How often do you keep in touch (with poll)

[SirChadwick]

I'm 25 yrs old, an only child and currently living on my own and working fulltime. I probably talk to my Mother once a week if that... and my Father once a month since we've never been close. Sometimes I get to thinking about it all and it depresses me. I wish I had a larger closer family that occupied more of my life. Are any of you experiencing this? It makes me want to get rabbit happy with my fiancee so that we have lots of kids who won't have to go through this.

 

[Lola]

i know how you feel...
I speak with my mom at least once a day on average.
With my dad, at least 3 times per week.
We have a rather large family (not immediate) so that is annoying, but there is just my little brother and I really and he is living in UT now.

 

[SirChadwick]

Also, I'm not really one to make phone calls... although I will email from time to time. My Mom is now remarried and only calls me once a week. Maybe I need to make more of an effort, but I just can't get myself to do it. Even with friends and other family members I rarely like to call. Guess its just a personality trait of mine.

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
i know how you feel...
I speak with my mom at least once a day on average.
With my dad, at least 3 times per week.
We have a rather large family (not immediate) so that is annoying, but there is just my little brother and I really and he is living in UT now.

I think most women tend to talk with their parents more than guys do. Unless I am completely depending on them financially, I don't feel the need to talk to them as often. I'm sure it seems selfish, but I'm just being honest. I am closer to my Mom than anyone else and it just saddens me that we seem to talk less and less as time goes on.

 

[Kadarin]

Once a week... We have a tradition of getting together on Sunday nights to have dinner and watch movies.

 

[bigredguy]

A little less than once a month. My dad and i never really talk on the phone that much and my mother is hard to talk to. Repeats her same boring stories way too much. They're so painful to hear the first time, much less the sixth...

 

[SirChadwick]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Once a week... We have a tradition of getting together on Sunday nights to have dinner and watch movies.

That would be nice. I enjoy dinner, movies, and just get togethers. But now I'm living 3 1/2 hours away from my Mother and step-fam and I visit them once a month or less.

 

[Ausm]

My mother got killed by a drunk driver 36 years ago and I see my father everyday because of the family business. We never do anything together out of work.


Ausm

 

[RKS]

I'm married with two young kids. My parents live 15 minutes in one direction and the in-law are 15 minutes in the other. I talk to or visit my parents everyday and the in-laws a couple times a week.

I have a large extended family and my wife doesn't. When we go to my parents for an informal mid-week get together there may be about 20 people over. It freaked my wife out the first couple times but now she realizes how much $$$$$ we save on daycare and babysitting. Relatives almost have to reserve time with our boys.

 

[Queasy]

At least once a week. I always talk with my mom on Sunday/Monday depending on our schedules. My dad I talk with every now and then. He's been working crazy hours the last couple of years (10 hour days 6-7 days a week) so I feel like I'm bugging him if I call alot.

 

[tfinch2]

I try to talk to my parents atleast everyday or every other day.

 

[JulesMaximus]

I talk to my Mom once or twice a week even though she lives clear across the country.

My Dad I talk to maybe once a year.

 

[Supermercado]

At least every couple weeks on the phone, sometimes more. There were 4 or 5 days last week where I talked to them every day. I email back and forth to both of them every other day or so, most times. I see them every 2 or 3 months. I usually go there since it's easier for me to travel than them but they've come down here a couple times in the last year or so.

 

[waggy]

i talk to my mother ever few months. she is kinda a flake so not easy to get ahold of her.

i talk to my father at least once a week. but then again he lives 20 minutes away.

 

[lokiju]

Both of my parents are alive and still married.

I talk with my Mom at least once a week but usually more.

I don't talk much to my Dad though since he's not a big phone person, but we get along fine in person.

 

[Captante]

I've always been close to my mom & we talk every few days... I only talk to my Dad every few weeks, but we do exchange e-mails more often then that.

 

[cjmtfd102401]

Not very often. I tried to call my dad on his birthday (Aug 3) and the number had been disconnected before that was July 12th on my moms b-day. She hasn't let me know their new number.

 

[gooseman]

I talk to my Mother 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes more. My wife and I take her out to eat every Saturday night because my Dad is out of town almost every weekend looking after his Dad who is 93 years old.
I talk to my Dad (my stepdad actually, real dad was killed in '66) probably a few times a month.

 

[Deleted member 4644]

I'm 24 and I talk to my mom just about every day and my grampa at least 2-3 times a week. I only talk to my bro about once a week (he is 15). My dad is gone.

I live in the same city and I probably see my family on average once every 10 days or so.

Frankly, there is a part of me that really likes it and can't imagine living without this contact, but there is also a part of me that feels it is too much sometimes.

 

[AdamSnow]

23, Married not living at home...

I call home once per night, just to check up on mom and dad... see if they need anything from the city, Make sure their computers are working and see how things are at home...

Close family though... so... I don't think anything of it, and wouldn't have it any other way...

 

[SlitheryDee]

I talk to my mother every day on the phone.

My father has passed. For the record the last time I saw him was on the 4th of July this year.

My family is very close. I have no reason to desire anything more.

 

[mugs]

My mom - a couple of times a week if her school needs work done on their website, a couple of times a month otherwise.

My dad - once a month or less. Only when I stop by their house. My dad and I have never been close.

 

[conehead433]

My parents live next door.

 

[woodie1]

Both are gone. Most of my life I wasn't all that good at staying in touch but they did know where I was and so forth.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: SirChadwick

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Once a week... We have a tradition of getting together on Sunday nights to have dinner and watch movies.

That would be nice. I enjoy dinner, movies, and just get togethers. But now I'm living 3 1/2 hours away from my Mother and step-fam and I visit them once a month or less.

Take my advice for what it is....some guy on the intarweb.....

Building or re-building relationships no matter what they are takes effort (paternal, marital, familiar, professional, doesn't matter.)

The best analogy I can offer is relationships are like a garden. If you don't feed and care for them you will not get the results you desire. Put in the love and care, and you receive love and care in return.

The only difference with familial love is that it is pretty much unconditional in most cases. Unlike my garden analogy if a garden dies it takes a lot of effort to regrow, requiring much care. But with familial love it only takes a quick watering or feeding to have it blossom in a short amout of time.

Pick up the phone and call your family. If you want a closer relationship then do something about it. Just pick up the phone and say "hey, was thinking about you and just wanted to see what is going on in your world." Use this tool for all relationships that may have drifted, ALL RELATIONSHIPS - ex'es don't count. If you truly want a better relationship, then you will do something to improve it - we're talking a 10 minute conversation here, so "I don't have the time" is not a valid excuse.

-edit-
I'm biased. time to re-connect and bond with your family is limited. they don't live forever.