i don't want to grow up.

[SpongeBob]

I really don't want to grow up. I'm 21 and I can't stand the amount of responsibilty I already have. I would give anything to be 16 for the rest of my life.

 

[SpecialEd]

i'm 22 (almost 23) and have been out of college for over a year... yeah.. college was fun, but I look at undergrads now and I feel like i'm too old for that. I went back to visit a couple of time and I definitely felt out of place. You move on!! There are good things in every stage of life! I hear having kids is the biggest joy one can experience!
Enjoy life, no matter what age you are!!



oh yeah... personally, i'm actually opting for the grad school route... the real workd is nice, but i'm not quite ready for it yet!...

 

[Wallydraigle]

You made me think about that Peter Pan guy that has the website.

 

[johnjohn320]

Heh, I just finished doing a show with a theatre company's presentation of "Peter Pan." (I was the rehearsal/show pianist). Talk about a depressing show for an "older person" to watch.



I won't grow up
I don't wanna go to school
just to learn to be a parent
and recite a silly rule

if growing up means
it would be
beneath my dignity
to climb a tree

i'll never grow up,
never grow up,
never grow up,
not me
not i
not me
so there

if growing up is awfuller
than all the other things that ever were
i'll never grow up

[/nostalgia, reminiscing]

 

[gotsmack]

I graduate in 3 semesters and Im not too worried. If I get a good summer internship this summer I'll be set. I actually want graduation day to come so I can get my own place and be distant from my family.

 

[shifrbv]

I think the older you get, the less fun it is.

Young people have little to no responsibility. And really young people, kids, have it the best because things are still so much fun. Holidays, cartoons, toys, family vacations, all of the distractions which keep them ignorant of the rest of the world. Even if they don't have that much, a child's world is still based largely upon their own realities and whatever they can imagine them to be. Even dirt can be fun.

But as you get older. Something happens. Things start to change.

I remember when I first got out of college I got a job as a research analyst for a brokerage firm. Basically a fact checker position, but I didn't care. I thought I had finally made the big time. I was in all the meetings with the VPs and got myself some nice new clothes and a new car.

Everything was new and exciting. Then the real world started to creep in. I wasn't making "that" much money (the houses that I wanted to buy were out of my price range so I had to continue on in my crappy apartment), I had to sock even more of it away into a 401K program and taxes. A good friend of mine had a guy that kept harassing her until she finally and reluctantly talked to HR about it. That guy was let go. A VP's office was broken into (and something was stolen from my desk) by one of the security guards who had stolen some company checks and forged them. All the company employees were white, but the security people were black (and considerably lower paid). After that, a new secuirty firm was brought in that had white guards. Then after about a year and a half, the company was sold to a larger bank and almost everyone was let go.

I think that first year of working, I experienced almost everything that I possibly could have about the traditional "working world". Monday morning meetings, office gossip, people just going through the motions towards retirement, burn-out, firings, lay-offs, you name it, it was there.

I think the thing people have to watch out for is "the routine". When you find yourself in this, years can slip by practically unnoticed. Don't focus your life around that "traditional" world. It won't notice you (much less even care), and won't be the thing that will really stand out when you're older. It'll just use you up and spit you out.

Instead, do something daring. Something challenging. Something that you can be proud of and feel integrity in. Take a risk and find a dream to follow. Don't fall into the trap of a routine just because society says if you don't, you'll be a failure.

 

[Bitek]

I had been feeling the same way for a while as I was drawing nearer to my college graduation. I was anxious about having to find a job, wake up early in the morning and spend my day at a job. Here I am now a few months after graduating and I am wondering what I was so worried about. I found a good job relatively easy, I am making more money than I have ever made working an interesting job (science jobs are great!)

Overall I don't have to work as hard as I did working crappy jobs (like at a supermarket or fast food or car dealerships etc) making way more and less hours.

The best benefit is independence. College is so expensive most people need assistance from thier parents, and this invariably comes with strings. My parents were great, but is a good feeling being able to pay for all my own things and I don't have to listen to anyone about what I spend my money on etc, etc.

I am in the process of buying my first place (a condo really, but is quite nice and don't have roommates) will be looking for a car when I have saved up for one, and am going on vacation to the UK for the holidays. Things couldn't be better. Best of all, no damn HW or tests or mandatory reading! Yea for adulthood!

 

[OS]

<< and i don't want my life to be so routine where i wake >>



I know exactly how you feel In fact, I'm probably at where you are afraid of going.

I don't really feel like I had a fun childhood and I spent most of my high school years working hard to get into a good college, only to drop out later. Ever since high school began, I've never taken a summer off, I've only loaded up on classes and work.

Today, I'm loaded down with a never ending stream of tests and projects, and the realization that I'm doing all this to work in a high pressure, fast paced industry. I guess I never really had an opportunity to take the pressure off and see what life really has to offer me. I guess I'd like to have a couple months off to develop some hobbies and side interests. Not too long ago, I ran into a friend of mine and she said "[outersquare], whenever I see you, you always look so tired."

 

[Zenmervolt]

Don't I feel odd now. At 19 I can't wait to get the hell out of University and into the "real world". Two years, one semester and one month to go....

ZV

 

[kami]

I sorta half-fear the same thing. Everything is so damn fun right now, i get to party all the time, i can act like an immature jackass sometimes ()...but in a couple years it'll all be over. Adulthood has its perks but what I have now seems a lot more fun. Plus I got my student loans to look forward to paying back

 

[InfectedMushroom]

Hey it all depends on how you want to live even after you finish college.
I'm 27 and still go out and party 4-5 nights a week when I feel like it. It helps that I live in a college town and have a few friends that are still in college.
Life can be fun if you want it to be.

 

[LethalWolfe]

You're only as old as you feel. Life will only become repetitive and boring if you let it.


Lethal

 

[MaxDepth]

weezer-g:
Because of some stresses now and earlier on in my life, my dark brown hair is now sporting white walls (white streaks above my ears). I was in the grocery store this weekend and I stopped in the aisle that has the Grecian (spelling?) formula for men hair coloring product. I've seen the commercial since I was a little kid and those actors all looked old to me. As I was reading the instructions on the box, a cutie-pie with a carolina sweatshirt (I live near UNC) walked past me, made eye contact and said that I didn't need that box, she liked men with a little grey (but she isn't dating me - what looked like a boyfriend caught up with her in the aisle). Still I was a little down when I realized I was actually thinking of using the hair color.

My age is in the birthday thread. Funny, my 21st 22nd and 23rd birthdays were my wildest (from what I remember). Now, I gather friends and have a party on that birthday weekend at my house. Usually the folks who are married leave at 10 and the others go out looking for a little sum'sum after that. I'm sorry the employment outlook is like that in the early '90s but really everybody needs a crappy job and crappy wages to start out with.

Here, think of AC (after college) as an adventure. I did and I still do in some ways. You haven't sold out (or bought in, as some of your elders like to say). You can live with your ideals. Have fun. Have you ever grabbed her best friend, gotten into a car and just drove somewhere you've never been? Its amazing how cheaply you can do it. And take pictures. You can look at those when you are *really* old. Like fifety.

 

[TheBlondOne]

I understand how you're feeling. Back when we didn't have any responsibility, we didn't know how good we had it.

My solution to the problem of growing up (a.k.a. getting married, having kids, etc.)? Go to grad school. One of the best ways to put off reality for awhile longer.

Good luck!

--Sarah

 

[Gonad the Barbarian]

I am 25 and am going through the exact same thing. I am determined not to grow up. Now if I could just find away around growing older I'd be set.

 

[TuffGuy]

welcome to my nightmare.

 

[LoneWolf1]

I may grow older, but I refuse to grow up!

 

[Muadib]

i think u guys are right. it's all in my hands how my life is going to be. i just don't want that responsibility.
So don't. Find yourself a nice wealthy dude to take care of you. Learn how to work that thang girl!

 

[GrumpyMan]

When I used to kid my dad about being old he always used to tell me, " Through these doors you shall pass". And then he would laugh at me. I never really understood what he was laughing at until I started passing through those doors. The worst part about getting older is that in your mind you are always 25 but your body does not follow suit. It's when the younger people start to treat you like your older that you finally realize that you don't fit in anymore. But on the bright side, you are 50 times smarter about the world and people than you used to be. I hope you find someone to love and grow old with, it softens the blow.

 

[BigJohnKC]

I just had this discussion with my ex-roommate from college last night - we both graduated with the same bachelors degrees, but he went on to grad school and I got a job....he says it sucks still being in school, and I just love being out in the world, having a job and responsibilities, except bills are suck.

Enjoy the fact that you don't really have to go to class if you don't want to, because you don't get that luxury out here in the big bad world. But, I love having money now, since I had none in college. You'll be fine, just enjoy life no matter what stage of it you are in.

 

[DannyLove]

i feel your pain too

<---soon to be 21



danny~!

 

[Danman]

I am scared now to grow up from what I just read........ I am 16 and I have lots' o pressures on me already.......

 

[apoppin]

<< I think the older you get, the less fun it is.

Young people have little to no responsibility. And really young people, kids, have it the best because things are still so much fun. Holidays, cartoons, toys, family vacations, all of the distractions which keep them ignorant of the rest of the world. Even if they don't have that much, a child's world is still based largely upon their own realities and whatever they can imagine them to be. Even dirt can be fun.

But as you get older. Something happens. Things start to change.
>>




You have my condolences. It hasn't turned out that way for me. I have always had an interesting life. I lived in Ireland as a reporter for a magazine - just out of of High School for 3 years - it was a blast. I came back the US and got a job but never settled down. I adopted the surfing-lifestyle in my early 30's, travelled and lived in Brazil for awhile, learned Portugese and Spanish.

When I was 39 years old I moved to Hawaii and settled on the North Shore. I surfed/bodyboarded Pipeline as part of the regular surfing crew for 8 years(as big as it got on the first reef) and became a Surf reporter for radio and TV as well as a radio DJ (had my own shows and produced a popular 'morning show') even though I never had any experience with it before. I moved back to Cali to help my mom with her health crisis. (I will be back in Hawaii this January for a 2 month "working vacation".)

Personally - although I am getting older chronologically - I am having more fun than in my 20s (when I thought I knew what fun was). And I was sick in High School with chronic bronchitis, so that was no fun.

I'll repeat it again - age (to a point) is in your own mind. As long as you are healthy, you can enjoy life as much as you will let yourself enjoy it.

Hey, dirt can still be fun. I still get that same childlike wonder and excitement everytime I go into the ocean. I hope that NEVER changes.

 

[OS]

Man, what a difference in perception on life before and after a big midterm. . .



*sigh of relief*

 

[DukeN]

<< does anybodoy go through this? >>



Yah, aint much that can be done bout it tho *shrug*