How Much to Give for a Wedding?

[nageov3t]

two of my college friends are getting married in a couple months. I just got the invite today. Because they're moving to the left coast right after the wedding, they requested gift certificates and cash instead of actual gifts.

What would you say is an appropriate amount to give? This is my first wedding since my aunt got married (when I was 12 ), so I'm not quite sure what kind of standards there are on this sorta stuff.

 

[blackdogdeek]

if just you, i would give $100

 

[Mr N8]

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
if just you, i would give $100

That's right. I usually give $100 - $200, depending on how close we are.

 

[Mayfriday0529]

100 is pretty good, hopefully covering the price for your plate at the party. if you bring a guest give more if you can.

 

[Modeps]

$100 if you're not in the wedding party, $200 if you are.

 

[dullard]

It depends HIGHLY on your location and set of friends. In many places, even your closest relatives won't give more than $50 and a typical gift is $20. In other locations anything under $100 is considered an insult.

Thus we cannot answer your question.

 

[Uppsala9496]

Minimum of $50 ($100 if you bring a guest). That should cover the food cost. Bump it to $75 a person if you are close.

 

[SpunkyJones]

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
if just you, i would give $100

 

[dquan97]

If they're ok friends, give $50 minimum per person attending.

 

[JetsFanatic]

Originally posted by: MogulMonster

Originally posted by: blackdogdeek
if just you, i would give $100

That's right. I usually give $100 - $200, depending on how close we are.

Ditto

More for Famliy

 

[richardycc]

when I got married back in june, I got anywhere from $0 to $1300 per party. good luck!

 

[imported_Strang]

I find it interesting to see so many people saying $100 + guests. I've always heard $50 if they're close friends/family (and have found that fairly consistent with what other people give), otherwise $25 or thereabouts.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: Strang
I find it interesting to see so many people saying $100 + guests. I've always heard $50 if they're close friends/family (and have found that fairly consistent with what other people give), otherwise $25 or thereabouts.

That is why I said it depends strongly on where you live.

 

[RagingBITCH]

I was going to ask this question for my friends wedding soon. Thanks!

 

[Mr N8]

Originally posted by: dullard
It depends HIGHLY on your location and set of friends. In many places, even your closest relatives won't give more than $50 and a typical gift is $20. In other locations anything under $100 is considered an insult.

Thus we cannot answer your question.

Yeah, I always give at least $100, although judging by my wedding $25 for a friend of the family it typical, and around $50-$100 from closer friends and family.

 

[imported_Strang]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: Strang
I find it interesting to see so many people saying $100 + guests. I've always heard $50 if they're close friends/family (and have found that fairly consistent with what other people give), otherwise $25 or thereabouts.

That is why I said it depends strongly on where you live.

I wonder what factors contribute to it, though. I live in Seattle and the weddings I've attended have typically been for people in their late 20s to mid 30s with household incomes of 60-100k/yr, so it wouldn't seem to be just an economic thing.

 

[Passions]

I gave my bro $1,000.

Close friends deserve a few hundred bucks.

Acquaintances maybe a hundred.


Weddings cost a grip!!!!!

 

[TheAudit]

$100 to $200 depending on how close you are, how much per plate.

 

[alexeikgb]

Originally posted by: TheAudit
$100 to $200 depending on how close you are, how much per plate.

yup...

 

[MikePanic]

1-200 sounds about right

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: TheAudit
$100 to $200 depending on how close you are, how much per plate.

When catered meals are $5 per plate what do you give?

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My wedding for roast beef, broasted chicken, and all the fixings including lots of appetizers and cost of renting the hall.

 

[vood0g]

$50/person is the bare minimum i think. That is if you barely know the guy and he invited you. If you know the guy, then the amount depends on how close you are.

 

[whoiswes]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: TheAudit
$100 to $200 depending on how close you are, how much per plate.

When catered meals are $5 per plate what do you give?

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My wedding for roast beef, broasted chicken, and all the fixings including lots of appetizers and cost of renting the hall.

<threadjack>
damn, where did you guys get married???

my fiancee and i have been looking for a month now (we still have over a year before the big day) and the cheapest we've found is running about $12 a head!

PM me if you read this, please.
</threadjack>

Wow, I never knew that I've been underpaying my friends and family all this time...we normally give about $25 to our relatives, but we ARE just getting started out and all that.

I feel like such an asshat now.

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: whoiswes

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: TheAudit
$100 to $200 depending on how close you are, how much per plate.

When catered meals are $5 per plate what do you give?

^
|
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My wedding for roast beef, broasted chicken, and all the fixings including lots of appetizers and cost of renting the hall.

<threadjack>
damn, where did you guys get married???

my fiancee and i have been looking for a month now (we still have over a year before the big day) and the cheapest we've found is running about $12 a head!

PM me if you read this, please.
</threadjack>

Wow, I never knew that I've been underpaying my friends and family all this time...we normally give about $25 to our relatives, but we ARE just getting started out and all that.

I feel like such an asshat now.

OMG! 12$?!?! ARE YOU KIDDING?!
Our per head is around 67$!

 

[vood0g]

Originally posted by: Lola

Originally posted by: whoiswes

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: TheAudit
$100 to $200 depending on how close you are, how much per plate.

When catered meals are $5 per plate what do you give?

^
|
|
My wedding for roast beef, broasted chicken, and all the fixings including lots of appetizers and cost of renting the hall.

<threadjack>
damn, where did you guys get married???

my fiancee and i have been looking for a month now (we still have over a year before the big day) and the cheapest we've found is running about $12 a head!

PM me if you read this, please.
</threadjack>

Wow, I never knew that I've been underpaying my friends and family all this time...we normally give about $25 to our relatives, but we ARE just getting started out and all that.

I feel like such an asshat now.

OMG! 12$?!?! ARE YOU KIDDING?!
Our per head is around 67$!

mine is about $160-170, but that's including table rentals, chairs, utensils etc.