How to tell family to go screw.......

[Gibson486]

To all the young people out there, if you get married, just elope and skip the celebration and go on a honeymoon. I have no idea wtf is wrong with my mom's family. For my invites, I included a card that allows them to bring a certain number of guest. Two weeks after sending them out, my mom and I are getting phone calls about how they are offended that they are only allowd x numbet a guests. I put my foot down and said that is all the space I have. This has created a huge amount of drama. They want to bring the grand kids... Wtf... One family wanted to bring 9 people... I let them have 4 seats...they are pissed. Another family photo copied the rsvp card so they could bring 6 more people. This crap is going on with about 5 of the families. I have no I idea why my mom's family is like this, but I can start to see why I do not really talk to them. //end rant

 

[Saint Nick]

Haha, marriage ceremonies.

 

[Fritzo]

It's not your fault, people are idiots that don't think things through. People suck and generally think their needs are a lot more important than they actually are. Mentioning "Space is limited" on the RSVP might have smoothed things over.

 

[Platypus]

You should consolidate all your marriage threads into one big one... or stop focusing on it so much.

 

[Atomic Playboy]

Tell them that each additional guest will cost $374.67. See if they still want to bring 5 extra people. If they do, profit!

 

[Tsaico]

Yeah, I have always felt this way. I had tried to pitch a potluck style wedding reception myself to combat this. Please bring a dish for 10 people and the menu will be whatever the 10 people at your table bring. It didn't work out...

As a side note, I understand how you feel. In my case it was even worse. My wife's mother is the oldest of 17 children, and her father is the 2nd of 12. And worse, they all get along and often hang out, even the cousins, which total in the low 100's, not including the kids they started having. What we did was have a big party for the Engagement party and hand passed out the invitation there. The cousins who didn't get one... well too bad...

As a second site note, I know have tons of people over all the time. Most do not stay often, but we get a call every other day or so, with one of her cousins saying s/he is in the area and wanted to visit and if it was all right to stop by, or the ones who live in the area will call to see what we are up to. My cousins... I can barely pick out in a line up...

 

[lxskllr]

Revoke the invitations of the complainers.

 

[purbeast0]

ive never heard of people giving invitations to a family of 8 people and saying "only 4 of you can come - you decide who can go." usually it is just an invitation stating explicitly the 4 people invited.

 

[Krazy4Real]

LOL! Just wait until you get to do the seating chart. /vomit

 

[seepy83]

That's ridiculous...never heard of it. People should know that weddings are expensive. I'm in the middle of wedding planning right now too, but our guest list strict. If we don't know you, you won't be at our wedding. So family and friends that are in significant/long-term/committed relationships will get +1's and can bring their significant other...but in most cases the invitation isn't even written as "and Guest". It has both persons names. I will not be introduced to someone I don't know at my wedding. It's a day for celebrating with people that mean something to you. Especially at a cost of $150 per head.

 

[paperfist]

You don't want to get more presents and money that the additional throng will generate?

 

[blackdogdeek]

we used to think the honeymoon was the time for celebrating having just gotten married. after our wedding we realized it was for celebrating not having to deal with planning a wedding anymore.

we just invited the specific people or put [invitee]+1 on the invites and then told everyone we weren't allowing children at the reception.

 

[chin311]

LOL cant agree more. The wife and I agreed 100% on eloping, went away, got married in the mountains, called a few family members the next day to let them know it was done.

No regrets!!!!!

 

[MotF Bane]

Have you purchased anything besides invitations?

If not, it's not too late to change! Take your own advice.

 

[DesiPower]

Tell them that each card gets 4 seats, rest can sit on the floor :biggrin:

 

[Baked]

Another reason why marriage makes people poor.

 

[Wreckem]

I feel for you. I had the same issue with my wedding earlier this month.

You invite a person and then they decide to bring their adult children(who didnt get invitations) and their adult children's children.

Then you will have fuckers that will try to RSVP two days before the wedding and then get offended when you tell them you have no space for them.

As for more guests = more gifts. Not in situations where it is family and the added people are family of the family member you invited. If you invitate a family member and they bring 5-6 people. At best expect 1 gift from those 5-6 people.

Then you have the god damn no-show'ers. That really pisses me off, more so since some of them were late RSVP'ers(not 2 days before, but still after "final headcount" for caterer.

 

[Wreckem]

Have you purchased anything besides invitations?

If not, it's not too late to change! Take your own advice.

They already sent invitations which means they likely already have a venue and it probably isn't very refundable.

 

[ImpulsE69]

Mention that for all attending there will be a required door raffle for a human sacrifice that you and your SO will bathe in to consummate your vows. Just a thought.

 

[PottedMeat]

complaining is one thing but...

Another family photo copied the rsvp card so they could bring 6 more people. This crap is going on with about 5 of the families.

what the fuck is this shit?


does this work for concert tickets :awe:?

edit: have you gotten any requests to pay for transportation?

 

[LurkerPrime]

My wife and I got married at a resort in the carribean. No friends, no family, no drama and at a significant savings over having a real wedding. We did have "receptions" at my parents and then at her parents after we got back. Those however were held at thier houses and people brought food dishes and alcohol. The food was good home cooked food (not caterred crap) and we had plenty of alcohol for everyone. Didn't really cost us a dime, and we made out like bandits on presents. I have zero regrets about it.

Also, most resorts will marry you for free. Just pick a resort you would go to on your honeymoon anyway and get married there. Invite everyone you want, it doesn't cost you anything. If no one shows up, oh well, at least they were invited, and then you can give them shit for not coming to your wedding.

 

[purbeast0]

haha wow some of the stories in here make me think i take the type of friends and family i have for granted.

 

[FoBoT]

you should have had it in a school gymnasium or farmer's field with chex mix and hot dogs, then you could have unlimited participation

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Revoke the invitations of the complainers.

This.

 

[NutBucket]

Make it a destination wedding. That's what my wife and I did. We had a reception with about 50 people instead of 300+. Its not that we don't like our families....we just didn't want to have a massive wedding.