How to say "no"?

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Koing

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Originally posted by: Ciber
Refer to my Sig.

lol love the sig.

Average guy: "Hey, that girl in my class looked my way a couple of times, I think she's checking me out."

ATOT Guy: "OMFG THAR IS A WOMIN IN THA ROOM WIT ME AND SHE HAS A PULSE AND EVERTHANG OMFG SHE WANTS ME BAD!"

Koing

 
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Originally posted by: Koing
Originally posted by: Ciber
Refer to my Sig.

lol love the sig.

Average guy: "Hey, that girl in my class looked my way a couple of times, I think she's checking me out."

ATOT Guy: "OMFG THAR IS A WOMIN IN THA ROOM WIT ME AND SHE HAS A PULSE AND EVERTHANG OMFG SHE WANTS ME BAD!"

Koing

Listen, he has called at least 3 times Thursday and Friday, and I tired to ignore his call on my cellphone today - so guess what, HE CALLS ME ON MY APARTMENT PHONE - the second time, I pick up out of annoyance. Oh, after I posted this, he CALLS ME AGAIN.

I'd be fvcking overzealous if a chick was like this, but not on this fvcking case. Fvckers.
 

eakers

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why don't you just tell him the truth that he makes you uncomfortable and you would rather not spend time with him outside of work?
 
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Originally posted by: eakers
why don't you just tell him the truth that he makes you uncomfortable and you would rather not spend time with him outside of work?

Umm, 'cause he is a good guy, and more importantly, he gives us free stuff!

. . . does that make me a whore? :D
 

Kadarin

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Why not treat it in a mature manner? If he directly hits on you, politely decline... Otherwise, relax and have fun.

Or not...
 

Turin39789

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Originally posted by: Jehovah
Originally posted by: eakers
why don't you just tell him the truth that he makes you uncomfortable and you would rather not spend time with him outside of work?

Umm, 'cause he is a good guy, and more importantly, he gives us free stuff!

. . . does that make me a whore? :D

it does, but it doesnt make it wrong.
 
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Originally posted by: Turin39789
Originally posted by: Jehovah
Originally posted by: eakers
why don't you just tell him the truth that he makes you uncomfortable and you would rather not spend time with him outside of work?

Umm, 'cause he is a good guy, and more importantly, he gives us free stuff!

. . . does that make me a whore? :D

it does, but it doesnt make it wrong.

I know :D
 

whaleskinrug

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Originally posted by: eakers
Originally posted by: Jehovah
Originally posted by: eakers
get over yourself. if he was trying to get you in the sack he wouldn't have told you he has a fiance.

I hope to dear god that you're right. But the thing is, I've never seen him with his fiancee 'cept once, even in other social gatherings . . ..

If I go there tonight and his friend "happened" to ditch us, I'm soo outta there.

at least you get to go out. i have to stay in and read tomas kuhn's the structure of scientific revolultions[/i]

:(

((waaaah look at me read))

I love that book!

As for the maybe gay thing. Just because he's gay/bi doesn't mean he finds you attractive. Unless he does something really forward what's the harm in hanging out with him. If he does do something explicit just say no like you would to a female.
 

tk149

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You two could go on a voyage of discovery together! j/k ;)

If you're absolutely sure you ain't going down that road, why worry? If he does hit on you, just tell him "No. And it ain't EVER going to happen either."

If not, then you two have a good clean time together, and become good friends.

Maybe he's trying to get you to go out so he can warn you that your roommate has the hots for you. ;)
 
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I know I know, but see, this is how I look at it:

- since I try to ignore him, we haven't gotten too "buddy-buddy" where we can talk about $hit like this, so I can't bring this up without offending him,

- He's a really nice guy, and gives us free stuff,

- even if he is straight, I'm not sure if I'd just be comfortable around him - I think it'll let me relax, but of all the times I've known him, he never brought it up and is so ambigous . . ..

Bottom line is, now I think I realize, that I dont think I enjoy much of his company.
 

whaleskinrug

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Originally posted by: Jehovah
I know I know, but see, this is how I look at it:

- since I try to ignore him, we haven't gotten too "buddy-buddy" where we can talk about $hit like this, so I can't bring this up without offending him,

- He's a really nice guy, and gives us free stuff,

- even if he is straight, I'm not sure if I'd just be comfortable around him - I think it'll let me relax, but of all the times I've known him, he never brought it up and is so ambigous . . ..

Bottom line is, now I think I realize, that I dont think I enjoy much of his company.

then stop hanging out with/accepting things from him
 
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Originally posted by: whaleskinrug
Originally posted by: Jehovah
I know I know, but see, this is how I look at it:

- since I try to ignore him, we haven't gotten too "buddy-buddy" where we can talk about $hit like this, so I can't bring this up without offending him,

- He's a really nice guy, and gives us free stuff,

- even if he is straight, I'm not sure if I'd just be comfortable around him - I think it'll let me relax, but of all the times I've known him, he never brought it up and is so ambigous . . ..

Bottom line is, now I think I realize, that I dont think I enjoy much of his company.

then stop hanging out with/accepting things from him

But it's so hard!

"Here, this is free stuff"

"No, I won't take it"

WTF is that?!
 

Danman

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If I was you, I would go to the bars with him tonight. If he starts to hit on you or tries to proceed on you, just be like "Dude, I really don't swing that way and I would appreciate if you would understand that and respect my wishes." If he was mature about it, he would understand and leave it at that and move on. IMO, that's the way to go since you work with this guy.
 
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Originally posted by: Alchemist99
I think anyone who uses anyhoo as much as you is prolly giving off the I'm GAy Too vibe, IMO

Actually, a lot of older ladies (not MILFs, believe you/me) are suprised I can't get any girls. There's seems to be a trend where little girls/fat chicks/older ladies/dogs seem to naturally like me - but not healthy nubile females. And I don't want to hear any sick, sick things, you pervs.
 

whaleskinrug

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Originally posted by: Jehovah
Originally posted by: Alchemist99
I think anyone who uses anyhoo as much as you is prolly giving off the I'm GAy Too vibe, IMO

Actually, a lot of older ladies (not MILFs, believe you/me) are suprised I can't get any girls. There's seems to be a trend where little girls/fat chicks/older ladies/dogs seem to naturally like me - but not healthy nubile females. And I don't want to hear any sick, sick things, you pervs.

figure out what vibe you're giving off and fix it :)
 
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Originally posted by: whaleskinrug
Originally posted by: Jehovah
Originally posted by: Alchemist99
I think anyone who uses anyhoo as much as you is prolly giving off the I'm GAy Too vibe, IMO

Actually, a lot of older ladies (not MILFs, believe you/me) are suprised I can't get any girls. There's seems to be a trend where little girls/fat chicks/older ladies/dogs seem to naturally like me - but not healthy nubile females. And I don't want to hear any sick, sick things, you pervs.

figure out what vibe you're giving off and fix it :)

No crap dude, been trying hellova lot to fix it - it might be my company that I keep sometimes . . . as is the case for tonight . . ..
 
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Originally posted by: whaleskinrug
No crap dude, been trying hellova lot to fix it - it might be my company that I keep sometimes . . . as is the case for tonight . . ..

how old are you?

I'm where I should be. Well, let's just say that I'm an undergrad who went to college immediately - and are of legal age to drink. ;)

I'm not 21, though.
 

whaleskinrug

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Originally posted by: Jehovah
Originally posted by: whaleskinrug
No crap dude, been trying hellova lot to fix it - it might be my company that I keep sometimes . . . as is the case for tonight . . ..

how old are you?

I'm where I should be. Well, let's just say that I'm an undergrad who went to college immediately - and are of legal age to drink. ;)

I'm not 21, though.

well, what is keeping quality women of your age away from you? besides AT ;)