I don't get open caskets.

[Mai72]

I went to a funeral last week for a co-worker who had a massive heart attack. The funeral was sad. The thing I don't get is why the open casket.? I get it. You want to see your loved one for the final time, but can't that be done thru pictures? Why do we need to see a dead body?

IMO, it just comes down to our attachment to our lives that we really don't own. The body you have isn't really your body. In a sense it is, but in the end when you die it goes back to the earth. The house you own isn't your home. When you die its going to change hands, and in the end it's going to just be destroyed anyway. That goes for everything in your life.

Living life without attachment is something that I'm trying to grasp. Like everyone on this forum, I've been conditioned by society to fear death, because death means detaching from your life. But, in reality you don't really own your life. It's all so temporary anyway.

 

[purbeast0]

Serious question - have you lost a family member? Like a mom, dad, brother, sister, or child?

 

[John Connor]

I wonder if I should make a request to have people see or not see my dead ass when the inevitable happens. You look so fake when you're dead.

 

[Red Squirrel]

I guess it's a bit morbid, but there is something about getting to see the actual person a last time vs a picture. The pictures are for after and you have them forever, but you just want to see the person a last time, maybe even touch their hand etc.

 

[BD231]

Lost my daddy to cancer but ... I'd trade his death for the beatings and mental abuse he put the family through any day.

Nobody wants to hear that shit mayne, y'all just happen to be that nobody Kappa

 

[John Connor]

Delete

 

[rh71]

They're all full of makeup at that point it's hard not to notice. I think it's a bit more sad to see the person you love (if a close family member) lying there lifeless though. I don't know if it's what we want.

 

[BD231]

You're all full of cheeseburger's KappaCool

 

[John Connor]

I'm a believer of sorts and though it may be sad, I think we just move on to the next life. We really haven't gone anywhere. I say things to my now deceased family members quite often. I like to think they hear me. I lost my cousin to stage IV cancer last August. That was rough. But being the person he was, a faithful follower, I'm sure he's still around. He was a big time fisherman and I like to think he's had a chance to catch a few with Saint Peter. If that's possible. LOL

Faith is just that -- faith. No one can deny it, take it or tell you otherwise.

 

[BD231]

You always knew how to put a s̶m̶i̶l̶e̶ hooker on my face John Keepo

 

[John Connor]

Why does a fruit bearing tree drop fruit to the ground that no one eats thousands of miles away from people that would love to have that fruit? Why can I feel the heat of the sun, being millions of miles away and it produces everything we have?

What ever it is, it's beyond our human understanding and comprehension. Just like death, it's everywhere, even in the cosmos of the universe and it just is.

 

[Humpy]

If it's open casket I stay way in the back so I can't see. Not a fan.

What I don't get is not mentioning cause of death in obituaries. I want to know what happened god dammit!

 

[John Connor]

LMAO!

 

[Kaido]

Funeral directors warn mourners to stop taking selfies next to caskets after grievers FACE SWAP with dead relatives to take part in tasteless trend

Warning: this article does actually have a face swap pic...

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...ectors-tell-mourners-stop-taking-selfies.html

/r/nottheonion

 

[Kaido]

Lost my daddy to cancer but ... I'd trade his death for the beatings and mental abuse he put the family through any day.

Dang man You OK?

 

[Kaido]

I guess it's a bit morbid, but there is something about getting to see the actual person a last time vs a picture. The pictures are for after and you have them forever, but you just want to see the person a last time, maybe even touch their hand etc.

Yeah, I always thought it was kinda weird, but I understand the sentiment, especially after losing family members myself. I was never too comfortable in rooms with dead bodies though...the hardware is there, but the OS is gone. You just know the person isn't in there.

 

[John Connor]

I've seen more damn death then you can shake a stick at. My most prominent memory was of a Marine who was going through some shit. He was in the front of the store waving a gun around, walked in and said something to customer service, walked out in front of me and blew his brains out right there. Talk about a river of blood. And I'll never forget how his eyes flicked around wildly like they didn't know what to do.

If that's TMI I apologize, but I had to get that out. I have more stories that would make anyone go crazy. I've seen so much shit.

 

[preCRT]

Open caskets are creepy.

Remember the person as they looked when you last spent time with them, not all made up by the funeral home's beautician.

Plus, hopefully the person was an organ donor, & was able to give the gift of improved life to many others. This would render him or her a most beautiful human being, something that cannot be physically matched.

 

[Exterous]

It wasn't until I was in my 20s that I went to my first open casket funeral so it was pretty weird to me. Not a fan. I prefer that photos and memory boards to seeing a dead body. Most of the deaths in my family tend to be long, drawn out affairs so I like remembering them as they were before they got sick (I think my dad was 90lbs when he passed away)

 

[NuclearNed]

Not a huge fan of open caskets, but generally don't mind them all that much. Sometimes they are just bad though... I went to the funeral of a teenage girl (daughter of a close friend) who died in a freak accident that left her head/neck area in bad shape. Someone (maybe the funeral director?) should have been a good friend to her parents and *strongly* advised against an open casket. People in deep grief sometimes make bad decisions and don't realize it.

 

[ultimatebob]

It's weird, but sometimes you just need to see the person dead before their death really syncs in. Especially if it's a sudden death like a heart attack, and you were just talking to the person a few days ago.

 

[Thebobo]

I went to a funeral last week for a co-worker who had a massive heart attack. The funeral was sad. The thing I don't get is why the open casket.? I get it. You want to see your loved one for the final time, but can't that be done thru pictures? Why do we need to see a dead body?

IMO, it just comes down to our attachment to our lives that we really don't own. The body you have isn't really your body. In a sense it is, but in the end when you die it goes back to the earth. The house you own isn't your home. When you die its going to change hands, and in the end it's going to just be destroyed anyway. That goes for everything in your life.

Living life without attachment is something that I'm trying to grasp. Like everyone on this forum, I've been conditioned by society to fear death, because death means detaching from your life. But, in reality you don't really own your life. It's all so temporary anyway.

How about stuffed instead?

 

[Red Squirrel]

Open caskets are creepy.

Remember the person as they looked when you last spent time with them, not all made up by the funeral home's beautician.

Plus, hopefully the person was an organ donor, & was able to give the gift of improved life to many others. This would render him or her a most beautiful human being, something that cannot be physically matched.

Speaking of that I need to go bring in my donor form. I always assumed I was setup as organ donor since it says on my license, but there's still another registration form you have to fill out to make it more official. I think they need to raise more awareness of this like they do with blood donation, since I think a lot of people just don't really know about it. On the form it also says that it does not affect funeral arrangements. So I guess they take the organs out but sew you back together and then the funeral home takes it from there. I can kind of understand how some people may not want to become donors though, just the idea that they're "using you for spare parts" but personally I don't care since I'll be dead. I rather be able to help someone else. I even checked the section for research. I figure they need enough samples of something to do certain research/experiments etc which can lead to more medical knowledge, cures and so on.

I remember doing work in a morgue once, it was kinda eerie being in there alone and hearing the hum of the freezers, surrounded by dead bodies. I could not actually see the bodies though, most of them were in the freezer and there was one on a stretcher with a drape over it. I would have been kinda curious to poke around more but had a job to do and someone could have walked in any time.

 

[ultimatebob]

You know what I find really creepy? When I'm Facebook friends with someone who died and I get a birthday notification for them.

You would think that Facebook and the like would have a better system for marking users as deceased, but then I guess that people would abuse it if they did.

 

[NetWareHead]

I can understand the want/need for an open casket but I wish they could cosmetically do something to enhance the image of the deceased. You spend all of this money for a viewing/wake etc..., they apply shit tons of makeup to make them look like they are sleeping rather dead and they still look dead. Their skin has this creepy look to it, the face si supposed to look peaceful yet it doesnt. It just seems like such a wasted attempt.