go on...

 

[little elvis]

I'm a little confused on why people are saying the OP's parents are being insensitive, they have every right the purchase whatever vehicle they want, why should the be limited because they had helped the OP to buy a similar vehicle.

My parents did almost the exact thing, they, helped me purchase my first car when I graduated University, a 6 year old Corolla. About 6 months later they bought themselves a brand new fully loaded Corolla as a second vehicle for themselves. I had no idea they had purchased it, and only found out when I came home one weekend. Why would I feel any resentment, and jealously that I got a beat up old Corolla, and they got a brand new one? That would be just stupid. I was like, cool, new car.... They can and should be able to buy whatever car they want....

Hell, if I really wanted to be jealous, it would be because my younger sister got a brand new Acura TL when she graduated (about 8 years after I did).

 

[rockyct]

Originally posted by: JS80

Originally posted by: Ns1

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Both sides seem to be fine now. They left a note back saying that while it may be more practical and convenient, it is theirs and something they wanted.

I hate the fact that everything makes sense for them to upgrade my car (My sister's car is 8 years younger than mine) AND they acknowledge it, but decide that they want it. That is where the jealousy comes in, and it is going to be a struggle, but I think if I can keep that in check and appreciate how lucky and blessed my family as a whole is, then I will have learned something from all of this.

Perhaps in a year or two they WILL give it to me (by that I mean swap and I pay the difference). Or by that time, maybe I'll have an internship and I can start looking at a nicer car. Just something to look forward to and work towards in the future. One of many things to work towards in the future (Though I would trade any material posession for the opportunity to get married and raise a family -- but seeing as I can't buy that I'll let that play out separately 😛 😉 )

-Kevin

I think you had the ATOT sympathy wagon going for you until this post.

I concur with your analysis.

I disagree. I think he is being very honest with his feelings. He's aware that he's feeling jealous of his parents and their purchase, but he wants to correct that. You can't just become "unjealous" of something instantly. I think he's showing a lot of maturing in this situation in that he knows he's gut reaction is not helpful.

He didn't post here complaining about his parents not giving him the car. He posted to show something he's struggling with.

 

[StinkyPinky]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
So I got home from college yesterday to find a new(er) 2003 Toyota Tacoma V6 fully loaded.

My parents got the car that I had asked for help buying prior to fronting me (I'm making payments to them) money for my '95 Toyota Tacoma I4 with no features and 142,000 miles. When I went in they asked me if I noticed it. I said I did and they responded that they got a new spare car for our house.

I feel like a complete jerk for thinking it but, obviously I was immediately jealous. My sister said that my Dad wanted to "surprise me" (is it just me or is this the worst surprise ever? "Hey here is a car you wanted, but its for us -- Congratulations".)

I did everything I could to be mature about it and show how grateful I was for my truck. I didn't go look at it more, I refused to drive it, and I have tried everything to get over my jealousy - after all my parents help me out more than I can say.

Everywhere I go, it seems the new car has to come up and finally tonight I snapped and told them all the reasons that had been building up in my mind why it was so much more practical for me (By snapped I mean, I apologized that I was jealous and told them why I was upset over the car-- there was no yelling, just both parties were annoyed afterwards). Needless to say, both parties got mad and we are now in separate places.

I know I am, and I feel like, a complete jerk. They gave me so much that I am grateful for(And many have much much much less than me-- here being a loser and complaining about a car I didn't get) and I try to show it as much as possible, but I just couldn't do anything here...

I wish I could show how grateful I am, and how blessed I am that I have all this stuff...

-Kevin

I had to borrow my mothers granny car until my early 20's when I wanted to go somewhere. Shit, I was pretty thankful for that to be honest. I could have been told to get the bus with all the other junkies around here.

It's a bit thoughtless for your parents to buy exactly what you wanted. They really should have thought it through a bit better, but at the end of the day its their money and you have to respect that. Their duty is to shelter you and make sure you get educated. It's not to buy you a nice car.

I'm speaking as a father. Sometimes we need to treat ourselves ya know. It's not all about you kids.

 

[spittledip]

Originally posted by: StinkyPinky

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
So I got home from college yesterday to find a new(er) 2003 Toyota Tacoma V6 fully loaded.

My parents got the car that I had asked for help buying prior to fronting me (I'm making payments to them) money for my '95 Toyota Tacoma I4 with no features and 142,000 miles. When I went in they asked me if I noticed it. I said I did and they responded that they got a new spare car for our house.

I feel like a complete jerk for thinking it but, obviously I was immediately jealous. My sister said that my Dad wanted to "surprise me" (is it just me or is this the worst surprise ever? "Hey here is a car you wanted, but its for us -- Congratulations".)

I did everything I could to be mature about it and show how grateful I was for my truck. I didn't go look at it more, I refused to drive it, and I have tried everything to get over my jealousy - after all my parents help me out more than I can say.

Everywhere I go, it seems the new car has to come up and finally tonight I snapped and told them all the reasons that had been building up in my mind why it was so much more practical for me (By snapped I mean, I apologized that I was jealous and told them why I was upset over the car-- there was no yelling, just both parties were annoyed afterwards). Needless to say, both parties got mad and we are now in separate places.

I know I am, and I feel like, a complete jerk. They gave me so much that I am grateful for(And many have much much much less than me-- here being a loser and complaining about a car I didn't get) and I try to show it as much as possible, but I just couldn't do anything here...

I wish I could show how grateful I am, and how blessed I am that I have all this stuff...

-Kevin

I had to borrow my mothers granny car until my early 20's when I wanted to go somewhere. Shit, I was pretty thankful for that to be honest. I could have been told to get the bus with all the other junkies around here.

It's a bit thoughtless for your parents to buy exactly what you wanted. They really should have thought it through a bit better, but at the end of the day its their money and you have to respect that. Their duty is to shelter you and make sure you get educated. It's not to buy you a nice car.

I'm speaking as a father. Sometimes we need to treat ourselves ya know. It's not all about you kids.

ouch. you. horrible. bastard.

 

[thedarkwolf]

My kid has wanted a PS3 for a long time so I got him a PS1 and then went out and bought a PS3 for myself lol. I let the little bastard play with the PS3 for a couple hours on the weekends but the douche bag still wines about it all the time.

 

[skace]

The cool thing about forum posts is that this thread will most likely still be here when you grow up. And one day you can look back and go, yea I really was an ass, but I really wanted that vehicle. The thing about "growing up" is your actions are not normally clear to you, even when someone else is pointing them out to your face you still find yourself in the right. And yes, I get it, you've "apologized", don't think I haven't read the thread. But your reflections and feelings towards how everything has gone down still hasn't changed. You still don't get it.

Oh and as far as your parents buying the car you wanted? I don't give a shit if my kid wants a Porsche and that sure as hell wouldn't stop me from buying one. Even if I only drove the thing once a week. Any different? No not really. Hell, he should be grateful if I let him drive it when he comes home. Maybe you should be happy your parents seem to value your judgment in vehicles. Maybe they bought that truck instead of another one since they knew you could drive it and you liked it. Perhaps it was something of a graduation present when you graduate form college. Maybe they want you to drive the shitty truck still since you are in college and most likely in a scenario where a friend could be driving your car. A million freaking reasons.