I don't like it when people can see my eyes

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: LoKe

Originally posted by: FoBoT
that is often a sign of dishonesty

go see a shrink

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
You're hiding something.

I've never really done anything wrong to be ashamed of something, or have a need to hide it. Everyone has their secrets.

Originally posted by: Platypus

Originally posted by: LoKe

Originally posted by: Proletariat

Originally posted by: Platypus
No self confidence?

Thats it.

Its actually a symptom of low self esteem.

I figured as much, but why does hiding my eyes change that? 🙁

Obviously you need more self confidence, why do you say that you have very little?

I've never been a confident person. I'd put myself at the bottom of the list for just about anything. I won't go too far into it because people like to scream emo with no real basis, but I've never been social or had anything to be proud of. Confidence comes from somewhere.

thats pretty much the way i am/feel.

 

[JDrake]

Originally posted by: LoKe

Originally posted by: DaShen
I suggest joining a speech club. You will be forced to speak in public, and that will make you more confident.

Toastmasters is a good one.

Don't know if I could do that. You seem to have figured out my hatred for speaking infront of an audience; I don't know if I could possibly take a class for that, it would be hell on earth.

Well that's one of the main reasons for those classes (is people like you).
I took a public speaking class in HS, not that I was ever not able to speak easily in public, but I did learn a lot and so did the other shy-er people

 

[imported_LoKe]

Originally posted by: joedrake

Originally posted by: LoKe

Originally posted by: DaShen
I suggest joining a speech club. You will be forced to speak in public, and that will make you more confident.

Toastmasters is a good one.

Don't know if I could do that. You seem to have figured out my hatred for speaking infront of an audience; I don't know if I could possibly take a class for that, it would be hell on earth.

Well that's one of the main reasons for those classes (is people like you).
I took a public speaking class in HS, not that I was ever not able to speak easily in public, but I did learn a lot and so did the other shy-er people

I've never failed an oral evaluation, I always get through it.

 

[OdiN]

damn emo

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
i am the exact opposite.
I like people to see my eyes and i want to see theirs.
One's eyes tell so much without saying anything.
Maybe that is why you don't like it.

I like to look at your ... eyes. Yes, eyes. 😱

 

[Platypus]

PM me if you want to talk more about it and maybe I can offer some suggestions without public scrutiny.

 

[Howard]

You're afraid of being recognized for being a rat.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: LoKe

Originally posted by: DaShen
I suggest joining a speech club. You will be forced to speak in public, and that will make you more confident.

Toastmasters is a good one.

Don't know if I could do that. You seem to have figured out my hatred for speaking infront of an audience; I don't know if I could possibly take a class for that, it would be hell on earth.

But eventually you'd get over it. When I was in school, probably around 7th grade, I would shake so badly I could hardly read a paper in the front of the class when I had to. I took a speech class the next year, and a couple years later I was playing guitar in front of a couple hundred people with no problems.


Oh yeah, and you have no soul.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: LoKe

Originally posted by: DaShen
I suggest joining a speech club. You will be forced to speak in public, and that will make you more confident.

Toastmasters is a good one.

Don't know if I could do that. You seem to have figured out my hatred for speaking infront of an audience; I don't know if I could possibly take a class for that, it would be hell on earth.

Trust me, it is a good thing. I used to hate public speaking, but I joined ToastMasters and now I am comfortable speaking, although I still prefer not to. It gives you a little confidence. My first speak, all I did was look at my notes and read them, and I shook the whole time. Now I don't even need notes, and if I mess up (which I do constantly), no big deal.

I am an introvert and shy myself, some of my friends call me a hermit because I rarely go out clubbing or dancing. I prefer to be in small social group settings instead of large ones and I get stage fright (although I have done plays and musicals).

Trust me in that ToastMasters is a good way of getting used to public speaking. You are in a group of 5-15 people who you get to know and are not afraid of speaking to, and you just start talking. It is a good experience.

Also,

I won't go too far into it because people like to scream emo with no real basis, but I've never been social or had anything to be proud of. Confidence comes from somewhere.

Actually, you will be surprised to know that most people who are "leaders" are really not the most talented, or bright..., they tend to be the people who have the confidence enough to just go out there and do it because no one else will. Confidence is something you can attain without being super awesome at anything. Challenge yourself by doing this public speaking thing, and I guarantee you will become more confident as you go a long. From everything I gather from you right now, if you do this and build some confidence, people will find you very pleasent and become your friend. 🙂 The skies the limit from there.

 

[Epic Fail]

Originally posted by: LoKe

Originally posted by: yamadakun
You are afraid people can read your bluff.

I don't bluff. 😉

Closing one eye is no use, I can still read your hand.

 

[CraKaJaX]

Just grow emo hair that covers your eyes, then you don't even need sunglasses.

 

[DaShen]

Hey LoKe,

http://www.toastmasters.org/find/

Try it out. 🙂 If you don't like it after a few visits, come back and post that.

 

[pontifex]

one of my problems is that i don't really like doing a lot of things most other people do or have interest in. so basically i have nothing in common with anyone so i just sit there and listen.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: pontifex
one of my problems is that i don't really like doing a lot of things most other people do or have interest in. so basically i have nothing in common with anyone so i just sit there and listen.

I have the same problem with people I know. I will make a joke about current news and I just get blank stares, and then they start to go on and on about the NFL draft, which I only know what I hear on the news... So I just sit there and listen. Nothing wrong with that, but I would say that then you just need to go out there and find other close friends, who get you.

 

[DaWhim]

Originally posted by: DaShen
Hey LoKe,

http://www.toastmasters.org/find/

Try it out. 🙂 If you don't like it after a few visits, come back and post that.

great way to learn public speaking. I went through that and got a cert from them like 5 years ago. hah..my public speaking skill still sucks.

 

[Injury]

Originally posted by: LoKe
I've never failed an oral evaluation, I always get through it.

...

That sounds dirty.

 

[kogase]

Dark apparel and avoiding direct eye contact are two common symptons of the disease known as EMO. Common treatments for EMO include hair cuts, bluegrass music, and ass beatings. Check your local Hell's Angels chapter for more on that, or eat more fiber.

 

[FeuerFrei]

Originally posted by: LoKe
I have absolutely no idea why it makes me uncomfortable when people can see my eyes, but if I have sunglasses on or something, I feel more confident.

Anyone else feel this way? Anyone know why?

are you asian?

ok ok, I only read the OP before posting

 

[imported_Baloo]

Look up "Theory of mind."

 

[FoBoT]

in your eyes
the light the heat
in your eyes
I am complete
in your eyes
I see the doorway to a thousand churches
in your eyes
the resolution of all the fruitless searches
in your eyes
I see the light and the heat
in your eyes
oh, I want to be that complete
I want to touch the light
the heat I see in your eyes

 

[ValkyrieofHouston]

Originally posted by: LoKe
I have absolutely no idea why it makes me uncomfortable when people can see my eyes, but if I have sunglasses on or something, I feel more confident.

Anyone else feel this way? Anyone know why?

Not sure, but if I had to guess it is a sign of insecurity... or shyness?

Ever thought about seeing a shrink?

 

[imported_LoKe]

Originally posted by: kogase
Dark apparel and avoiding direct eye contact are two common symptons of the disease known as EMO. Common treatments for EMO include hair cuts, bluegrass music, and ass beatings. Check your local Hell's Angels chapter for more on that, or eat more fiber.

As we speak, the only dark apparel I've got on would be my undershirt.

Originally posted by: ValkyrieofHouston

Originally posted by: LoKe
I have absolutely no idea why it makes me uncomfortable when people can see my eyes, but if I have sunglasses on or something, I feel more confident.

Anyone else feel this way? Anyone know why?

Not sure, but if I had to guess it is a sign of insecurity... or shyness?

Ever thought about seeing a shrink?

Considered it, but I don't think I could be that open with someone I don't know. Sounds like I'd just be wasting money.

 

[fustercluck]

I feel the same way, i always feel more comfortable in sunglasses. Though i don't like to wear sunglasses indoors or at night (unlike Corey Hart). I hate eye contact, I've been trying to work on better eye contact lately, but i just don't like it, so i think i'll just avoid it unless it's a situation which calls for eye contact.