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Gamingphreek

Gamingphreek

Lifer
Mar 31, 2003
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So I got home from college yesterday to find a new(er) 2003 Toyota Tacoma V6 fully loaded.

My parents got the car that I had asked for help buying prior to fronting me (I'm making payments to them) money for my '95 Toyota Tacoma I4 with no features and 142,000 miles. When I went in they asked me if I noticed it. I said I did and they responded that they got a new spare car for our house.

I feel like a complete jerk for thinking it but, obviously I was immediately jealous. My sister said that my Dad wanted to "surprise me" (is it just me or is this the worst surprise ever? "Hey here is a car you wanted, but its for us -- Congratulations".)

I did everything I could to be mature about it and show how grateful I was for my truck. I didn't go look at it more, I refused to drive it, and I have tried everything to get over my jealousy - after all my parents help me out more than I can say.

Everywhere I go, it seems the new car has to come up and finally tonight I snapped and told them all the reasons that had been building up in my mind why it was so much more practical for me (By snapped I mean, I apologized that I was jealous and told them why I was upset over the car-- there was no yelling, just both parties were annoyed afterwards). Needless to say, both parties got mad and we are now in separate places.

I know I am, and I feel like, a complete jerk. They gave me so much that I am grateful for(And many have much much much less than me-- here being a loser and complaining about a car I didn't get) and I try to show it as much as possible, but I just couldn't do anything here...

I wish I could show how grateful I am, and how blessed I am that I have all this stuff...

-Kevin
 
waggy

waggy

No Lifer
Dec 14, 2000
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well at least you know you were an immature jerk. thats a start.
 
moshquerade

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: waggy
well at least you know you were an immature jerk. thats a start.
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yup.

look around and see how fortunate you are, and then go apologize for being an ingrate so that it can stop eating away at you.

 
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djheater

Lifer
Mar 19, 2001
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On the one hand your propensity to covet is disturbingly materialistic, on the other hand your parents were pretty insensitive. Still, you're right, you should be grateful. Suck it up and apologize... it's just stuff after all...
 
EightySix Four

EightySix Four

Diamond Member
Jul 17, 2004
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Yeah, seems like it was a bit messed up on there part buying something you wanted, for themselves.

On the other hand to let it eat at you and to blow up about it was a little more then dumb. I'd most definitely apologize and try to make the best of it...
 
alkemyst

alkemyst

No Lifer
Feb 13, 2001
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wow typical of these ATOT'ers that have crappy lives to bite back at you.

Why did your parent's buy the exact vehicle you wanted 'as an extra car'.

I don't get that, if they needed a pickup; you'd think they'd avoid getting one you wanted but they didn't let you have (outside brandnew/near new vehicles).

I hope their payment system is fair.
 
Safeway

Safeway

Lifer
Jun 22, 2004
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I agree with the kinder people. I think it is a bit wankerish of your parents to buy exactly what you wanted for themselves.
 
shiner

shiner

Lifer
Jul 18, 2000
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Originally posted by: alkemyst
wow typical of these ATOT'ers that have crappy lives to bite back at you.

Why did your parent's buy the exact vehicle you wanted 'as an extra car'.

I don't get that, if they needed a pickup; you'd think they'd avoid getting one you wanted but they didn't let you have (outside brandnew/near new vehicles).

I hope their payment system is fair.
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Ok...I don't have a "crappy life" so just let me say:

The OP is acting like a spoiled fucking brat instead of being thankful for the fact that they helped him buy a god damned car in the first place AND are probably spending quite a bit on his college education either directly or indirectly.

So...in summary

The OP needs to STFU and do some growing up.
 
Safeway

Safeway

Lifer
Jun 22, 2004
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Originally posted by: shinerburke
Originally posted by: alkemyst
wow typical of these ATOT'ers that have crappy lives to bite back at you.

Why did your parent's buy the exact vehicle you wanted 'as an extra car'.

I don't get that, if they needed a pickup; you'd think they'd avoid getting one you wanted but they didn't let you have (outside brandnew/near new vehicles).

I hope their payment system is fair.
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Ok...I don't have a "crappy life" so just let me say:

The OP is acting like a spoiled fucking brat instead of being thankful for the fact that they helped him buy a god damned car in the first place AND are probably spending quite a bit on his college education either directly or indirectly.

So...in summary

The OP needs to STFU and do some growing up.
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I don't think the OP is as immature as you and others are making him out to be. Sure, he should be happy with what he has, and he seems to be happy, but it is natural to feel jealous when something like this happens.
 
shiner

shiner

Lifer
Jul 18, 2000
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Originally posted by: Safeway
Originally posted by: shinerburke
Originally posted by: alkemyst
wow typical of these ATOT'ers that have crappy lives to bite back at you.

Why did your parent's buy the exact vehicle you wanted 'as an extra car'.

I don't get that, if they needed a pickup; you'd think they'd avoid getting one you wanted but they didn't let you have (outside brandnew/near new vehicles).

I hope their payment system is fair.
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Ok...I don't have a "crappy life" so just let me say:

The OP is acting like a spoiled fucking brat instead of being thankful for the fact that they helped him buy a god damned car in the first place AND are probably spending quite a bit on his college education either directly or indirectly.

So...in summary

The OP needs to STFU and do some growing up.
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I don't think the OP is as immature as you and others are making him out to be. Sure, he should be happy with what he has, and he seems to be happy, but it is natural to feel jealous when something like this happens.
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Maybe for a 3 year old.
 
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sniperruff

Lifer
Apr 17, 2002
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1) you should buy your own car with your own money... not "making payments"

2) chances are, your parents were going to surprise you and bump you up to the new taco and take yours as the spare. but guess what, you snapped at them and now you are driving a 13-year old taco with an FM radio and roll-down windows. guess you won't be getting the chicks anytime soon.
 
alkemyst

alkemyst

No Lifer
Feb 13, 2001
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Originally posted by: shinerburke
Originally posted by: alkemyst
wow typical of these ATOT'ers that have crappy lives to bite back at you.

Why did your parent's buy the exact vehicle you wanted 'as an extra car'.

I don't get that, if they needed a pickup; you'd think they'd avoid getting one you wanted but they didn't let you have (outside brandnew/near new vehicles).

I hope their payment system is fair.
Click to expand...

Ok...I don't have a "crappy life" so just let me say:

The OP is acting like a spoiled fucking brat instead of being thankful for the fact that they helped him buy a god damned car in the first place AND are probably spending quite a bit on his college education either directly or indirectly.

So...in summary

The OP needs to STFU and do some growing up.
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Spoken like someone that never got anything from their parents.

Regardless of what his parents did for him, it's sort of in very bad taste what they did with the pickup truck.

I am thinking your signature must link to your site, I didn't check but it seems appropriate.

 
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