Talk to the painter. I've worked in a paint & body shop as a helper in the past, and painter's like things done a certain way. One painter liked da'ing the entire surface with 400, whereas another just scuffed non-damaged areas with 3M pads. I really suggest though, that you take some time, and learn how to sand from an experienced painter or bodyman. It looks easy enough, but requires the right touch, and a good feel for it. You sand it wrong, especially with a da, and you'll be stripping and resanding, or you'll have lumps and warps in your paint job. Let the painter do the priming, since paint flows onto primer that's fairly fresh better then primer that's weathered.
[edit] Soy, I've never heard of going to 2000 wet/dry for prepwork.
HVLP is only slightly more paint efficient, the main reason for using it is to reduce air pollution. High pressure guns hit the surface with greater force, and led to more overspray. HVLP guns reduce overspray by not reflecting off the surface as much. Think of the difference between squirting a wall with the hose, and then squirting it with your thumb on the end. [/edit]