how to overcome disappointment when your plan didn't work out?

[Mo0o]

Originally posted by: JasonCoder
So advice seems to break down into two camps...

a) get over it by boozing and/or whoring it up

b) life is a series of failures punctuated by crushing disappointments occasionally interspersed with brief highs... get used to it

So I'm going with option a. This thread is fucking depressing. What did I expect tho from the title so my fault. Hope things work out OP.

That seems like a poor generalization. I would say, yes life is interspersed with failures but in a happy and successful life, the failures are mere blips in a constellation of joys and achievements. Failures are great ways to learn about yourself. Failure doesn't necessarily mean that particular goal is now unattainable. It just means you pick yourself back up and come up with a different game plan.

 

[Colt45]

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[Goosemaster]

Originally posted by: Colt45
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nice...I always used to ignore it..

 

[zig3695]

not only did OP fail to accomplish his "plans" he also failed to respond to his own thread. loser!

 

[SampSon]

Get over it.
Create a new plan that is less ambitious.
Continue to work thoes new plans and remember to not plan too far ahead.
Planning too far ahead and mapping your life out is a huge mistake.

Even the best laid plans can come undone in a few seconds.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: zig3695
not only did OP fail to accomplish his "plans" he also failed to respond to his own thread. loser!

well, i wouldn't say he's a loser, but i do hope he answers some of the questions in this thread soon.

and GOES TO THE SUPERBOWL PARTY HE IS INVITED TO!

 

[theprodigalrebel]

It was just one job. I could tell you about my college/job/relationship experiences but typing all of that would just depress me. And no way in hell am I going to sadden myself for your amusement.



I am a selfish bitch.

 

[Reckoner]

Stop caring

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: fritolays
I don't think I've hit this low emotionally in a very long time. I had a very ambitious plan and vision for my future and after it came crashing down, it really affected me this time. I guess this is my real weakness, I can be ambitious but when something doesn't work out as planned, I get very discouraged. Don't get me wrong, I've had many many setbacks in my life but this time it's different. Now, I don't even want to answer anyone's phonecall or do anything anymore. I'm about to call my friend who I was supposed to meet up with tomorrow for the superbowl and cancelling plans. I'm angry at myself for screwing up and I'm slowly withdrawing more and more. It has been a while since I've felt indifferent/didn't care about what happens now. I've always been the naturally happy type underneathe it all but now I feel like I'm trying to look and sound happy... you know, pretending. How do I get over this bump? Sorry if this sounds so emo, but I tried to do things and workout at the gym but there's no motivation anymore

been there, done that. currently still doing that.

My answer:
You don't

if you find the answer, please PM me. i would like to know...