<< The hell is wrong with you, its US who cannot communicate!!!! >>
By "us" I presume you mean men? lol! You've been suckered by the feminist movement or pop relationship 'experts' like that fraud John Gray, into believing that women are by some mysterious force 'born' the 'better' communicators. Not so.
Men are generally (there are exceptions) more direct, unpresumptuous, and logical communicators. Generally (again, there are exceptions), men want a relationship where there are no 'mysteries' to figure out, where they aren't constantly expected to 'guess' a woman's thoughts or feelings, where they aren't expected to decipher some 'cryptic' emotional code. Women on the other hand, typically prefer a relationship where you are "expected" to know the answer to many questions. They don't want you to ask, they believe you shouldn't have to ask, men should just "know".
The "no means yes" premise of this girl's response is a PERFECT example of that. John Gray advocates the very same thing; when a woman is upset and her man asks if there is something wrong, and the woman responds 'no', John Gray says that actually means 'yes', while 'go away' or 'leave me alone' actually means 'hold me', and all that crap.
This is a SEVERELY disfunctional way of communicating and instead of taking women to task for this, psuedo-experts like John Gray actually place the onus on MEN to 'decipher' this female code, and if they don't, the failing is the man's. That is absurd both on its face and in principle.
Giddy 15 year-old high schoolers play games like that, not adults. Adults communicated directly and don't try to send 'cryptic' messages to each other, then get all upset because someone didn't figure out their cryptic system.
If I come home and my GF seems down in the dumps, and I ask "Is there something wrong?" and she says "no", by God she better mean 'no' because I'm going to take her word for it. If she was lying, then she bears all responsibility for her communication failure, I refuse to.