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How the hell do you tell a 7 y/o what a virgin is??

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Yea... the right time for the talk is about 4th grade, because 5th grade is when they taught us in school. It's always better to hear it from a parent first. Just tell her its a mommy who isnt a mommy yet.
 
First, hold up a nice shining red cherry. (Get a plump one too). Then say. Look, this is a virgin cherry. Then smash it, then eat it. Spit out the seed and say, now this is a non virgin cherry.
 
Maybe because SHE'S 7!!
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Your point?

So it's ok to lie to someone if they are young?

And we wonder why we have a break down of family values and morals at the core.
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Please, dont reproduce.
 
i would do anything open minded that leads to sex

just tell her someone who hasnt had a baby yet. Technically its not wrong 😉
 
Originally posted by: Roger
how can she be a mommy and a virgin?
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Ameesh, you cannot be so factual when speaking to children, they understand only basic concepts.
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but wont she ask, how can she be a mommy if she doesnt have any kids? who is she the mommy of?
 
A couple of decent answers here actually. You can "lie" without it being wrong. My parents told me that babies are made when two people love each other a lot. hehe
 
This reminds me of me. When I was around that age, I was at the movie theater with my grandma and it mentioned virgins. So in the middle of the movie, "Grandma, what's a virgin?" First my grandma was embarrassed and then she said, "It is a girl who behaves." Innocence is bliss. Let your 7 year old stay innocent for as long as you like.
 
Originally posted by: SammySon
Maybe because SHE'S 7!!
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Your point?

So it's ok to lie to someone if they are young?

And we wonder why we have a break down of family values and morals at the core.
rolleye.gif

Please, dont reproduce.
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Uh... You think not telling your 7 year old child what a virgin is is going to cause a breakdown of family values and morals?

WTF?

You obviously have very limited experience with children. Please don't reproduce until you get a clue.

We are talking about a 7 year old here. Where do you draw the line? What if they were 4?

I mean, I agree with your sentiment to a point.. but laying it all out for them with their first question isn't exactly what you want to do. Even if you told them, they wouldn't really understand. It would raise more questions than it would answer, and virginity and sex isn't something a 7 year old needs to be thinking about.

You tell them something to appease their minds. It has nothing to do with being deceitful. It isn't very hard to understand.
 
i think replies should be prefaced with who has children and who doesnt.

i have a 7yo girl and 5yo boy. both are clueless to sex, other than male/female.

thats a tough question. i think the correct answer would be someone who doesnt have a baby yet. if she asks where babies come from, just tell her some things are meant for children, some for adults, and making babies is for adults. its worked in my home so far, and both of my children are gifted.

sometimes you have to "lie" to a child. 7yo isnt mature or responsible enough to handle something as complex as "the man puts his penis into the vagina" etc. and all the great or tragic things that can accompany it.
 
Originally posted by: flot
I'd go with the old standby:

"Ask your mother."
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LOL, best answer yet.

I'm trying to remember how it was explained to me and for the life of me I'm having to think hard to recall it. Takes some pressure off, eh? No matter what you say it'll be mostly forgotten until they find ATOT. Well, think it was explained to me, re: Virgin Mary, as she was 'pure of mind and body (which I took to mean she bathed a lot) and was looking forward to being a mommy later, but God needed a mother for his baby Jesus and so Mary became a mother before she and Joseph could make a baby of their own' Very vaguely remember that being whispered in my ear in one of those 'ok, now shush' moments during church. This was before 7 though, more like 5. You must not let your kid watch TV unattented much if she's asking now, and that's proof miracles do still happen even in this day.
 
Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: SammySon
Maybe because SHE'S 7!!
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Your point?

So it's ok to lie to someone if they are young?

And we wonder why we have a break down of family values and morals at the core.
rolleye.gif

Please, dont reproduce.
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Uh... You think not telling your 7 year old child what a virgin is is going to cause a breakdown of family values and morals?

WTF?

You obviously have very limited experience with children. Please don't reproduce until you get a clue.

We are talking about a 7 year old here. Where do you draw the line? What if they were 4?

I mean, I agree with your sentiment to a point.. but laying it all out for them with their first question isn't exactly what you want to do. Even if you told them, they wouldn't really understand. It would raise more questions than it would answer, and virginity and sex isn't something a 7 year old needs to be thinking about.

You tell them something to appease their minds. It has nothing to do with being deceitful. It isn't very hard to understand.
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:beer:

 
Originally posted by: SammySon
Maybe because SHE'S 7!!
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Your point?

So it's ok to lie to someone if they are young?

And we wonder why we have a break down of family values and morals at the core.
rolleye.gif

Please, dont reproduce.
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You have no idea how the mind of a child works do you?
I wish I could be ignorant like you, but unfortunately I cant, seeing as I have 3 kids. Someday you'll wake up and real life will be staring you in the face too. Until that time, enjoy.

 
Originally posted by: shimsham
i think replies should be prefaced with who has children and who doesnt.

i have a 7yo girl and 5yo boy. both are clueless to sex, other than male/female.

thats a tough question. i think the correct answer would be someone who doesnt have a baby yet. if she asks where babies come from, just tell her some things are meant for children, some for adults, and making babies is for adults. its worked in my home so far, and both of my children are gifted.

sometimes you have to "lie" to a child. 7yo isnt mature or responsible enough to handle something as complex as "the man puts his penis into the vagina" etc. and all the great or tragic things that can accompany it.
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Lying teaches children how to lie. If you want to answer her but don't want to say "the man puts..." well just say:

Look, its a girl who has never been alone with a boy.

If she persists and asks why, just say:
cuz, when a boy gets a girl alone, he tries to stuff her pee hole with his peter. Hurts like crazy and makes her bleed, but boys are mean that way.

After that explanation, she'd know the truth, but be too scared to try it till she's ready. 😉
 
Originally posted by: cheapbidder01
Originally posted by: shimsham
i think replies should be prefaced with who has children and who doesnt.

i have a 7yo girl and 5yo boy. both are clueless to sex, other than male/female.

thats a tough question. i think the correct answer would be someone who doesnt have a baby yet. if she asks where babies come from, just tell her some things are meant for children, some for adults, and making babies is for adults. its worked in my home so far, and both of my children are gifted.

sometimes you have to "lie" to a child. 7yo isnt mature or responsible enough to handle something as complex as "the man puts his penis into the vagina" etc. and all the great or tragic things that can accompany it.
Click to expand...

Lying teaches children how to lie. If you want to answer her but don't want to say "the man puts..." well just say:

Look, its a girl who has never been alone with a boy.

If she persists and asks why, just say:
cuz, when a boy gets a girl alone, he tries to stuff her pee hole with his peter. Hurts like crazy and makes her bleed, but boys are mean that way.

After that explanation, she'd know the truth, but be too scared to try it till she's ready. 😉
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Riiiiiiight.......
 
i dont know..

at 6, i figured writing grandma and grandpa on a card as the address was sufficient to get it to it's destination (2000 miles away)

i simply had no concept that other peoples had families too.

i know, it sounds really stupid...


anyway, just say a virgin is someone who hasnt called for the stork yet.


and cheapbidder, my name's peter. if people told their children that word for word, that would have made for some wierd happenings in grade school.. 😕
 
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