How to prepare for public speaking

etalns

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On tuesday I'm going to be in a conference with some of the high ranked people in EB (Electronic Boutique) got my whole speech planned out, it's regarding my companies business alliance with them. It's basically a closing statement about it and then we sign the papers.

But I'm scared as hell, I've never been good with public speaking. I was wondering if anyone had any tips, so I dont stand there and begin and dont start shivering, or shaking, or just downright break down :S
 

gopunk

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hmm, i don't have any specific tips, but good luck :)

whenever i have to do public speaking, i try not to worry about it, and that gets rid of anxiety. just fill yourself with confidence :)
 

etalns

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I've got more confidence then I'll ever need in everything but public speaking.

It's not something which will decide whether or not they'll accept the alliance, they've already accepted it. I'm just nervous about how stupid I'll look if I mess up.
 

Maetryx

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1) If you know your topic 10 times more than they do, you are in a good starting position.
2) Don't speak too fast, and don't speed up as you go.
3) Use loose sentences, not tightly wound dense sentences. You're speaking, after all, not writing a research paper.
 
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this is what helps me whenever i am in front of an audience:

first off...embrace the fear/nervousness that you are feel. Always remember YOU are in control. They are watching YOU
second, breath
finally, try not to read off of your paper/cards, etc. make eye contact and try to look at everyone at least once

good luck!:D
 

poopaskoopa

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I think my old professor told me to speak slowly. Know your topic well and be organized. Sorry. I can't remember much else :(. Oh speak slowly. I think that should be repeated :D.
 

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Originally posted by: poopaskoopa
I think my old professor told me to speak slowly. Know your topic well and be organized. Sorry. I can't remember much else :(. Oh speak slowly. I think that should be repeated :D.

that's true, if you speak slowly, people think you're all wise and crap. but don't speak slowly... like... this.... speak medium with your thoughts, but increase the space between your thoughts. people will think it's dramatic effect.
 

etalns

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I know my topic really well, the biggest problem I have is speeding up halfway through and to lose my articulation.
 

Electrode

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Am I the only one who read that as "public spanking"? :D

Anyway, I can't offer much advice, other than to read your speech over and over until you have memorized every word of it. Good luck, and be sure to tell us how it goes! :)
 

Yossarian

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Practice once or twice in the mirror. Don't do it too much or you start to sound canned. Confidence is the biggest thing, go in there believing you are the smartest bastard in the room and you'll be ok.
 

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Qosis, not sure if you are a drinker or not, but one drink before your speach should aid in calming your nerves; I'm sure you'll do fine, good luck :)
 

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I think that I may not in fact be as good at public speaking as I would like to believe - in fact I may not be good at all. However some years back I went from a total fear of it to a comfort level with it. Even if I suck it doesn't worry me. The way I did this is because I thought on why people get nervous when they speak and then I thought on how they look to others and the thing is there is no logical reason why you should feel less comfortable speaking to 50 people than one. I know that you can't actually write down what the big deal is with public speaking because there is no big deal. Once you've convinced yourself of that your fear will subside. Now you still may not be good at it, but at least you won't be scared - and nothing hurts somebody's presentation more than when every time they talk there is a smacking sound because of how devoid of liquid their mouth is :Q
 

gopunk

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Originally posted by: poopaskoopa
but don't speak slowly... like... this....
I said speak slowly. Not die slowly :D.

i know, i know, i just didn't want him to get the wrong impression and sound like he rides the little school bus :p
 

etalns

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Originally posted by: Electrode
Am I the only one who read that as "public spanking"? :D

Anyway, I can't offer much advice, other than to read your speech over and over until you have memorized every word of it. Good luck, and be sure to tell us how it goes! :)

I believe so ;)
 

etalns

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Originally posted by: PipBoy
Practice once or twice in the mirror. Don't do it too much or you start to sound canned. Confidence is the biggest thing, go in there believing you are the smartest bastard in the room and you'll be ok.

believing? I am!

Okay, that was my one conceded coment for the day.
 

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just imagine your speaking to a group of retards, who cares what they think:)

oh, and give yourself a good pull b4, i'll calm your nerves;)
 

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When you get up to speak, and find that you are scared, it will help you, and will disarm your audience, if you admit out loud that you are just a little petrified at speaking at this important juncture. The folks will laugh, they will be on your side, your dirty little secret will be out of you and cut down to it's tiny little size, and you will do just fine from there on in.

Oh, and by the way "smartest bastard in the room", it's 'conceited', not 'conceded'. Yours must be a very small room.
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Squisher

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Originally posted by: Nefrodite
just imagine your speaking to a group of retards, who cares what they think:)

oh, and give yourself a good pull b4, i'll calm your nerves;)

Good advise

 

xirtam

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Replan your speech. Summarize to:

"Ok, everyone. We've been signing papers since kindergarten. This shouldn't take long."

Then hand 'em out.
 

PeeluckyDuckee

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haha, I once made an ass of myself doing public speaking. Always the nervous type, but that one time I didn't know what was in me, but I felt total comfort in the environment. The first few times I did it I didn't wear my eyeglasses so I was practically blind. No doubt that doesn't really help with public speaking, but when you're blind as a bat and can't see nobody, I can't start shooting ideas at myself about how people look at me and what they think about me. That worked quite well.

The other times I had more confidence in myself and had put back on the eyeglass. The lights in the room were partially off, and that did help a bit too.

Did about 5 or 6 presentations in total in that oral communications class. Felt much more comfortable with everyone else in the class afterwards, after everyone has made jackasses of themselves. lol

Watch the time. Practice speaking the paper over yourself, and time it. The worst thing in a presentation, imo, is people going too fast and nobody understands what the heck they're talking about (which defeats the who objective of the presentation), or drags on and on in monotone. Speak at a good pace, slow down, take pauses, take a few steps, show some body movement, make eye contact once every so often (not just in one corner, everyone) and you should be good.

If you can, find a couple of objects in the back of the room and use them as your focus points.

Don't just talk for the sake of talking. UNDERSTAND what you're saying yourself too, cause it may hit you like a brick wall if someone pauses to ask you a question and you go "huh?? what did I just say?" Some people say things for the sake of having to say it but aren't really paying attention to what they're saying. Sounds silly huh?

If you can open up the air with side joke at the beginning, that'd be a bonus for you :)

PS: Don't bite your thumb, fiddle your fingers, or play with the pen when you're speaking. Looks very unprofessional.

Goodluck with the speech.
Plucky
 

Salvador

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Know your topic very well.. This will give you confidence. If you have to, memorize the beginning and end of the speech. This will help.

Tell yourself that this is going to be fun. Don't psych yourself out. Most everyone gets nervous giving speeches at one time or another.

Sal