I don't believe guys and girls can ever be friends

[compuwiz1]

I have a gal friend who weighs like 285 lbs. We've been friends for years. It can work. She's a total mother hen, but always tells me the truth, whether I like it or not. We'll never have any attraction to each other, no matter what.

 

[AlgaeEater]

Originally posted by: BigToque
As in being "true" friends where there is no romantic connection.

I think that when you pick your closest friends, the only members of the opposite sex that you include are those that you find attractive in some way, either physically or mentally.

I don't believe the bond can ever be comparable to a best friend of the same sex where (assuming both parties are heterosexual) the relationship is completely platonic.

Thoughts?

Are you single currently? Just curious as that might justify where you are basing this assumption off of.

I use to think this way when I was single, seriously. When I got into a relationship and been in the same one for 6 1/2 years now, all friends that I have that are girls, attractive or elsewise, has been strictly platonic and nothing more. I'm not even thinking of them in that "wavelength"... there's just so many other things that are going on in life.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: AlgaeEater

Originally posted by: BigToque
As in being "true" friends where there is no romantic connection.

I think that when you pick your closest friends, the only members of the opposite sex that you include are those that you find attractive in some way, either physically or mentally.

I don't believe the bond can ever be comparable to a best friend of the same sex where (assuming both parties are heterosexual) the relationship is completely platonic.

Thoughts?

Are you single currently? Just curious as that might justify where you are basing this assumption off of.

I use to think this way when I was single, seriously. When I got into a relationship and been in the same one for 6 1/2 years now, all friends that I have that are girls, attractive or elsewise, has been strictly platonic and nothing more. I'm not even thinking of them in that "wavelength"... there's just so many other things that are going on in life.

Bingo.

 

[OVerLoRDI]

I honestly agree with you. While I don't think it is true for everyone but for me it is. I often see no reason to be friends with girls I'm not interested in. Sure I'll have casual conversations with them and what not but I wouldn't call the girls I talk to and sometimes spend time with (in groups not so much 1 on 1) as real friends but merely acquaintances. If I really become friends with a girl it is almost 100% for sure I'll want more than just friendship.

 

[ColdFusion718]

I have this female friend and she's cute. However, I'm not physically attracted to her at all. That's how we were able to be friends for 8 years going on 9. If I were attracted to her, there'd be no way in hell it'd work.

For some people, sure. But for most guys, it won't.

 

[Zero001]

Not true. Some of my best frineds are girls.

One or more of these applies to each of them.
1. I respect them and would never cross that line
2. I've known them so long, they're like my sister
3. Just plain not attracted to them

 

[dug777]

I have a few good female friends.

 

[Kadarin]

I'm friends with one of my ex g/f's. This is possible because I've already been there and done that, and don't ever want to go there with her again.

 

[toolboxolio]

Originally posted by: Aimster
you are wrong

I have plenty of ugly female friends

ding ding!

That is the key to having female friends. Zero attraction.

 

[OsoVerde]

I've had friends that I'd never touch with a 10ft pole and friends I'd get together with in a heartbeat. I don't see why the level of attraction you have towards a person has to mean anything about the trueness or quality of your friendship with them. You can enjoy someone's company as a friend even if you'd be happy to enjoy their company in bed as well. There's a huge difference between having a friendship with a person you find attractive out of wishful thinking and having a friendship with a person you find attractive because you genuinely find the person interesting and would respect and care about them even if the wishful thinking wasn't there.