how the heck do women think...

GtPrOjEcTX

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awesome quotes from the girl. I've yet to meet one that speaks as I do. Lucky you, even though she is psycho.
 

rgwalt

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Yep, she is nuts, as are so many women her age (I'm guessing you guys are in college). She isn't sure what she wants out of a relationship with you. Heck, she isn't sure what she wants period. She is fresh out of a relationship and wants both attention, freedom, and a shoulder to cry on. My advice is to not lay down for this sort of behavior. Quit responding to her if she acts flirty. In fact, make yourself very distant. If she asks you whats up, tell her flat out that if she isn't interested in anything beyond a friendship that she needs to quit flirting with you or you aren't going to hang out with her anymore. It isn't fair that she is playing with your emotions like she is. Don't put up with it.

Ryan

 

Isla

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Originally posted by: hans007
sorry i am just frustrated.

i go to vegas with girl.

girl is all over me for 2 weeks.

girl breaks up with her boyfriend (notice how this comes second).

all hell breaks loose and her life falls apart (and i quote, she says "its like my cpu is overheating and i need to turn it off but i cant")

a week later girl says she's uncomfortable with me and we should be FRIENDS (the word that brings death).

i ask her why it took 3 weeks for her to realize this and she says i dunno (her response, again i quote "its like a voltage threshold and it finally was high enough to register a 1")

hans drinks 15 shots of alcohol and passes out with other friends.

days pass...

me and girl decide to go clubbing first time for both of us.

she says she's cant dance and only rarely does with guys she's very comfortable with.

we go clubbing.

girl is all over me and dancing like a freak looking very comfortable.

the next day girl avoids me and wont talk.

wtf. arraghghgghghghg

if i ever understand women, i will know everything because understanding women is the most complicated problem ever.


This is a story about an immature GIRL, not a woman.

Just thought I'd let you know, there IS a difference... :p


 

DumbGuy

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I'm talking to a girl who says things like: "I pwned that test". Hope fully everything works out with her :confused:
 

Siddhartha

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She is nuts. If you are lucky to not be emotionally attached, run, do not walk, to the nearest exit. And thank Buddha that you got off as cheaply as you have.

If you are emotionally attached.... too bad. I hope you recover quickly enough that you have your sanity and dignity intact.
 

Siddhartha

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Originally posted by: DumbGuy
I'm talking to a girl who says things like: "I pwned that test". Hope fully everything works out with her :confused:

How do you pronounce "pwned"?
 

DumbGuy

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Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Originally posted by: DumbGuy
I'm talking to a girl who says things like: "I pwned that test". Hope fully everything works out with her :confused:

How do you pronounce "pwned"?

Well.. I say it like poun-ned, so does she... who cares, it's fun :)
 

GtPrOjEcTX

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Originally posted by: DumbGuy
Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Originally posted by: DumbGuy
I'm talking to a girl who says things like: "I pwned that test". Hope fully everything works out with her :confused:

How do you pronounce "pwned"?

Well.. I say it like poun-ned, so does she... who cares, it's fun :)
poun-ned? Huh. I pronouce p-owned. (1 syllable)
 

Moonbeam

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With the exception of Isla, the advise you are getting is as lame as you describe the girl to be. Do not listen to people who advise you to try to be emotionally distant, unattached and so on. Such people fear being hurt by love and can therefore never love. Anybody who tries to manipulate other people by coolness and detachment is nothing but a con artist, not a lover.

The only way to understand other people is to understand yourself. Similarly the only way to love others is to love yourself. We are all the same. You can't just figure out how nuts the other person is, you have to see that you are nuts too in your own way. All you can change in a relationship is yourself. Only by being solid within yourself can you make judgments about whether your relationship is worth something or not. Are you going to bring anger into it because you have neurotic needs you feel are not being met, are you being used to fill neurotic needs, do you care, do you want to get, do you want to give, all these questions are questions we have to think about and grow with in a relationship. You have to find out these things by living, by interacting, by exposing yourself to life. You have to be your own judge. Nobody can give you a prescription. The love we are looking for is the love we long to give. Find a way to give.

Now as a side note, one thing I notice about people is the problem of inhibition. Sometimes it happens that as one grows up, and usually before hardening or fossilizing into some rigid personality structure, people oscillate between extremes of behavior. A person from a repressive environment gets a bit of freedom and goes wild. WEEEEEEEE life's a ball, but the internalized censor, the committee of screaming voices we carry on our shoulder that follows us everywhere and unmercifully judges everything we do comes back to haunt us. We see this in often in the drunk. Wild when drunk but otherwise viciously controlled. Your friend reminds me of this with the dancing. I can't dance and bingo, a gogo girl pops up.

Good luck, don't become cunning. Be open and alive. Nobody hurts as much as those who fear pain. Their fear is nothing but pain.
 

Luagsch

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this girl doesn't know what she wants. she is as insecure as she can be and is afraid of commitment. don't waste your time with her. tell her that when she knows what she wants to send you a mail and till then forget about her. as you will put her under pressure, she will presumably want to kill you or she realizes, that she really wants you. either way her grades are going way down;)
 

StageLeft

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Women are different from men but just because that girl is totally clueless and fickle doesn't mean all others are. How she is treating you is how a clueless and fickle person treats somebody - not necessarily how a woman treats a man.
 

Azraele

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I think you started off on the wrong foot. You took her while she still had a boyfriend. Bad move.

I can't tell you exactly what she's thinking, but I'm pretty sure it's complicated and that she's not sure what she wants.

 

heartsurgeon

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my cpu is overheating
thats a great line!
she's nuts..but god bless them, they all are to one degree or another.
testosterone makes men horny and aggressive
estrogen makes women horny and crazy

that's the difference.

i guess, you need to go with the flow if you want to keep seeing this woman,
but i would not expect things to change (settle down)...
going to Vegas with you before she "breaks up" with her previous/current boyfriend is not a
good indicator of someone who will be exclusive to you..
she craves attention by men and is probably afraid to be "alone" when she is cool to you she may be seeing the ex
when she has another fight with the ex, then she's all over you..
it is what it is....accept it or move on.
 

Kevin

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This seems relevant here too: Sometimes I wish I was a psycho, life seems easier that way...

;)
 

SilverThief

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Originally posted by: Isla
Originally posted by: hans007
sorry i am just frustrated.

i go to vegas with girl.

girl is all over me for 2 weeks.

girl breaks up with her boyfriend (notice how this comes second).

all hell breaks loose and her life falls apart (and i quote, she says "its like my cpu is overheating and i need to turn it off but i cant")

a week later girl says she's uncomfortable with me and we should be FRIENDS (the word that brings death).

i ask her why it took 3 weeks for her to realize this and she says i dunno (her response, again i quote "its like a voltage threshold and it finally was high enough to register a 1")

hans drinks 15 shots of alcohol and passes out with other friends.

days pass...

me and girl decide to go clubbing first time for both of us.

she says she's cant dance and only rarely does with guys she's very comfortable with.

we go clubbing.

girl is all over me and dancing like a freak looking very comfortable.

the next day girl avoids me and wont talk.

wtf. arraghghgghghghg

if i ever understand women, i will know everything because understanding women is the most complicated problem ever.


This is a story about an immature GIRL, not a woman.

Just thought I'd let you know, there IS a difference... :p


Excellent advice, and very very true. Dont even waste your time, money, energy on her.

 

SnapIT

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Originally posted by: hans007
sorry i am just frustrated.

i go to vegas with girl.

girl is all over me for 2 weeks.

girl breaks up with her boyfriend (notice how this comes second).

all hell breaks loose and her life falls apart (and i quote, she says "its like my cpu is overheating and i need to turn it off but i cant")

a week later girl says she's uncomfortable with me and we should be FRIENDS (the word that brings death).

i ask her why it took 3 weeks for her to realize this and she says i dunno (her response, again i quote "its like a voltage threshold and it finally was high enough to register a 1")

hans drinks 15 shots of alcohol and passes out with other friends.

days pass...

me and girl decide to go clubbing first time for both of us.

she says she's cant dance and only rarely does with guys she's very comfortable with.

we go clubbing.

girl is all over me and dancing like a freak looking very comfortable.

the next day girl avoids me and wont talk.

wtf. arraghghgghghghg

if i ever understand women, i will know everything because understanding women is the most complicated problem ever.

She's toying with you for one reason... because she can...

There are two simple questions you need to ask yourself... What do you want from her? and Can you get that? If not, move on...
 

Brutuskend

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Need I say more?
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Spooner

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Moonbeam, you never fail to be entirely too deep and "philosophical" for no reason.

"Love yourself before you can love others" ? ????!?!

Settle down, man.
 

Looney

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This isn't complicated... she's just broken up with her boyfriend... so she's been confused and depressed. Are you sure she broke up with the boyfriend or boyfriend broke up with her? Anyways, she goes out to have fun with you, and has too much fun. And now either she's feeling guilty again, or she only likes you when she's drunk.
 

Kadarin

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I agree with Isla and heartsurgeon. This girl (not woman, mind you) is no prize, in spite of the colorful language.
 

vi edit

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Here's how women think -

Imagine their minds as two "hats". One "hat" has a bunch of little slips of paper with various ideas, thoughts, and intentions wrote on them. The other "hat" has little slips of paper with a ton of different emotions wrote on them.

The woman's mind just draws one slip of paper out of each hat for any given interaction.

Now do you undestand why it's so hard to figure out women?