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I always pick the winners

Regs

Lifer
I don't know why I waste my time with this girl.

Get ready for the most pathetic statement im about to make on this message board - one that you might have a good laugh at.

I asked out a girl 3 months ago in one of my classes in college. Well... I didn't ask her out but I told her how I felt about her. So then she asks me out on a date after the discussion is over. After that she just disappears for 3 weeks. No phone calls, no nothing. She didn't even come to class or any of her other classes.

She shows up a month later waving hi to me in class and whispers, "long story". So we go out side and talk and she tells me that she left her parents house and moved miles away to her aunts house which is an hour and a half drive away from school. On top of that she also lost her cell phone, which is why she couldnt call me and why I couldnt reach her. Which is a true story because I saw her come in to school with a crappy refurbished one. So now I know she's a very unstable girl, great. We decide to keep in touch which we did. One night I call her, and it just so happens she's drunk of her ass and invites me over. This is a 7:30 at night on a Sunday and by the time I would get there it would 10pm. So I decide to take a rain check for Monday after work, she agreed. So I call her up Monday and then she says she's too busy doing work. Ok.

So we meet up in class next week and we talk more. She takes my picture with her cam phone etc etc... We talked after class in the parking lot and asked if I could see her during the week. Now she just started work as a waitress because she needs the money from the ordeal with her parents, and now she works night times on Friday's, Saturday's, and Sunday's. She said shell call me or I call her.

Now I've been calling her all through the week and she doesn't even bother to pick up the phone. Neither has she been on AIM and I know she wouldn't block me.

Do you understand this? I don't. I show every interest in dating her and she shows the same. Yet trying to keep in contact with her is like a homework assignment gone horribly wrong.
 
stop calling her. Just treat her as booty call from now on, if she calls you, great, go hit it. If you are drunk and horny, call her, maybe you can hit it. she doesn't seem very dateable right now.
 
One night I call her, and it just so happens she's drunk of her ass and invites me over. This is a 7:30 at night on a Sunday and by the time I would get there it would 10pm. So I decide to take a rain check for Monday after work, she agreed.

You missed the booty call. 😛

This girl isn't worth your time man.
 
Originally posted by: calvinbiss
stop calling her. Just treat her as booty call from now on, if she calls you, great, go hit it. If you are drunk and horny, call her, maybe you can hit it. she doesn't seem very dateable right now.

I asked myself if she's worth it many times. By all means she's a very intelligent girl and is also very thoughtful. But just very stubborn.
 
Give up trying to date her; she's either not interested enough or not stable enough at the moment for a relationship right now.

Try bowling on the top of a picket fence - you're less likely to fall off to either side.
 
Originally posted by: MrChad
One night I call her, and it just so happens she's drunk of her ass and invites me over. This is a 7:30 at night on a Sunday and by the time I would get there it would 10pm. So I decide to take a rain check for Monday after work, she agreed.

You missed the booty call. 😛

This girl isn't worth your time man.

The odd thing about this is she admitted to being a hopeless romantic before we really discussed about dating. But she also said she needs "space". If this is her definition of space, then well, you're right. She isn't worth my time anyway.

One she said she was a hopeless romantic I thought she wasn't a one time deal type of girl.
 
they let middle school kids work as waitresses?!? 😕

wait ... you are only 13, right? cause it sounds like it from your post.
 
You are dealing with a head-case. She is unaware of how selfish she's being and you are a side-thought to her.

Make it clear to her that you are cutting her back down to "causal acquaintance" status if she doesn't intend to take you seriously, as what she is doing is both confusing and draining to you. It wouldn't hurt to ask exactly who you are to her either and whether she's taken the possibility of a relationship seriously.

Then she'll either make an effort to be around you more (hopeful outcome), she'll just say hi to you in class and not bother you outside of that (less optomistic outcome), or she'll continue on the same pattern she has (probable outcome). If she takes the third choice, you have to stick to your guns and move on from her.

Couldn't hurt to get another girl interested in you either. If she sees you with someone else, you'll be surprised how quickly she becomes more receptive to you.
 
Originally posted by: J0hnny
Damn, dude. Never pass up the booty call.

Either way, drop it like it's hot.

I messaged her saying I really regretted not seeing her on that Sunday lol. What a retarded thing to say.
 
Originally posted by: purbeast0
they let middle school kids work as waitresses?!? 😕

wait ... you are only 13, right? cause it sounds like it from your post.

My post assumes you are more than 13 years old. 🙂
 
you need to create some complex story and then ignore her for a while, and then say that your deaf. She'll get the point I hope.
 
Originally posted by: purbeast0
they let middle school kids work as waitresses?!? 😕

wait ... you are only 13, right? cause it sounds like it from your post.

How so? What should have I done? Im looking for constructive criticism here bud!

 
Originally posted by: Regs
Originally posted by: MrChad
One night I call her, and it just so happens she's drunk of her ass and invites me over. This is a 7:30 at night on a Sunday and by the time I would get there it would 10pm. So I decide to take a rain check for Monday after work, she agreed.

You missed the booty call. 😛

This girl isn't worth your time man.

The odd thing about this is she admitted to being a hopeless romantic before we really discussed about dating. But she also said she needs "space". If this is her definition of space, then well, you're right. She isn't worth my time anyway.

One she said she was a hopeless romantic I thought she wasn't a one time deal type of girl.

So she said she "needs space" before you even started dating her? That's a breakup line...This sounds like one to avoid, for sure.





 
Originally posted by: mikebb
Originally posted by: Regs
Originally posted by: MrChad
One night I call her, and it just so happens she's drunk of her ass and invites me over. This is a 7:30 at night on a Sunday and by the time I would get there it would 10pm. So I decide to take a rain check for Monday after work, she agreed.

You missed the booty call. 😛

This girl isn't worth your time man.

The odd thing about this is she admitted to being a hopeless romantic before we really discussed about dating. But she also said she needs "space". If this is her definition of space, then well, you're right. She isn't worth my time anyway.

One she said she was a hopeless romantic I thought she wasn't a one time deal type of girl.

So she said she "needs space" before you even started dating her? That's a breakup line...This sounds like one to avoid, for sure.

That's when you know you're pwned... you get the breakup line before you're steady.
 
Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
You are dealing with a head-case. She is unaware of how selfish she's being and you are a side-thought to her.

Make it clear to her that you are cutting her back down to "causal acquaintance" status if she doesn't intend to take you seriously, as what she is doing is both confusing and draining to you. It wouldn't hurt to ask exactly who you are to her either and whether she's taken the possibility of a relationship seriously.

Then she'll either make an effort to be around you more (hopeful outcome), she'll just say hi to you in class and not bother you outside of that (less optomistic outcome), or she'll continue on the same pattern she has (probable outcome). If she takes the third choice, you have to stick to your guns and move on from her.

Couldn't hurt to get another girl interested in you either. If she sees you with someone else, you'll be surprised how quickly she becomes more receptive to you.

I have taken this into consideration. I know there is a good looking girl in the same class that has "feelings" for me. But this girl is so sturbburn she'll likely just get pissed at me. It looks like im the only "hopeless romantic" in this situation.
 
This relationship seems to have more to do with cell-phones than any other single factor.

Come on now, you can't date someone with a 'crappy refurbished phone'. Have some fvcking self-respect!
 
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