How many of the adults/elder ATOT members got along with their parents?

[aplefka]

Things have never been good between my parents and in general my family and myself. I don't know what I've ever done wrong but it just seems that they've got something against me. I don't give a fvck about all you people who want to say "Oh you're spoiled" and so on, because honestly it can't be further from the truth. I know of at least two members here who could attest to my getting screwed over all the time by my parents.

I'm really considering moving out after tonight. I'm tired of getting into fights with my dad where he tries to prove how I'm the asshole when I've done nothing wrong. He ends up yelling while I'm the one still talking in a calm voice. I'm just fvcking tired of living not knowing whether or not bills are going to be paid or the house will be going into foreclosure for the 50th time.

So for those of you that moved out during high school, how did you end up? How hard were things? I'm a good student (ranked number one in my class) and I've got common sense in addition to booksmarts. Sometimes I think that part of my problem is that I'm too smart for my own good, in the sense that I worry more about adult things than what the latest fashion is or whatever. Some of my friends just don't understand how I don't have my license yet or why my parents drive new cars or why we live where we live or why we don't have x new product, and I guess that if they haven't figured it out by now they never will.

I just need to know what my chances are of succeeding in life if I move out. I wouldn't drop out of high school, and I've got two jobs lined up to start within the next month, but I mentally can't take this anymore so I'm looking for options before I get depressed again or someone has a heart attack. I apologize for this being one of those personal posts, but I tried to leave as much of the story out of it so you don't have to read through it.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

I get along with them fine for about an hour twice a year and a phone call every couple months.

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
I get along with them fine for about an hour twice a year and a phone call every couple months.

College student or graduate? Career if graduate?

I've taken a lot of right steps to get into the television industry and I'm pretty much positive that's what I want to do. And if I don't make it then I'll become a teacher.

 

[Brackis]

What is your exact age and grade in school

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: Brackis
What is your exact age and grade in school

My exact age I do not know, but I'm approximately 16 and 7 or so months.

I'm only a sophomore but one option I may have is to move in with my aunt and uncle, so I wouldn't be leaving my area and I'd be able to stay on pace for all my AP classes and everything.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
I get along with them fine for about an hour twice a year and a phone call every couple months.

College student or graduate? Career if graduate?

I've taken a lot of right steps to get into the television industry and I'm pretty much positive that's what I want to do. And if I don't make it then I'll become a teacher.

Neither. I'm an uneducated retard.

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
I get along with them fine for about an hour twice a year and a phone call every couple months.

College student or graduate? Career if graduate?

I've taken a lot of right steps to get into the television industry and I'm pretty much positive that's what I want to do. And if I don't make it then I'll become a teacher.

Neither. I'm an uneducated retard.

So what's your living situation then? You moved out and it didn't work out well?

 

[Brackis]

If staying at home will help you financially then I would say stick with it. I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and dealing with when it comes to your dad's arguing.

 

[tami]

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: Brackis
What is your exact age and grade in school

My exact age I do not know, but I'm approximately 16 and 7 or so months.

I'm only a sophomore but one option I may have is to move in with my aunt and uncle, so I wouldn't be leaving my area and I'd be able to stay on pace for all my AP classes and everything.

maybe that's a good idea. 16 is a young age to be going out on your own. it's tougher than you think, and it may take a toll on your schoolwork.

good luck.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
I get along with them fine for about an hour twice a year and a phone call every couple months.

College student or graduate? Career if graduate?

I've taken a lot of right steps to get into the television industry and I'm pretty much positive that's what I want to do. And if I don't make it then I'll become a teacher.

Neither. I'm an uneducated retard.

So what's your living situation then? You moved out and it didn't work out well?

My living situation is fine. I'm 32, married, 1 child, own home, >60K salary, nice cars, money in the bank, I travel...........................................

YMMV though. You could be a fvcking idiot. I am the exception to the rule when it comes to not going to college/ graduating.

 

[desteffy]

I get along great with my parents. But they are really reasonable nice people, so if i didnt get along with them it would be my own fault.

From what I have seen happen in other peoples lives, i would suggest you stick it out, and make sure to go to a college far away. If you leave, the financial strain on you will be very large. Things like, being able to stay on your parents health insurance when you are in college, them helping you with your college costs if they do, them giving you a place to live and food to eat for now, etc.. will add up and be worth a lot of money to you.

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: Brackis
If staying at home will help you financially then I would say stick with it. I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and dealing with when it comes to your dad's arguing.

Eh, financially it will make no difference. Honestly I don't know why we have high-speed internet. We hardly have any food in the house, bills are never paid on time, and my dad is effectively unemployed.

What pisses me off is that he gets all defensive when I try to figure out a solution to things. Tonight he got mad at me because he said I ask constantly about when I'm going to be able to get my driver's license. There's much more to the story than meets the eye but I'll spare ATOT. I need to vent but this isn't the right place.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: Brackis
If staying at home will help you financially then I would say stick with it. I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and dealing with when it comes to your dad's arguing.

Eh, financially it will make no difference. Honestly I don't know why we have high-speed internet. We hardly have any food in the house, bills are never paid on time, and my dad is effectively unemployed.

What pisses me off is that he gets all defensive when I try to figure out a solution to things. Tonight he got mad at me because he said I ask constantly about when I'm going to be able to get my driver's license. There's much more to the story than meets the eye but I'll spare ATOT. I need to vent but this isn't the right place.

How can it not make a difference financially? Are you currently paying for everything?

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
I get along with them fine for about an hour twice a year and a phone call every couple months.

College student or graduate? Career if graduate?

I've taken a lot of right steps to get into the television industry and I'm pretty much positive that's what I want to do. And if I don't make it then I'll become a teacher.

Neither. I'm an uneducated retard.

So what's your living situation then? You moved out and it didn't work out well?

My living situation is fine. I'm 32, married, 1 child, own home, >60K salary, nice cars, money in the bank, I travel...........................................

YMMV though. You could be a fvcking idiot. I am the exception to the rule when it comes to not going to college/ graduating.

You're unemployed and make more than 60k a year?! Do tell.

 

[Brackis]

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: Brackis
If staying at home will help you financially then I would say stick with it. I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and dealing with when it comes to your dad's arguing.

Eh, financially it will make no difference. Honestly I don't know why we have high-speed internet. We hardly have any food in the house, bills are never paid on time, and my dad is effectively unemployed.

What pisses me off is that he gets all defensive when I try to figure out a solution to things. Tonight he got mad at me because he said I ask constantly about when I'm going to be able to get my driver's license. There's much more to the story than meets the eye but I'll spare ATOT. I need to vent but this isn't the right place.

Again, I know the feeling. Your dad is probably feeling defensive because he is unemployed (previous job was...?). When my dad was working out the house making minimal amounts of cash on some property management he was annoyed a lot.

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: Brackis
If staying at home will help you financially then I would say stick with it. I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and dealing with when it comes to your dad's arguing.

Eh, financially it will make no difference. Honestly I don't know why we have high-speed internet. We hardly have any food in the house, bills are never paid on time, and my dad is effectively unemployed.

What pisses me off is that he gets all defensive when I try to figure out a solution to things. Tonight he got mad at me because he said I ask constantly about when I'm going to be able to get my driver's license. There's much more to the story than meets the eye but I'll spare ATOT. I need to vent but this isn't the right place.

How can it not make a difference financially? Are you currently paying for everything?

No, but up until recently we never had health insurance, and may lose it again very shortly. I don't have to have cable tv or internet, and like I said the option is to move in with my aunt and uncle so I'd still be under a roof and able to save money. My other option is to move in with a friend and his roomate (both are 30) and save up there. I'd pay some rent but not much.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
I get along with them fine for about an hour twice a year and a phone call every couple months.

College student or graduate? Career if graduate?

I've taken a lot of right steps to get into the television industry and I'm pretty much positive that's what I want to do. And if I don't make it then I'll become a teacher.

Neither. I'm an uneducated retard.

So what's your living situation then? You moved out and it didn't work out well?

My living situation is fine. I'm 32, married, 1 child, own home, >60K salary, nice cars, money in the bank, I travel...........................................

YMMV though. You could be a fvcking idiot. I am the exception to the rule when it comes to not going to college/ graduating.

You're unemployed and make more than 60k a year?! Do tell.

I missed the part where I said I was unemployed.

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: Brackis

Again, I know the feeling. Your dad is probably feeling defensive because he is unemployed (previous job was...?). When my dad was working out the house making minimal amounts of cash on some property management he was annoyed a lot.

He was and somewhat still is a self-employed lawyer. But the bar revoked his license because someone filed a complaint against him and he didn't file a response. His reasoning was that this had happened once 11 years ago and cost him something like $2000 out-of-pocket for the investigation even though he did nothing wrong, and this time it would've been $4000 or so.

My statement when this came up several months ago was that $4000 isn't as much as we've lost and are going to continue to lose. He got all defensive with me then too saying how he doesn't need to be lectured.

He talks about his blood pressure rising and all this, but honestly at this pace if I don't have a heart attack by the time I'm 25 it'll be a miracle.

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
I get along with them fine for about an hour twice a year and a phone call every couple months.

College student or graduate? Career if graduate?

I've taken a lot of right steps to get into the television industry and I'm pretty much positive that's what I want to do. And if I don't make it then I'll become a teacher.

Neither. I'm an uneducated retard.

So what's your living situation then? You moved out and it didn't work out well?

My living situation is fine. I'm 32, married, 1 child, own home, >60K salary, nice cars, money in the bank, I travel...........................................

YMMV though. You could be a fvcking idiot. I am the exception to the rule when it comes to not going to college/ graduating.

You're unemployed and make more than 60k a year?! Do tell.

I missed the part where I said I was unemployed.

Well I guess I worded my original question badly. When I asked your career you didn't state one so I wasn't sure.

What is your profession?

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: Brackis
If staying at home will help you financially then I would say stick with it. I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and dealing with when it comes to your dad's arguing.

Eh, financially it will make no difference. Honestly I don't know why we have high-speed internet. We hardly have any food in the house, bills are never paid on time, and my dad is effectively unemployed.

What pisses me off is that he gets all defensive when I try to figure out a solution to things. Tonight he got mad at me because he said I ask constantly about when I'm going to be able to get my driver's license. There's much more to the story than meets the eye but I'll spare ATOT. I need to vent but this isn't the right place.

How can it not make a difference financially? Are you currently paying for everything?

No, but up until recently we never had health insurance, and may lose it again very shortly. I don't have to have cable tv or internet, and like I said the option is to move in with my aunt and uncle so I'd still be under a roof and able to save money. My other option is to move in with a friend and his roomate (both are 30) and save up there. I'd pay some rent but not much.

If people will take you in and provide a better enviroment by all means do so.

However what your feeling is almost "normal".
I would yell at you to if you tried to offer solutions to my financial situation.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

I missed the part where I said I was unemployed.[/quote]

Well I guess I worded my original question badly. When I asked your career you didn't state one so I wasn't sure.

What is your profession?[/quote]

I am an A&P mechanic/ inspector.

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: Brackis
If staying at home will help you financially then I would say stick with it. I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and dealing with when it comes to your dad's arguing.

Eh, financially it will make no difference. Honestly I don't know why we have high-speed internet. We hardly have any food in the house, bills are never paid on time, and my dad is effectively unemployed.

What pisses me off is that he gets all defensive when I try to figure out a solution to things. Tonight he got mad at me because he said I ask constantly about when I'm going to be able to get my driver's license. There's much more to the story than meets the eye but I'll spare ATOT. I need to vent but this isn't the right place.

How can it not make a difference financially? Are you currently paying for everything?

No, but up until recently we never had health insurance, and may lose it again very shortly. I don't have to have cable tv or internet, and like I said the option is to move in with my aunt and uncle so I'd still be under a roof and able to save money. My other option is to move in with a friend and his roomate (both are 30) and save up there. I'd pay some rent but not much.

If people will take you in and provide a better enviroment by all means do so.

However what your feeling is almost "normal".
I would yell at you to if you tried to offer solutions to my financial situation.

My father has never been a part of my life from the time I was young because he was too busy "working." Obviously he wasn't working if we are where we are now. I'd say I'm pretty fvcking angry at him for the way he's made my life turn out so far. I will never know what it's like to be a carefree teenager as most of my friends are, and it makes me absolutely furious when he does NOTHING to solve the problem.

If there's a problem and you don't want to solve it, that's just fvcking immature imo.

 

[Landroval]

We get along fine now. Took a while for that to be effortless, but it was worth it.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: Brackis

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: Brackis
If staying at home will help you financially then I would say stick with it. I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and dealing with when it comes to your dad's arguing.

Eh, financially it will make no difference. Honestly I don't know why we have high-speed internet. We hardly have any food in the house, bills are never paid on time, and my dad is effectively unemployed.

What pisses me off is that he gets all defensive when I try to figure out a solution to things. Tonight he got mad at me because he said I ask constantly about when I'm going to be able to get my driver's license. There's much more to the story than meets the eye but I'll spare ATOT. I need to vent but this isn't the right place.

Again, I know the feeling. Your dad is probably feeling defensive because he is unemployed (previous job was...?). When my dad was working out the house making minimal amounts of cash on some property management he was annoyed a lot.

agreed. sounds like he may be disappointed in himself, and when you try to help solve the problem(although youre intentions are good), it just makes him feel worse and he lashes out. i pride myself in providing for my family, and would hate to think i was letting them down. maybe you could just let go of trying to help, and he will ease up on you.

of courses, it sounds much deeper than that and without details i cant really give any sound advice. good luck.

i got along fairly well with my parents, even though we both put each other through some crazy sh!t (foster home in elementary school for minor abuse, taking care of my parapalegic father in high school) aside from the normal growing up stuff. but lifes not always peachy, and youre parents are only human, too.

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: Brackis

Originally posted by: aplefka

Originally posted by: Brackis
If staying at home will help you financially then I would say stick with it. I know EXACTLY what you are feeling and dealing with when it comes to your dad's arguing.

Eh, financially it will make no difference. Honestly I don't know why we have high-speed internet. We hardly have any food in the house, bills are never paid on time, and my dad is effectively unemployed.

What pisses me off is that he gets all defensive when I try to figure out a solution to things. Tonight he got mad at me because he said I ask constantly about when I'm going to be able to get my driver's license. There's much more to the story than meets the eye but I'll spare ATOT. I need to vent but this isn't the right place.

Again, I know the feeling. Your dad is probably feeling defensive because he is unemployed (previous job was...?). When my dad was working out the house making minimal amounts of cash on some property management he was annoyed a lot.

agreed. sounds like he may be disappointed in himself, and when you try to help solve the problem(although youre intentions are good), it just makes him feel worse and he lashes out. i pride myself in providing for my family, and would hate to think i was letting them down. maybe you could just let go of trying to help, and he will ease up on you.

of courses, it sounds much deeper than that and without details i cant really give any sound advice. good luck.

i got along fairly well with my parents, even though we both put each other through some crazy sh!t (foster home in elementary school for minor abuse, taking care of my parapalegic father in high school) aside from the normal growing up stuff. but lifes not always peachy, and youre parents are only human, too.

He complained for so long about how he always felt alone in the family and so when I tried to open up to him this is what happened. See my above post about how he does nothing to remedy the situation, just says the he's trying, which is total bullsh1t.