My wife stays at home, but with our twin boys, she works a lot harder than I ever could at the office. I figure she might not be getting paid, but she's sure as hell working her share for the family. That means everything I earn goes into our joint account. She can spend whatever she wants, just like I can.
Originally posted by: Dean
Yes, sorta
She gets my entire pay, and if I am lucky, she will give me a small allowance back
Hmmm. That sounds familiar.
I make the money. My wife pays the bills, etc. We make joint decisions on large purchases. Otherwise, she can spend whatever she wants. So far, no problems. And it's been more than 25 years....
When I was married she had an allowance of $1200 a week, sinced the divorce and a girlfriend the x get ZERO and the gf gets ZERO.
I'm buying land.
Rogo
I'm buying land.
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kranky
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- Oct 9, 1999
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My wife worked for a while then retired to do volunteer work. She won't go shopping without asking me first. She'll get our weekly cash allowance from the ATM and she'll keep $50 and it will last her all week.
She's pretty frugal so I don't worry about her blowing the budget. But we had all that worked out before we got married anyway.
She's pretty frugal so I don't worry about her blowing the budget. But we had all that worked out before we got married anyway.
My wife and I have been married 9 years. We have three children, she's a stay at home Mom, we have joint accounts and I would never consider an allowance system. I consider it a state of bondage, and I can't have conceptualize having a relationship with a less than equal partner.
The first year we were married I made 17,500, that was a long time ago
. We've argued about money, sure, but nothing major. I trust her implicity, and she's never let me down.:heart:
Kelemvor
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Shouldn't need to set an allowance. My wife is a stay-at-home mom and also does Pampered Chef. Neither of us shops much and we only buy what we need. There's no need to set specific amounts on who can spend what and when. But if that's all the stay at home wife is good for is shopping, then I guess I can see why you'd need to do something.
Get her a CC with a low limit, don't have any join accounts, etc... But then that doesn't sound like much of a marriage.
Get her a CC with a low limit, don't have any join accounts, etc... But then that doesn't sound like much of a marriage.
Her primary expenditure was fabric. She was into tactile senation, speficially the leather in my saab on our first date. It burgeoned into persian carpets and romanian silk.
Maegin get's none of that stuff-just the norwegian wood.
Rogo
Maegin get's none of that stuff-just the norwegian wood.
Rogo
meltdown75
Lifer
- Nov 17, 2004
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stay at home wife?!
my wife will probably be making so much cake in the future that she'll be giving ME an allowance!
my wife will probably be making so much cake in the future that she'll be giving ME an allowance!
Wife is a stay at home mom and has a little business on the side.
She's not a freekin child. She works just as hard as I do (if not harder) raising the kids. My money is her money.
I wouldn't be married to a woman that just stayed home to stay home - as in no kids. That's just lazy.
She's not a freekin child. She works just as hard as I do (if not harder) raising the kids. My money is her money.
I wouldn't be married to a woman that just stayed home to stay home - as in no kids. That's just lazy.
StageLeft
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If my wife sat at home and watched the soaps she'd get the boot, honest to God. She is at home at the moment but only because one of us has to be (baby skoorbs). As such, my paycheck is considered mutual money. Not just from a practical standpoint, but one deep in my soul I never see her spending money as "Damn, mrsskoorb is spending my bucks again!". In regards to allowance, we both get one, and it is the same, even though my particular hobbies are faaaaaaar more expensive.
Yeah I'd tolerate that for about, oh less than an infinitely small slice of time. I have only known one couple like that. Guy made good money and the woman "retired" at about 40. He was constantly dropping comments about it when we were around them and I did not blame him for a second. She went back to work ultimately because it was ridiculous bumming around like that.
If you've got kids, then no way. She's at home taking care of them, not only does that entitle her to the occasional vacation (i.e. shopping spree) but who knows when she might need to pull a large amount of money on short notice for something. There's lots of legit reasons if kids are involved.
If no kids, and she's sitting around for the day with her feet up sipping some ginger ale and watching Maury after "working" for an hour to get the house clean, then absolutely yes. Either make your own damn money or accept that I'll pay you whatever I feel you earned in the bedroom last week.
If no kids, and she's sitting around for the day with her feet up sipping some ginger ale and watching Maury after "working" for an hour to get the house clean, then absolutely yes. Either make your own damn money or accept that I'll pay you whatever I feel you earned in the bedroom last week.
Squisher
Lifer
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My wife was stay at home for about fifteen years. No, she didn't get an allowance, but could buy anything she wanted. I think she always felt like was asking for permission when she told me about a purchase after the fact and that's why she went out and got a job.
mugs
Lifer
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I'd have to make several times more than my wife's earning potential before I'd be alright with her being a stay-at-home wife. Stay at home mom is a different story, and that's the situation we'll be in in a few years. I won't have to give my wife an "allowance," because I know she doesn't spend money frivolously.
It's not good if you look at it as "your" money and "her" money.
(We do still have separate accounts, but only because we haven't gotten around to joining them. She likes her BofA checking account that she's had for years, and I'm happy with the PNC Bank account that I've had for years.
It's not good if you look at it as "your" money and "her" money.
(We do still have separate accounts, but only because we haven't gotten around to joining them. She likes her BofA checking account that she's had for years, and I'm happy with the PNC Bank account that I've had for years.
The upkeep cost just isn't worth it. Utilities, food, spending money, having her around all the time. You can get a grade A hooker for less than that. A hooker does the job and keeps the mouth shut. It's like a rental, you only pay when you need it. Marriage is a bad investment.
Yes, my wife and I both get an allowance each month. I don't care what she spends her money on and she doesn't care what I spend my money on. With 3 kids, I know she works just as hard as I do. The money I make is for my family, not just me. That's my opinion anyway.
My wife stays at home since our second child was born. She also handles all the money/finances. I keep however much money in cash that I want on me, (usually 40-50 bucks or so) and any major purchases are discussed. I trust her with the finances, and she hasn't let me down so far. Now as far as keeping the house clean goes...that's another story.
The "my money and her money" is bullcrap. If she's a stay-at-home-mom, then it's both people's money. If the wife has a ridiculous spending habit, then IMO that's just like a drug, alcohol, or gambling habit for the husband...it needs to be dealt with, plain and simple. THAT might require her to be on an allowance.
But as long as the person staying at home is a responsible adult, I see no need.
The "my money and her money" is bullcrap. If she's a stay-at-home-mom, then it's both people's money. If the wife has a ridiculous spending habit, then IMO that's just like a drug, alcohol, or gambling habit for the husband...it needs to be dealt with, plain and simple. THAT might require her to be on an allowance.
But as long as the person staying at home is a responsible adult, I see no need.
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