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how to tell boss I dont want to relocate.

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Semidevil

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-2.5 months ago, I had plans to relocate with my wife.
-Told my boss. he understood. Told him that my expected leave date is July. Told my colleagues. they make fun of me for fun. told me this is a risky move due to economy etc etc. I told them I was sure.
-now that I'm getting divorce 🙁, there is no need for me go with her
-I don't want to relocate, and just want to stay here continuing my career.

How do I tell this to my boss that I want to stay without sounding like more of an idiot? I mean, I told him I was 99.9% sure that I'm gonna relocate and the only thing in question was the location. now I come back and tell him that I don't want to move? I have 2 months left before my 'leave,' so I don't even know if he found my replacement yet. Now, I feel like I'm bringing my personal life into my professional life, and inconveniencing the company and the staff.

Really, what's the best way to approach this conversation?
 
I'd just tell him that due to the circumstances you changed your mind, and apologize for the inconvenience in case he's already made plans.
 
yea, I know dont want to make any excuses. I was just wondering if I should go into the divorce thing or just give the generic 'personal.' Dont want to wierd anyone out going too personal.
 
You have to fake your own death. Then miraculously come back a week later, except without legs. How can he expect you to move without legs?
 
don't worry about sounding like an idiot, people will respect a person who just tells the truth and doesn't try to cover stuff up.
 
Originally posted by: Cheeseplug
You have to fake your own death. Then miraculously come back a week later, except without legs. How can he expect you to move without legs?
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i was going to say he needed to do a strip tease but i like your idea better. :beer:
 
Tell him you are getting a divorce, people will "sorry", and understand right away. Nothing to it. I though you were an idiot for changing your mind until I saw that you were getting divorced.

Personal reason is too broad. Someone's going to ask about you 'wife' sooner or later, may as well play the sympathy card now.
 
Yep. Just tell him that the reason you were relocating was b/c of your wife but now since you're getting a divorce you would like to stay.

Simple as that. Do it sooner (this week) rather than later.
 
Originally posted by: Cuda1447
Tell him the truth, divorce and things have changed.
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This. They'll understand. I'm all for keeping work and private life separate, but when it comes to things like this you can explains your whys and still keep your career on track.
 
After reading the replies I'm not sure if people are considering the fact that this might result in a "Semidevil is getting divorced!" announcement going out to the company, which is probably something you're not looking for. I don't really have much of an answer for you but to say I hope your boss is one who would keep that to himself and let you decide if you want to tell others.

edit: I say this because I recently heard my (ex) office manager talking over the phone to no less than three different people explaining how one of the other manager's father was on his death bed so he was going through hard times and wasn't available. Whether that person wanted all customers and colleagues to know is anyone's guess.
 
Originally posted by: Farang
After reading the replies I'm not sure if people are considering the fact that this might result in a "Semidevil is getting divorced!" announcement going out to the company, which is probably something you're not looking for. I don't really have much of an answer for you but to say I hope your boss is one who would keep that to himself and let you decide if you want to tell others.

edit: I say this because I recently heard my (ex) office manager talking over the phone to no less than three different people explaining how one of the other manager's father was on his death bed so he was going through hard times and wasn't available. Whether that person wanted all customers and colleagues to know is anyone's guess.
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A good manager keeps personal shit like this strictly between them. An "office manager" is normally a gossiping bitch with a job not much above a secretary.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07

A good manager keeps personal shit like this strictly between them. An "office manager" is normally a gossiping bitch with a job not much above a secretary.
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You're right, this man is worthless with an MBA from City U. He is the first person you see coming through the front door, too.

edit: makes $35 an hour though for some reason
 
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