For Windows 98 or 98 SE I believe you need to right-click on the My Computer object on the desktop, select Properties from the context menu that pops up. Now choose the Device Manager tab. I believe the hard drives are all located under one category, and the CD / DVD drives are under another. Expand the appropriate categories, double-click on the individual drives to get their Properties dialogs. Look through the dialogs as they come up to be sure that DMA is enabled. (Sorry I can't be more specific than this. I'm not a Win9X user, though I played with it for a couple of months. I migrated from AIX to Windows NT 4 and Windows 2000.)
By the way, regarding not being sure about which OS you're using, and your reference to the "blah blah blah" -- If operating systems and the computers they run on were as useful and reliable as they ought to be, then it wouldn't matter if you were aware of these matters. Unfortunately, we're not there yet -- not by a long stretch. I hope you have a hardware manual for your system and its components, and you should have at least some sort of documentation for the Windows installation on the machine. There is also a help facility built into Windows, and there's the Microsoft Knowledge Base online. I suggest that, if if it is important to you to be able to use this PC successfully, you consider investing some time in investigating the system and its operating system. Also, do be aware that, although online message forums can be extremely useful, there is also a lot of BS floating around online in the guise of good technical advice. In other words, people who are mistaken are often as convinced, and convincing, as people who are knowledgeable. You need to know at least enough about your system to become a judge of the likely utility of what you read online.
If you need further help on this, or other questions about the matter of how your CD drives are behaving, please holler. If I can't help, I'm sure someone else will be able to do so.
Regards,
Jim