How the hell do you tell a 7 y/o what a virgin is??

[Walleye]

Originally posted by: MAME
Dude, so what if she asks about sex? What's going to happen? She's going to die or something?

7 yo girls are aggressive. she'll probably rape the first boy she sees.


if you're really unlucky, it'll be her brother, and then you're broke for psychological counseling for the rest of your life.

 

[Xionide]

OMG, seriously do you think its going to warp their mind knowing what sex is? I am sure in other cultures kids know what it is as soon as they are able to ask. But america has really demonized the whole damn thing. Its a natural thing why cant you just tell them. Just cause your kid knows what sex is doesnt mean they are going to go do it tomarrow. If she is going to public school she will soon know and it wont be pretty. When I was little (around 8) I asked my mom what sex was and she wouldnt tell me. So I asked a friend and his description was anal sex. I then told my mom and she freaked the f out. I guess my point is do you want to talk to your daughter about it in an way that you would find appropriate or do you want some little dumbass who doesnt know shlt what sex is.

-Xionide

 

[Walleye]

Originally posted by: Xionide
OMG, seriously do you think its going to warp their mind knowing what sex is? I am sure in other cultures kids know what it is as soon as they are able to ask. But america has really demonized the whole damn thing. Its a natural thing why cant you just tell them. Just cause your kid knows what sex is doesnt mean they are going to go do it tomarrow. If she is going to public school she will soon know and it wont be pretty. When I was little (around 8) I asked my mom what sex was and she wouldnt tell me. So I asked a friend and his description was anal sex. I then told my mom and she freaked the f out. I guess my point is do you want to talk to your daughter about it in an way that you would find appropriate or do you want some little dumbass who doesnt know shlt what sex is.

-Xionide

you have a screwed up friend...


oh well, my parents told me that babies came out the woman's ass.


some parents are wierd.. 😕

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Shockwave

Originally posted by: MAME
someone who has not yet had sex. Pretty simple

Until you get hit with the following questions.....

No kids here, but I actually like this answer. Be honest, but on a kid level; explain in true terms that they can understand.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01

Originally posted by: shimsham
i think replies should be prefaced with who has children and who doesnt.

i have a 7yo girl and 5yo boy. both are clueless to sex, other than male/female.

thats a tough question. i think the correct answer would be someone who doesnt have a baby yet. if she asks where babies come from, just tell her some things are meant for children, some for adults, and making babies is for adults. its worked in my home so far, and both of my children are gifted.

sometimes you have to "lie" to a child. 7yo isnt mature or responsible enough to handle something as complex as "the man puts his penis into the vagina" etc. and all the great or tragic things that can accompany it.

Lying teaches children how to lie. If you want to answer her but don't want to say "the man puts..." well just say:

Look, its a girl who has never been alone with a boy.

If she persists and asks why, just say:
cuz, when a boy gets a girl alone, he tries to stuff her pee hole with his peter. Hurts like crazy and makes her bleed, but boys are mean that way.

After that explanation, she'd know the truth, but be too scared to try it till she's ready. 😉

while i agree about lying teaching lying, they wont know youre lying if they dont already know what sex is. i dont lie to my children anyway, so far the "youre a child and do not need to worry about adult things" has worked like a charm.

maybe ill save your explantion for when my children turn 21 and use it then.😛

 

[Yeeny]

Ahh, I love the non parents with all the opinions on this board, its refreshing. 😀

My son was 7, and he asked me where babies come from. And I told him, do you really want to know? He said, well, is it gross mom? to which I replied you might think so.

He decided to wait, and asked me again when he was 9. 😛

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: Xionide
OMG, seriously do you think its going to warp their mind knowing what sex is? I am sure in other cultures kids know what it is as soon as they are able to ask. But america has really demonized the whole damn thing. Its a natural thing why cant you just tell them. Just cause your kid knows what sex is doesnt mean they are going to go do it tomarrow. If she is going to public school she will soon know and it wont be pretty. When I was little (around 8) I asked my mom what sex was and she wouldnt tell me. So I asked a friend and his description was anal sex. I then told my mom and she freaked the f out. I guess my point is do you want to talk to your daughter about it in an way that you would find appropriate or do you want some little dumbass who doesnt know shlt what sex is.

-Xionide

sex warp their mind, no. but are they responsible and mature enough to handle it @7? hell no. could decisions made from this new information cause them to make poor and dangerous decisions? possibly. opening the flood gates at too young an age only gets you on springer, maury, etc.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: Yeeny
Ahh, I love the non parents with all the opinions on this board, its refreshing. 😀

My son was 7, and he asked me where babies come from. And I told him, do you really want to know? He said, well, is it gross mom? to which I replied you might think so.

He decided to wait, and asked me again when he was 9. 😛

great way to handle it. im sure it would go like that most of the time if people werent so quick to be all open and honest when you dont have to be.

 

[CubicZirconia]

Originally posted by: SammySon

Maybe because SHE'S 7!!

Your point?

So it's ok to lie to someone if they are young?

And we wonder why we have a break down of family values and morals at the core.

Please, dont reproduce.

Oh and I suppose Santa Claus is poisoning the minds of our youth too? Honestly.....

Edit: And while we're at it, we had better put the axe to the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny as well. They might lead to an irrovocable breakdown of family values.

 

[dighn]

when i was younger i just thought of virgins as people that were "pure"...

 

[Linux23]

why can't we leave kids alone and let them find out about sex on their own? in my day, my parents taught me nothing of sex as i couldn't or wouldn't ask them. i found out on my own and i am a better man for it.

kids should not know anything of this sex business until they discover it own their own.


my two cents. 😛

 

[alkemyst]

despite my possible demonic persona (sp?) even though I do not have kids, I have spoke with many about problems they have....my insane demeanor leaves me approachable to the insane masses.

I would never lie to a child nor make them think sex is wrong or doesn't happen. The first time your child finds out other kids do something that you said doesn't happen (drugs, sex, steal, whatever) you will loose absolutely all credibility. They will still love you, but no longer believe you.

So you take 'baby steps' with them. Give them a real but extremely basic answer (assuming they are still babes)....then elaborate if they get inquisitive, but keep it within your boundaries. Your are their parent so responsibile for the way they turn out, however, I never think lying is fruitful. Some lies get played out and gets the kid in trouble...one girl I counseled got pregnant because her mother told her as long as people were always around her she could never get pregnant. Some of the stories are unbelievable to many, but they happen, your kid's reality is a product of your invention mainly.

Most of my 'sessions' happened due to girl's getting pregnant in ways their parents told them they couldn't, or questioning things their parents told them 'never happens'.

Å

 

[Hammer]

tell her its ameesh

 

[WinkOsmosis]

Originally posted by: Shockwave

Originally posted by: SammySon
Why don't you be straight up with her, instead of filling her mind with fluff?
This is the problem with this country, were afraid to tell our children the truth. Then they turn out to be sheltered or ignorant.

Say, A virgin is someone who has not had sex.
If she asks what sex is.. TELL HER!

Maybe because SHE'S 7!!

Yeah? Well her existence from 0 years old has been the result of sex, as has all of ours. Sex is the most important thing in our lives, but people are afraid to tell their kids what it is because of primitive puritanical taboos.

 

[FeathersMcGraw]

Someone who posts on that website that Daddy is always reading.

 

[Ness]

Originally posted by: sweettart
This reminds me of me. When I was around that age, I was at the movie theater with my grandma and it mentioned virgins. So in the middle of the movie, "Grandma, what's a virgin?" First my grandma was embarrassed and then she said, "It is a girl who behaves." Innocence is bliss. Let your 7 year old stay innocent for as long as you like.

But you have to be careful. Some kids learn the meanings of words and like to use them.

Would it be funny for him to get a letter from the teacher saying his daughter kept asking the teacher if she was a virgin?

 

[thenerdguy]

Some one who has never triend to make a baby. 🙂 Like a greater part of this forum's members.

 

[Mill]

Someone who has NOT been to the Neverland Ranch?