How much fighting in a relationship is "normal" (if you can call it that...)?

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Jugernot

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I broke up with my girlfriend (of 2 years) yesterday and now I'm wondering if I made a mistake.

Our relationship has been rocky for the last year and I've broken it off a few times before... only to come back wimpering at her feet. Most of the problems we have are related to me, as this was my first "real" relationship with another person. I had a couple of girlfriends through middle/high school, but they were over in a blink of an eye (under a couple of weeks) and I just wasn't prepared for a full on relationship. Mostly childish stuff, pouting, etc. One of our main problems... was... don't laught now... my sex drive is very low. She calls me a camel because I can easily go a month without "doing it"... It's just not something that is "VERY" important to me. Yes, I'm weird... :p

The other problem that I think is getting in the way is she is 33 and I'm 21. THere are quite a few differences right there, though nothing drastic.

I would guess that one of us storms off from the other at least once a week, mostly me. Yes I'm imature.... :(

Anyway, how much fighting in a relationship is normal?
 
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Eli

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Originally posted by: Jugernot
I broke up with my girlfriend (of 2 years) yesterday and now I'm wondering if I made a mistake.

Our relationship has been rocky for the last year and I've broken it off a few times before... only to come back wimpering at her feet. Most of the problems we have are related to me, as this was my first "real" relationship with another person. I had a couple of girlfriends through middle/high school, but they were over in a blink of an eye (under a couple of weeks) and I just wasn't prepared for a full on relationship. Mostly childish stuff, pouting, etc. One of our main problems... was... don't laught now... my sex drive is very low. She calls me a camel because I can easily go a month without "doing it"... It's just not something that is "VERY" important to me. Yes, I'm weird... :p

The other problem that I think is getting in the way is she is 33 and I'm 21. THere are quite a few differences right there, though nothing drastic.

I would guess that one of us storms off from the other at least once a week, mostly me. Yes I'm imature.... :(

Anyway, how much fighting in a relationship is normal?
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Nothing drastic? There is a world of difference between 21 and 33.
 
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her209

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Originally posted by: Jugernot
I'll be first to say, you are a freak.
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Thanks I needed that.... :(
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Sex is important to women. Sorry to tell you bud, but when you don't want to have it with the women you're with, that says something about your attraction to her.
 
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Jugernot

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Well, I've been a depressed person for most of my life and no doubt that has something to do with my low sex drive. I've been treated for it several times, but living in the eternal dark of the frozen north doesn't help matters...

Maybe I should just give the relationship a break and see if depression is my problem... other than difference in age.
 
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isekii

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dude maybe something is wrong with your hormones ??

i'm 21 and i wanna do it like 5-6 times a day~
 
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Isla

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Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: Jugernot
I broke up with my girlfriend (of 2 years) yesterday and now I'm wondering if I made a mistake.

Our relationship has been rocky for the last year and I've broken it off a few times before... only to come back wimpering at her feet. Most of the problems we have are related to me, as this was my first "real" relationship with another person. I had a couple of girlfriends through middle/high school, but they were over in a blink of an eye (under a couple of weeks) and I just wasn't prepared for a full on relationship. Mostly childish stuff, pouting, etc. One of our main problems... was... don't laught now... my sex drive is very low. She calls me a camel because I can easily go a month without "doing it"... It's just not something that is "VERY" important to me. Yes, I'm weird... :p

The other problem that I think is getting in the way is she is 33 and I'm 21. THere are quite a few differences right there, though nothing drastic.

I would guess that one of us storms off from the other at least once a week, mostly me. Yes I'm imature.... :(

Anyway, how much fighting in a relationship is normal?
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Nothing drastic? There is a world of difference between 21 and 33.
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I second that. Who I was when I was 21 and who I am now are very different people. And, nothing against young uns, but I can't imagine for the life of me hanging out with a 21 year old.

The balance of power can't be right... sex is about power sometimes... who gives and who takes... then there is always money...

My advice? Run far, run fast, to a counselor who can help you get to know yourself and what YOU really want in life!
 
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SuperSix

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How much fighting? Like you described? None..

Also, keep in mind she's nearing her sexual peak..

You may want to move on, and move somewhere sunny. :p
 
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Jugernot

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Originally posted by: Isla
Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: Jugernot
I broke up with my girlfriend (of 2 years) yesterday and now I'm wondering if I made a mistake.

Our relationship has been rocky for the last year and I've broken it off a few times before... only to come back wimpering at her feet. Most of the problems we have are related to me, as this was my first "real" relationship with another person. I had a couple of girlfriends through middle/high school, but they were over in a blink of an eye (under a couple of weeks) and I just wasn't prepared for a full on relationship. Mostly childish stuff, pouting, etc. One of our main problems... was... don't laught now... my sex drive is very low. She calls me a camel because I can easily go a month without "doing it"... It's just not something that is "VERY" important to me. Yes, I'm weird... :p

The other problem that I think is getting in the way is she is 33 and I'm 21. THere are quite a few differences right there, though nothing drastic.

I would guess that one of us storms off from the other at least once a week, mostly me. Yes I'm imature.... :(

Anyway, how much fighting in a relationship is normal?
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:Q

Nothing drastic? There is a world of difference between 21 and 33.
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I second that. Who I was when I was 21 and who I am now are very different people. And, nothing against young uns, but I can't imagine for the life of me hanging out with a 21 year old.

The balance of power can't be right... sex is about power sometimes... who gives and who takes... then there is always money...

My advice? Run far, run fast, to a counselor who can help you get to know yourself and what YOU really want in life!
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Beleive me, I'm not your typical 21 year old... matter of fact, I can't stand being with people my own age. They act like idiots, getting drunk and f$%king up their lives. They waste their parents money by partying there way through college and graduate with a Bachelors degree in disrespect. That is definitely not who I am...
 
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her209

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Originally posted by: Jugernot
Originally posted by: Isla
Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: Jugernot
I broke up with my girlfriend (of 2 years) yesterday and now I'm wondering if I made a mistake.

Our relationship has been rocky for the last year and I've broken it off a few times before... only to come back wimpering at her feet. Most of the problems we have are related to me, as this was my first "real" relationship with another person. I had a couple of girlfriends through middle/high school, but they were over in a blink of an eye (under a couple of weeks) and I just wasn't prepared for a full on relationship. Mostly childish stuff, pouting, etc. One of our main problems... was... don't laught now... my sex drive is very low. She calls me a camel because I can easily go a month without "doing it"... It's just not something that is "VERY" important to me. Yes, I'm weird... :p

The other problem that I think is getting in the way is she is 33 and I'm 21. THere are quite a few differences right there, though nothing drastic.

I would guess that one of us storms off from the other at least once a week, mostly me. Yes I'm imature.... :(

Anyway, how much fighting in a relationship is normal?
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:Q

Nothing drastic? There is a world of difference between 21 and 33.
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I second that. Who I was when I was 21 and who I am now are very different people. And, nothing against young uns, but I can't imagine for the life of me hanging out with a 21 year old.

The balance of power can't be right... sex is about power sometimes... who gives and who takes... then there is always money...

My advice? Run far, run fast, to a counselor who can help you get to know yourself and what YOU really want in life!
Click to expand...

Beleive me, I'm not your typical 21 year old... matter of fact, I can't stand being with people my own age. They act like idiots, getting drunk and f$%king up their lives. They waste their parents money by partying there way through college and graduate with a Bachelors degree in disrespect. That is definitely not who I am...
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I thought you were 33 :eek:
 
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Zugzwang152

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well take it from me, i know all about fighting with the gf, it can be tough at times yeah. But if she's 33, and she wants something serious, like marriage and kids (cause 33 is hitting up on middle aged already), then having sex 1 time a month probably isnt doing it for her. She may feel like time is running out for her...
 
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Jugernot

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Originally posted by: Zugzwang152
well take it from me, i know all about fighting with the gf, it can be tough at times yeah. But if she's 33, and she wants something serious, like marriage and kids (cause 33 is hitting up on middle aged already), then having sex 1 time a month probably isnt doing it for her. She may feel like time is running out for her...
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Nope, we had no plans for marrage. She has been married 3 times and none worked out. Her tubes are tied, so that isn't an issue.
 
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SuperSix

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Originally posted by: Jugernot
Originally posted by: Zugzwang152
well take it from me, i know all about fighting with the gf, it can be tough at times yeah. But if she's 33, and she wants something serious, like marriage and kids (cause 33 is hitting up on middle aged already), then having sex 1 time a month probably isnt doing it for her. She may feel like time is running out for her...
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Nope, we had no plans for marrage. She has been married 3 times and none worked out. Her tubes are tied, so that isn't an issue.
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3 times???

HUGE red flag..
 
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Soybomb

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Originally posted by: SuperSix
Originally posted by: Jugernot
Originally posted by: Zugzwang152
well take it from me, i know all about fighting with the gf, it can be tough at times yeah. But if she's 33, and she wants something serious, like marriage and kids (cause 33 is hitting up on middle aged already), then having sex 1 time a month probably isnt doing it for her. She may feel like time is running out for her...
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Nope, we had no plans for marrage. She has been married 3 times and none worked out. Her tubes are tied, so that isn't an issue.
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3 times???

HUGE red flag..
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Yeah she's been married 3 times and now trying a 21 and 33 year old....just get over her and move on man, I don't think that can work out at all.
 
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Isla

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Originally posted by: SuperSix
Originally posted by: Jugernot
Originally posted by: Zugzwang152
well take it from me, i know all about fighting with the gf, it can be tough at times yeah. But if she's 33, and she wants something serious, like marriage and kids (cause 33 is hitting up on middle aged already), then having sex 1 time a month probably isnt doing it for her. She may feel like time is running out for her...
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Nope, we had no plans for marrage. She has been married 3 times and none worked out. Her tubes are tied, so that isn't an issue.
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3 times???

HUGE red flag..
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OY vey. And has she ever been in therapy? Sounds like she needs it pretty desperately. Me, I had my starter marriage at age 17. After divorce at age 20, went to disastrous marriage #2 at age 23. I pretty much figured out that I was just going to marry the same guy in a different body if I got back on the market again, so I decided to give it my best shot. If this doesn't work, I hear that there is a shortage of nuns...

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fastman

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My first wife we had no problem, but just grew apart. My current wife, we are each others throts all the time, we see if it lasts. As far as the booty issues 21 is way diff then 33. Better learn to speed it up a bit as it takes longer as you get older, believe me I know, wemen don't always want the two hour workout. Good luck.
 
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GoodToGo

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Unless you dont hit each other with ten bricks each day, your relationship is not normal.
 
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