I dislike father's/mother's day...

[Jeff7181]

They're crappy Hallmark holidays that inject stress into my life. "I've got to do/get something meaningful to make them feel appreciated." It's difficult enough finding something to do/get for my 60+ year old parents for their birthdays and Christmas.

Does that make me a bad person/son?

 

[boomhower]

yes

 

[Amused]

Yes. The time to hate those holidays is when they're dead and gone and you remember all the times you were a selfish little twit like now.

 

[lxskllr]

Yes. The time to hate those holidays is when they're dead and gone and you remember all the times you were a selfish little twit like now.

Ouch!

:^D

 

[zinfamous]

Yes. The time to hate those holidays is when they're dead and gone and you remember all the times you were a selfish little twit like now.

this.

 

[Jeff7181]

Yes. The time to hate those holidays is when they're dead and gone and you remember all the times you were a selfish little twit like now.

Haha... I expected this. Seriously though... it's not that I don't appreciate them. I'm almost 30 years old so I've been doing this for about 20 years now. It just gets a little old going through the routine of buying a gift or making something or whatever. It's even more complicated by the fact that even though they're still married and living together they're not into each other anymore so one gets jealous if they think the other had a better holiday. I know it sounds incredibly arrogant, but if they got along it would be great because I could take them out for dinner or have them over for dinner and "grace them with my presence" rather than buying them something that they don't need.

 

[shortylickens]

I got my mom a portable Blu-ray player. Will get her a new computer this year for her birthday.
Last year a 22" widescreen for mothers day and blackberry 8830 for BD.

 

[mrjminer]

The only days someone gets a gift from me: birthday, Christmas.

Other than that, I may do a card for mother's/father's day once in a while. Corporations and fools are the only people who believe you have to buy them something. Just go hang out with them, call them and have a meaningful conversation, or do something like mow their lawn for them. They'd appreciate that the same if not more than getting a box of chocolates or something.

If you're at a distance, it might be better to pony up and send something small.

 

[skyking]

I'm with Jeff in the simple fact that any day is father's day and mother's day for me. My birthday is in December but dad would get me something on some random day and surprise me, something I really wanted. That meant so much more than something on my birthday, so I followed that tradition.

 

[AreaCode707]

I don't mind making the time to spend a day with them but the card/gift thing gets a little old. They don't need or want anything that's within gifting price range. So I wind up buying them junk I don't want to spend money on so they can feel like I appreciated them with crap they now have to store somewhere.

Dinner > *

 

[skyking]

I don't mind making the time to spend a day with them but the card/gift thing gets a little old. They don't need or want anything that's within gifting price range. So I wind up buying them junk I don't want to spend money on so they can feel like I appreciated them with crap they now have to store somewhere.

Dinner > *

Time with them >*

Dinner works for that.

 

[xanis]

You're making it seem like it takes a lot of effort to make the holiday memorable. It doesn't need to be that way.

My parents aren't material people, so getting them just a card and having a meal with them is enough to let them know that I care.

 

[Jeff7181]

You're making it seem like it takes a lot of effort to make the holiday memorable. It doesn't need to be that way.

My parents aren't material people, so getting them just a card and having a meal with them is enough to let them know that I care.

Historically it has taken a lot of effort for my family. They've never been big on the togetherness thing and focus more on the materialistic side of holidays and birthdays.

 

[JS80]

The thing that annoys me about Mother's Day is that my wife expects me to get her something. It's not Wife's Day. It's Mother's Day.

 

[shortylickens]

The thing that annoys me about Mother's Day is that my wife expects me to get her something. It's not Wife's Day. It's Mother's Day.

Yeah, those fucking deadbeat kids need to earn a god damn paycheck!

 

[fleabag]

The thing that annoys me about Mother's Day is that my wife expects me to get her something. It's not Wife's Day. It's Mother's Day.

Do you have kids?? If not, then it's definitely not deserved.. If you do have kids, maybe she thinks her kids didn't give her enough?

 

[JS80]

Do you have kids?? If not, then it's definitely not deserved.. If you do have kids, maybe she thinks her kids didn't give her enough?

Yes we have kids. Both < 2.

Regardless, it's "Mother's" day. Not wife's day. She is not my mother.

 

[fleabag]

Yes we have kids. Both < 2.

Regardless, it's "Mother's" day. Not wife's day. She is not my mother.

Do you tell her this? Regardless, my dad gets stuff for my mom on mothers day and my mom got something for my dad on fathers day. :shrug:

 

[zinfamous]

Historically it has taken a lot of effort for my family. They've never been big on the togetherness thing and focus more on the materialistic side of holidays and birthdays.

ah, this is why you don't care.

 

[zinfamous]

Yes we have kids. Both < 2.

Regardless, it's "Mother's" day. Not wife's day. She is not my mother.

She is obviously a mother. She is the mother of your children.

I assumed wrongly that even you were incapable of showing such little regard. Is it this kind of attitude that speaks towards that "horrible wife-beating Korean husband" stereotype that you've mentioned here before?

I usually laugh when you mention it b/c you're joking, but serious question is serious here.
:hmm:

 

[nerp]

My first father's day as a father this year so I'm pretty happy. My wife is good at buying stuff for me and she has money to burn so I'm not complaining.

 

[JS80]

Do you tell her this? Regardless, my dad gets stuff for my mom on mothers day and my mom got something for my dad on fathers day. :shrug:

lol of course not. happy wife happy life.

 

[Motorheader]

Nothing like a card, flowers, a power tool, or a new cellphone to show your love. Woohoo - pile on more debt.

Crappy capitalistic based non-essential "holiday".

 

[JS80]

She is obviously a mother. She is the mother of your children.

I assumed wrongly that even you were incapable of showing such little regard. Is it this kind of attitude that speaks towards that "horrible wife-beating Korean husband" stereotype that you've mentioned here before?

I usually laugh when you mention it b/c you're joking, but serious question is serious here.
:hmm:

That only applies if one has a Korean wife.

 

[Fingolfin269]

I think everyone knows these are Hallmark holidays. However, these are not the holidays to bitch about when it comes to Hallmark holidays.