How to get better eye contact???

[JEDI]

I've always had a problem w/looking people in the eyes. If i start talking to him/her for a while, then i remember to look. but when i first meet them, i ALWAYS look somewhere else (nose, mouth, forehead, person behind them, etc).

Any advise on how to remember to look someone in the eyes when you FIRST start talking to them?

THX

 

[Russ]

It's just like any other habit; it's developed through practice until it becomes natural. Find a friend and do so.

Russ, NCNE

 

[MajesticMoose]

if you can't force youself to do it from shyness, just stare at the part of the nose b/t the eyes.

 

[MadRat]

Just stare at the hairline. People love it!

 

[Nefrodite]

eye contact with women is a good idea. don't stare like a corpse though
eye contact with men, only good during certain situations, perhaps interviews, sales etc. men don't gaze into each others eyes while conversing. (men-not inclusive of homosexuals)

 

[WhiteWonder]

just yell, or fart, and then they won't care about eye contact.





edit, i typed fat when i ment fart, w00ps

 

[Keego]

yeah, just practice. For some reason I kept looking at a girl's mouth when she talked, it was weird. I got over that though.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Every person has some sort of imperfection about their face whether it be zit, scar drooping eyelid or whatever. Just focus your attention on that imperfection while your talking with them and they will become so unfocused you will be able to dominate the conversation.

If that doesn't work, just ask them how they got that big ol' mole or zit on their nose as an aside while you carry on the conversation. That always gets them.

 

[b0mbrman]

<< Just stare at the hairline. People love it! >>


LOL!

 

[JEDI]

bump

 

[lawaris]

That comes from confidence

 

[exp]

<< just stare at the part of the nose b/t the eyes. >>

This method works very well...it is easier to avoid distractions if they have pretty eyes and to the other person it will appear as if you are looking directly into their eyes. However, you can tell a lot about a person by reading their eyes so eventually if you want to maximize the amount of information gleaned from your target it's probably a good idea to drop this technique and look straight into their eyes.

 

[bandXtrb]

< mystic voice> Look into my eyes ! < / mystic voice>

 

[TomC25]

Make sure you squint and furrow your brow when you look at them

Makes it look like you are really listening to what they are saying

 

[Spike]

exp has a point, it is alot easier to read someone by looking into their eyes instead of between them.

 

[ElFenix]

i could look into tara reid's eyes all day...

yummy

 

[gopunk]

my biggest prob. is when they have some imperfection... my eyes are drawn to it like bums to a dime.

and i feel like a creep when i look into somebody's eyes. i still do it, but i feel like a creep

 

[QueHuong]

In 8th grade, I could never look people in the eye. Then my friend pointed that out and said that my habit is conveying some kind of dishonesty when I don't look people in the eye. So because of her, I could easily make eye contact now since I don't want people to get a vibe of dishonesty or whatever.

 

[MomAndSkoorbaby]

Practice. Be confident. Don't stare, just look comfortably. Practice. Practice. Remind yourself constantly until it becomes habit - PRACTICE

 

[IJump]

Just close your eyes when you talk, after a while, you won't have to worry about looking people in the eyes when speaking to them, because everyone will avoid you because you are wierd.





Or you could just practice, like veryone else said.

 

[JEDI]

tried practicing with a mirror. not the same..sigh

so no "magic solution" huh?

 

[Peetoeng]

One good place for practicing eye contact w/ women is a jewelry store. Stake out the place first to make sure there's a young female sale staff available and it's not a busy hour. Tell her you're looking for a present for your gf or find your own reason. She (sale staff) would love to talk to you; she may even flirt w/ you to get a sale (from some experience).

Now go practice!

 

[ISAslot]

Wait a min. here, what would constitute staring? Is there a time limit?